NYC-BigKat Posted November 26, 2011 Posted November 26, 2011 At the thanksgiving get together w/ my fam everyone was having a good time except me . I did get to talking & stuff w/ people but I wanted to get w/ this girl there & every time I tried she excused herself. Im thinking it was my politeness not sure. My uncle was there & he has alot of issues but women keep talking to him anyway like he drinks whole alot & gets moody & edgy but he always has alot of interested women around & he isn't very polite. He even left out w/ one of the girls there . Idk what to do about this because the only women that like my politeness is my aunts & cousins or something. Thats not good. My cousin told me on thanksgiving & again yesterday that I need to stop being so nice & get an edge somehow so a girl can find me more interesting. Not sure how to do it.
FitChick Posted November 27, 2011 Posted November 27, 2011 If you only want to attract women with low self-esteem then go for it.
dasein Posted November 27, 2011 Posted November 27, 2011 Women prefer men who don't care too much too fast, everyone likes a bit of a challenge as opposed to things that fall in their lap without effort.
Ninjainpajamas Posted November 27, 2011 Posted November 27, 2011 My advice is to slap a bitch, that really turns them on. If you want the real advice that is truthful and not idealistic, yes, you should be more of a jerk and care a lot less, you will get more attention. Why women don't like nice guys: - It doesn't remind them of their ****ed up childhood or unloving relationship with their dad - Women are jaded and typically like men who treated them like **** like their ex's - If you make it too easy then women feel like you aren't really the right guy...it's like when you go to the store, you determine the quality of something by the price if you don't know jack **** about it. - Many women have issues, and therefore they like to try and fix men with issues to make themselves feel better....aka play the psychologist and rescuer I know people will tell you to be a nice guy and be true to yourself, but I can assure that these people will not be sleeping with you or are related. Get a chip on your shoulder, don't give women the time of day and attention, and always....always, remain completely confident ESPECIALLY if you make an ass out of yoruself. Women cannot tell the different between real confidence and blind confidence so don't get too worried. However if you are looking for an intelligent woman and not a bar whore these tactics will not work well. More intelligent independent women don't typically fall for the same bullcrap, or at least you gotta be slicker about it than the norm. Sorry bud! but anyone telling you any different isn't worried about you getting laid. You can join a religious group and marry a nice girl there if you want morally driven women.
Woggle Posted November 27, 2011 Posted November 27, 2011 If you want a screwed up woman with loads of issues then be a jerk. I agree with those who say it reminds them of a messed up childhood and that is why a good relationship with their father is a plus. Fathers matter as much to daughters as they do sons.
Author NYC-BigKat Posted November 27, 2011 Author Posted November 27, 2011 If you want a screwed up woman with loads of issues then be a jerk. I agree with those who say it reminds them of a messed up childhood and that is why a good relationship with their father is a plus. Fathers matter as much to daughters as they do sons. Thanks guys! I got to talking to my cousin yesterday on the phone & he's w/ ya'll on this stuff. He tells me that most of the pretty girls have issues so I got to work w/ that to get a chance. I ask him why do they have the issues & he says he dont know but the lesser pretty girls dont have much issues so I guess I'm gonna try this out & see if it works.
grkBoy Posted November 27, 2011 Posted November 27, 2011 The secret is to be RESPECTFUL, not polite. There is a difference between some "dork" who acts all "prim and proper" versus a confident male who does the gentleman thing with sophistication and confidence. Just be loose, confident, be yourself. Don't worry so much if the girl isn't into you. Don't hound her, but instead have a good time and be the interesting sociable guy that women are drawn to. You don't have to be a jerk, but you have to be a man.
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