StewT Posted November 26, 2011 Posted November 26, 2011 I know you people have probably heard this a million times but here is my current situation. I've been dating my girlfriend for about 3 and a half years. I've been completely loyal to her and tbh this is my first serious relationship, my girlfriend is at University and im working full time, so i've been trying to save as much money to see her whenever I can, which is usually about 4 days at a time every 2 or 3 weeks. I recently found out through her Facebook that she had kissed someone else. I don't know if there is anything more, but when i confronted her about it, she told me it was just a kiss and that she was just being a stupid bitch. Prefferably I would have preffered her to own up to it and to be honest with me about it, rather then having to read it elsewhere. However her excuse was that she was "scared". Im in love with this girl and as much as I want to forgive her, I keep on having second thoughts, even knightmares on the other possibilities that she could still be cheating on me! Its my birthday tommorow and i'm going to Amsterdam, obviously i'm not going to do anything stupid to get my own back, because I'm better then that. I just don't know whether I should get rid of her before she breaks my heart again or whether I should give her another chance to find out that it is probably a mistake 10years down the line from now or whatever. Also I've found out other stuff that she has slipped up on, I've noticed she has been messsaging some guy talk about nudity and stuff, which really got me angry and when i asked her why she doesn't talk about this stuff to me, she tells me that im always too busy or too tired... so i don't really know what to do, the reason i am busy and tired is because im trtying to work as hard as i can so i can save the money to see her. Thanks for any help and advice sorry for the messy first post!
Ginger Beer Posted November 27, 2011 Posted November 27, 2011 Doesn't sound like she's shown much remorse over it. It's likely she's done more than you know about, being at Uni and you being away. If she came clean immediately it'd show she's sorry at least. Honestly, it doesn't sound like she cares about you or accepts responsibility. I can understand it'll be hard but your only option is to end it and go NC.
nofool4u Posted November 28, 2011 Posted November 28, 2011 I recently found out through her Facebook that she had kissed someone else. Enough said, dump her.
RiverRunning Posted November 28, 2011 Posted November 28, 2011 She didn't issue a genuine apology for her behavior. She tried justifying it. She's also engaged in inappropriate behavior with other people. Statistically speaking, affairs jump up around the three year mark. The 'spark' of the initial romance has worn off, and people are eager to get it back. There may be long-term resentments in the relationship. It doesn't sound like this issue is going to resolve for you, if she is indeed upset about the time/energy you're putting into work. She is looking to stray. Help her out. Leave her.
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