stab17 Posted November 27, 2011 Posted November 27, 2011 Today, my girlfriend calls me to meet up somewhere because she wanted to talk. She mentioned that she wanted a break due to school (she said she doesn't have the time to give me the attention i want) and trust issues (I will explain it in a bit). A couple weeks back, she mentioned to me that she was going to have coffee with her male co-worker the night before she went. I didn't know this guy at all and i was becoming uneasy, but I agreed that she can go. On the day she went, she didn't even text me when she left so her mom texts me asking if i knew where she was (I was at work so my texts were quick and didn't give much thought to it). This is where i ****ed up, even though i knew she was going for coffee with a guy, i txted her mom "don't know". She was worried about her so I called her, first call goes to voicemail and the second call seems like she turned off her phone (straight to voicemail). Her mom finally texts me back and she said she was out with (a girl's name), I guess a miscommunication. So i got a little curious and i kept asking her mom to make sure. However, when my girlfriend arrived home, she told her mom she went out with the guy. I guess I overreacted. What really bothers me is the following weeks that threw me off. We agreed not to see each other on Saturday, one of the days we usually see each other because it was her mom's birthday. But talking the next day, we got into a little argument. She texts me a few minutes later saying I can't see you Tuesday. I asked why, she said I have so much schoolwork. I didn't know whether to be mad or to support her because I thought she was just doing that because of our argument. Fast forward today and this is when she wanted to have a break. I know I really ****ed up, but is "trust" the reason she wants to have a break? I am so heartbroken right now. However, she did say she wanted us to speak with each other to better our communication. I am so in love with this girl and I don't want to lose her. I feel like I really didn't do anything wrong to deserve this. What can I do to make her want to see me again? Do breaks usually end badly?
carhill Posted November 27, 2011 Posted November 27, 2011 Welcome to LS You sound young, what with 'school' and 'mom'. Go get another girlfriend. What you just learned is how young ladies rationalize their feelings. She's interested in seeing what else is out there for her. Nothing wrong with that. She put it into words which paved the way smoothly. Get prepared for a lifetime of that.
Author stab17 Posted November 27, 2011 Author Posted November 27, 2011 Welcome to LS You sound young, what with 'school' and 'mom'. Go get another girlfriend. What you just learned is how young ladies rationalize their feelings. She's interested in seeing what else is out there for her. Nothing wrong with that. She put it into words which paved the way smoothly. Get prepared for a lifetime of that. Ok thanks, yes I am pretty young (21). I just have a good relationship with her mom, but what she is essentially saying is she wants to break up? even though she wants us to talk even thought we're on a break? i am so confused, sorry
carhill Posted November 27, 2011 Posted November 27, 2011 She wants the 'milk' (your attention, admiration and desire) without buying the cow (being in a relationship with you). This is normal for young women who aren't yet mature, as well as for broken women. My bet is she's the former. Teach her how to treat a man properly
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