Author Mark1 Posted November 27, 2011 Author Posted November 27, 2011 There is no telling if that is what he was even going for when he said friends...she may have just instigated it to "get him" Any update mark? Got a reply saying: "So, we can't be friends? I was never trying to be more than that. What...."
Emilia Posted November 27, 2011 Posted November 27, 2011 Got a reply saying: "So, we can't be friends? I was never trying to be more than that. What...." You should talk to her on the phone and tell her firmly but politely that the two of you are too different and that you don't want contact anymore. Don't tell her why you are different just say that you don't see a point in keeping in touch.
Author Mark1 Posted November 27, 2011 Author Posted November 27, 2011 I'm just awaiting the, "Why do you hate me?" text...
Art_Critic Posted November 27, 2011 Posted November 27, 2011 Mark.. you wouldn't be getting these question texts if you had just picked up the phone and talked to her like you told her you were going to do. This is what happens when a person cheaps out and breaks up via text with someone you actually know..
Author Mark1 Posted November 27, 2011 Author Posted November 27, 2011 Mark.. you wouldn't be getting these question texts if you had just picked up the phone and talked to her like you told her you were going to do. This is what happens when a person cheaps out and breaks up via text with someone you actually know.. Is is really "breaking up" if I haven't seen her in about 6 weeks?
Art_Critic Posted November 27, 2011 Posted November 27, 2011 Is is really "breaking up" if I haven't seen her in about 6 weeks? You are splitting hairs... You see the results first hand.. what could you have done to change things ?
Art_Critic Posted November 27, 2011 Posted November 27, 2011 Even ridding yourself of a friendship that there isn't any bad blood but a desire by the other side to get closer should have been done at the very least by a phone call.
Author Mark1 Posted November 28, 2011 Author Posted November 28, 2011 Hmm, she hasn't texted be again. Maybe she's finally getting the hint.
Author Mark1 Posted November 30, 2011 Author Posted November 30, 2011 Ha. She deleted her facebook, and her heading on plenty of fish reads, "ready to give up" That's headline isn't sure fire way to not scare a guy off, or anything. LOL!
Author Mark1 Posted December 3, 2011 Author Posted December 3, 2011 On one hand, I'm happier she isn't in my life, on the other hand, I think about her a lot.
cerridwen Posted December 3, 2011 Posted December 3, 2011 On one hand, I'm happier she isn't in my life, on the other hand, I think about her a lot. And on the third hand, she should be with someone who really cares about her. It's for the best, all the way around.
Anela Posted December 3, 2011 Posted December 3, 2011 Ha. She deleted her facebook, and her heading on plenty of fish reads, "ready to give up" That's headline isn't sure fire way to not scare a guy off, or anything. LOL! I've been feeling like her, too. My self-esteem has been knocked, big time, and I'm feeling more PO'd right now, about how much of this year has been wasted by my feeling like crap - after I let someone back into my life, for a while, that I should have cut out of my life two years ago. So, I don't find your comment funny. It is better that she finds someone who actually cares for her, but maybe you could point a few things out to her, just like the above (without laughing). At first, she might take it as an attack, but it should sink in at some point.
Anela Posted December 3, 2011 Posted December 3, 2011 It wasn't that I wanted NSA oral sex, but good lord, she was clingly. "do you like me?" "do you think im pretty?" "will i ever find the one, mark?" "tell me you think im pretty" "do you think im gorgeous?" "am i your best friend" CONSTANTLY. If she was normal, I could still be friends with her. She has feelings, and it sounds like she's feeling rough - not feeling good about herself. That doesn't sound abnormal, but it would be tough on her if you were friends, she still had feelings, and you found somebody else first.
dasein Posted December 3, 2011 Posted December 3, 2011 This girl sounds dangerous, as in "impregnate herself with your sperm from a BJ and strap you for 18 years" dangerous. Call her and cut all ties immediately and cleanly then go pure NC. Don't feel bad, just do it. Let her go get comfort from the other dudes she is sleeping with.
Anela Posted December 3, 2011 Posted December 3, 2011 Even ridding yourself of a friendship that there isn't any bad blood but a desire by the other side to get closer should have been done at the very least by a phone call. I agree with you.
Author Mark1 Posted December 3, 2011 Author Posted December 3, 2011 This girl sounds dangerous, as in "impregnate herself with your sperm from a BJ and strap you for 18 years" dangerous. Oh lord....please tell me this isn't possible lol
Author Mark1 Posted December 3, 2011 Author Posted December 3, 2011 Well golly gee, it's a mystery as to why the tide changed. You just wanted "friendship" - and a blowjob. Only an idiot crosses the "friendship" line and expects NOTHING to change. Maybe next time when you just want a "friend," you can pull all your focus off your d*ck for a huge change - think you can do that? Well golly gee, I didn't give the blowjob to myself.
dasein Posted December 3, 2011 Posted December 3, 2011 Oh lord....please tell me this isn't possible lol It absolutely is. Once sperm leaves your body, you have to guard that stuff like toxic waste. I've seen this type you are involved with before, even dated some of them. They decide "it's time," and then get sexually active with several guys, clinging to all of them, and the next time you see them, they are five months pregnant with a sucker in tow. They float "I'm pregnant" lies with all the guys they are sleeping with and the one who responds with the most chivalry becomes the "lucky winner"... of 18 years of servitude. Is it possible that your girl is just naturally clingy and was legitimately concerned about pregnancy? Absolutely, but it's a very real risk today that you and all young men need to be cognizant of.
Author Mark1 Posted December 3, 2011 Author Posted December 3, 2011 It absolutely is. Once sperm leaves your body, you have to guard that stuff like toxic waste. I've seen this type you are involved with before, even dated some of them. They decide "it's time," and then get sexually active with several guys, clinging to all of them, and the next time you see them, they are five months pregnant with a sucker in tow. They float "I'm pregnant" lies with all the guys they are sleeping with and the one who responds with the most chivalry becomes the "lucky winner"... of 18 years of servitude. Is it possible that your girl is just naturally clingy and was legitimately concerned about pregnancy? Absolutely, but it's a very real risk today that you and all young men need to be cognizant of. Well, fortunately we did not have intercourse. But I will keep this in mind, thakn you.
betterdeal Posted December 3, 2011 Posted December 3, 2011 Maybe you could tell her you feel pressured and you'd appreciate it if she backed off a bit, thus making it clear to her what you feel. Seems like a good start.
Meeks7 Posted December 3, 2011 Posted December 3, 2011 This is why I don't hook up. I only sleep with my girlfriends. Hooking up causes the chance of this horror becoming a reality. You gotta be honest, and direct. Be a man, and tell her in a gentle yet firm manner. And don't hook up in the future unless you want to go through more situations like this.
Author Mark1 Posted December 3, 2011 Author Posted December 3, 2011 Maybe you could tell her you feel pressured and you'd appreciate it if she backed off a bit, thus making it clear to her what you feel. Seems like a good start. She hasn't contacted me since I make this thread, so I think I am safe.
Meeks7 Posted December 4, 2011 Posted December 4, 2011 She hasn't contacted me since I make this thread, so I think I am safe. As I found out with clingers, she'll be back. She'll give you some breathing space, thinking if she does you'll come back to your senses. These things rarely go away. You just need to have a direct conversation with her. Keep it brief, don't waver. It's like putting an old dog to sleep. Don't delay, don't stretch it out. For everybody's sake, get it over with.
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