Author PlumPrincess Posted November 26, 2011 Author Posted November 26, 2011 If you're so determined, tell me what you like about him, besides the obvious care and concern he has for others. He is smart, sweet, considerate in a very sincere way, always cheerful despite having a job with a lot of responsibility, a good communicator. He's also cute, honest, reliable, polite. He will always say thank you, when you do something for him. If you want to get something done, he's the man for it. He doesn't whine or complain when he encounters a problem, but instead will look for a way to resolve it. And when he makes a mistake, he will admit it and apologize, no buts and ifs.
FitChick Posted November 27, 2011 Posted November 27, 2011 What do you know about the girlfriend? Have you met her? You'd be better off asking him to fix you up on a blind date with friends or relatives of his saying, "My type is someone like you but who is available." That's about as far as I'd go, frankly. Who knows -- you might get someone better. It's awkward dating a coworker in the best of circumstances.
whichwayisup Posted November 27, 2011 Posted November 27, 2011 (edited) Yeah, right. I'm going to give him a full-blown confession of all my mushy feelings for him. Right in front of my other co-workers and my boss. In the middle of a meeting. Dressed in the most slutty dress I could find in my wardrobe. And then I'll have a nervous breakdown when he rejects and laughs at me. Right. I really don't see anything wrong with what I'm doing. I have neither touched him in any inappropriate way nor have I tried to instigate an emotional affair and I am not going to. I like your sarcasm. Anyway, good luck with that. I think you're making a mistake by telling him how you feel about him.. It could come and bite you in the ass, but hey, it's your life. PS Nosey co workers gossip, so if some know you're into him, it won't be long before gets out. Even more so if HE himself, tells someone that you confessed how you feel, knowing that he has a girlfriend. Edited November 27, 2011 by whichwayisup
ThsAmericanLife Posted November 27, 2011 Posted November 27, 2011 Call me an idealist....I don't want anything that was gotten by trickery or manipulation. I don't want any man who can be easily lured away by the false promise of greener pastures... and it IS false. It is only a matter of time before any man finds your 'flaws'. If he is the type to be easily led astray, then that time you've invested in him is worse than wasted... and he will dump you the minute things become inconvenient for him. Some people like a challenge. Some people are jealous and envious of other people's happiness and enjoy nothing more than trying to break someone up in order to feed their own ego. I don't have too many nice things to say about those people. If a man leaves a relationship on it's own merits... fine. However, I want nothing to do with causing that rift.
Author PlumPrincess Posted November 27, 2011 Author Posted November 27, 2011 I like your sarcasm. Anyway, good luck with that. I think you're making a mistake by telling him how you feel about him.. It could come and bite you in the ass, but hey, it's your life. PS Nosey co workers gossip, so if some know you're into him, it won't be long before gets out. Even more so if HE himself, tells someone that you confessed how you feel, knowing that he has a girlfriend. I am really not going to confess anything to him. Even if he did like me, he's going to reject me, because what else could he do? He's in a relationship. And I personally am not interested in affairs either, too much drama and emotional turmoil. I want to let him know that I think he is great and that's all. There's no reason to say explicitly to him that I want him as my boyfriend. If he likes me, he'll pick up the idea behind it. If he doesn't like me, then it doesn't really matter. If I mention mediocre relationships in general, that might give him a reason to think about his own relationship. If his relationship is great, then there's no reason for his girlfriend to worry about it. If the relationship is indeed mediocre, then would anybody really recommend him to stay? And besides, if I pushed him to break up with his girlfriend and start something with me, I'd feel responsible for the breakup and the success of our relationship and I'd rather not.
MrNate 2.0 Posted November 27, 2011 Posted November 27, 2011 Call me an idealist....I don't want anything that was gotten by trickery or manipulation. I don't want any man who can be easily lured away by the false promise of greener pastures... and it IS false. It is only a matter of time before any man finds your 'flaws'. If he is the type to be easily led astray, then that time you've invested in him is worse than wasted... and he will dump you the minute things become inconvenient for him. Some people like a challenge. Some people are jealous and envious of other people's happiness and enjoy nothing more than trying to break someone up in order to feed their own ego. I don't have too many nice things to say about those people. If a man leaves a relationship on it's own merits... fine. However, I want nothing to do with causing that rift. Great point, AL. That's why I think she'll be fine with just some light flirting but nothing heavy. Because after all, if he's pulled away that easy. How long would it be before another woman pulled him way again, ha. You got it plum, just do you and keep things chill. P.S. You have beautiful hair, TAL.
ThsAmericanLife Posted November 27, 2011 Posted November 27, 2011 P.S. You have beautiful hair, TAL. ha,ha... you know that's part of my halloween costume, right? It's a wig. Pretty cool though. I had fun with it. My real hair is pretty awesome. Something I've been quite vain about since HS... it's like, biblical how awesome my real hair is... many a man has been made weak in the knees over it... no wonder why some religions dictate that women cover their hair. They were thinking of me... (alright, I hope everyone caught the sarcasm in that!!).. and how are you Mr. hotness?
MrNate 2.0 Posted November 27, 2011 Posted November 27, 2011 (edited) ha,ha... you know that's part of my halloween costume, right? It's a wig. Pretty cool though. I had fun with it. My real hair is pretty awesome. Something I've been quite vain about since HS... it's like, biblical how awesome my real hair is... many a man has been made weak in the knees over it... no wonder why some religions dictate that women cover their hair. They were thinking of me... (alright, I hope everyone caught the sarcasm in that!!).. and how are you Mr. hotness? haha, 'the glory of the man is the woman. the glory of a woman is her hair.' I'm sure your real hair is pretty cool as well, at least from what I've seen. As for me, I'm doing pretty awesome beautiful..except for this terrible weather down here.. It's been hot/cold/rainy/hot/cold.. so it's keeping me sick ha. I'm kind of struggling.:cool: Edited November 27, 2011 by MrNate 2.0
Author PlumPrincess Posted November 27, 2011 Author Posted November 27, 2011 Ok, I gave it some thought and decided that I need to concentrate on guys who are single and not on someone who is unavailable. He does like me, but we're not even close to being friends. If I have figured out on my own that he is attractive and someone I'd like to date, then he can do that with me on his own, too.
whichwayisup Posted November 27, 2011 Posted November 27, 2011 Ok, I gave it some thought and decided that I need to concentrate on guys who are single and not on someone who is unavailable. He does like me, but we're not even close to being friends. If I have figured out on my own that he is attractive and someone I'd like to date, then he can do that with me on his own, too. Glad to hear this PP!
MrNate 2.0 Posted November 27, 2011 Posted November 27, 2011 Ok, I gave it some thought and decided that I need to concentrate on guys who are single and not on someone who is unavailable. He does like me, but we're not even close to being friends. If I have figured out on my own that he is attractive and someone I'd like to date, then he can do that with me on his own, too. Ha, sounds good. Good luck girl.
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