Are only childs more likely to be high maintenance?

[Casablanca]

Just let it be known this can apply to both genders, I'm gonna approach it from the male perspective b/c well, I have a penis

 

Of all the women who I have dated, the two that were an only child are the two that were higher maintenance, that it was their way and that they didnt like to compromise as often as other women who were not an only child. These are also the only two women who never offered to pay for dinner, though one didnt have a job while in school, she did at least get the tips.

 

Has anyone noticed this? It makes sense, they didnt have to share as much growing up more than likely because they didnt have any siblings. And this isnt necessarily a bad thing having a little bit of a maintenance fee (as one of those two women I dated for a long time, and as long as there was a connection I didnt mind her being a little high maintenance at times).

[Daremo_06]

I am curious to what the answers might be for this myself. I just got out of a relationship with an only child, however she also has issues stemming from abuse by her father. She was definitely high maintenance, but I also believe she bought into the "I'm an only child and therefore its ok for me to be selfish" too much. It seemed like she used it as a crutch and an excuse to be selfish and not feel guilty about it.

[carhill]

So far I haven't seen any discernible correlation, but I imagine there have been some scientific studies about only children which reveal relevant aspects.

 

I would opine that it is more the family environment rather than the number of children which brings compatibility in the realm of 'maintenance'.

 

Anecdotally, I can share that my exW sometimes used the 'you're an only child and got everything you wanted' stereotypical shaming tactic when she wanted something and I wasn't immediately agreeable, essentially imputing guilt in myself over the disparity of our family histories to reach a certain goal she was pursuing. I've solved this issue by eliminating such disparities from the dating pool, meaning I won't become involved with women who have disparate family backgrounds where evidence of those backgrounds continuing can be seen in the present. Life is too short.

[iris219]

I’m an only child and (partly) because of that I’m incredibly independent, but not high maintenance at all. I have difficulty letting others do things for me and I don’t expect others to go out of their way for me. Because I'm so self-sufficient, I have difficulty compromising (I don’t believe in it really—I don’t want anyone to make compromises for me and I don’t want anyone to expect this of me). Luckily, I'm pretty agreeable most of the time.

[Casablanca]

It is a case by case thing, I know someone who is the third of three daughters and is very spoiled, it all depends on your up bringing, but I would think an only child is more likely to be spoiled as a child than someone with siblings.