Mark1 Posted November 26, 2011 Posted November 26, 2011 I met a woman on a dating site; I can post pictures of her, but I don't know if that is within the rules. Anways, I didn't think much of her (aside from the fact that she was very pretty), until my buddy saw a picture of her and said, "dude, I think that may be a tranny." Reasons why I am suspicious: -6 feet tall -Deep voice -Dating profile questionaire says its "okay" for men to wear makeup and that she/he has had sex with same gender Reasons why I think I am safe: -No adams apple -Doesn't like sports -Really into me -Turns me on -Incredibly nice -Boobs look real I am not trolling here, I wish I was. I am seeing her again next week, is there any way to know for sure? I'm thinking of making out with her and grabbing her crotch?
Mrlonelyone Posted November 26, 2011 Posted November 26, 2011 Odds are if she thinks it's a serious relationship she will tell you long before you are in crotch grabbing range. None of the things you pointed out are diagnositc of a transsexual. Some are short, some are tall. Many many look 100% like women.
Author Mark1 Posted November 26, 2011 Author Posted November 26, 2011 Never buy a car without a test drive. lol I don't intend on marrying this woman; she is 34, I am 22.
Mrlonelyone Posted November 26, 2011 Posted November 26, 2011 One more thing, even if only 1% of all natural born women are 6ft or over, that's still 1,500,000 women in the USA who are that tall. While perhaps 1/1500 male births leads to a transsexual woman, that's 200,000 male to female transsexual women. The odds favor the woman not being transgender. That said, why would you not want to date this person if they turn you on, are hot, and all the things you said? Especially if they are post op and have a hole instead of a pole? What difference does it make?
ChessPieceFace Posted November 26, 2011 Posted November 26, 2011 why would you not want to date this person if they turn you on, are hot, and all the things you said? Especially if they are post op and have a hole instead of a pole? What difference does it make? Comments like the above are another example of why humans will become extinct.
oaks Posted November 26, 2011 Posted November 26, 2011 I am not trolling here, I wish I was. I am seeing her again next week, is there any way to know for sure? I'm thinking of making out with her and grabbing her crotch? So you grab her crotch, she grabs yours, you get all excited, you go back to her place. What happens next? Not sure that the best way to resolve your question is with a sexually escalating move! Posting her photo here is probably against the Community Guidelines... I can't remember, but they're linked from further up the page so you can check for yourself. Ask your buddy why he thinks she's a tranny - maybe he has more experience of this than you (or maybe he doesn't). Anyway, to answer your specific question, no, there isn't a way to know for sure while she's got her clothes on short of doing some sort of DNA / chromosome analysis, or something similar, in a lab. (I'm not sure there's a guaranteed way of telling when she's got her clothes off, either, but I'm guessing you're hoping to find out before getting that far!)
Author Mark1 Posted November 26, 2011 Author Posted November 26, 2011 Comments like the above are another example of why humans will become extinct. what do u mean by this?
ShannonMI Posted November 26, 2011 Posted November 26, 2011 I met a woman on a dating site; I can post pictures of her, but I don't know if that is within the rules. Anways, I didn't think much of her (aside from the fact that she was very pretty), until my buddy saw a picture of her and said, "dude, I think that may be a tranny." Reasons why I am suspicious: -6 feet tall -Deep voice -Dating profile questionaire says its "okay" for men to wear makeup and that she/he has had sex with same gender Reasons why I think I am safe: -No adams apple -Doesn't like sports -Really into me -Turns me on -Incredibly nice -Boobs look real I am not trolling here, I wish I was. I am seeing her again next week, is there any way to know for sure? I'm thinking of making out with her and grabbing her crotch? Why don't you just come out and ask her? You're going to makeout with her, grab her crotch and find out she has a penis? What are you going to do then? Freak out I would imagine. Why don't you just be a man and open your mouth? Say I was curious as to why you have such a deep voice and your views on men wearing makeup and such. See what she says. And your list of "I'm safe" things is a bit naive. Transgenders tend to have surgery to remove their adams apple. Along with surgery to remove brow ridges and strong jaw lines. They take female hormones to grow breasts or they get implants. Her not liking sports doesn't mean a thing. She's into you means she isn't a transgender? Oh ok. So transgendered people don't have normal feels like normal human beings? They can't be attracted and "into" someone? Come on now, honey. Lets say she is a male to female transgender. Please be a man and be nice to her. If dating her is not your thing, then don't. Don't flip out and do something stupid. Liking her and being attracted to her does not take away from how manly you are, ok? Just remember that. And also remember she's a human being and has feelings just like everyone else. She's trying to live her life as best she can. So respect that and be nice.
ShannonMI Posted November 26, 2011 Posted November 26, 2011 Comments like the above are another example of why humans will become extinct. You aren't a very tolerant person are you? You must hate gays as well. So what if the girl is a transgender and the guy has a relationship with her? If he likes her, he likes her. People should do what makes them happy, not what society and close minded people deem proper and appropriate. Life is too short. Live it how you want to live it. As long as you aren't hurting others.
Jynxx Posted November 26, 2011 Posted November 26, 2011 Why don't you just come out and ask her? Hey baby, how was your day? Oh cool, really? ... yeah me too. Oh before I forget, I have a question for you. You don't happen to be born with a penis, do you? Baby? You still there? In short, by asking her you'll end up insulting her if she isn't, by grabbing her crotch you'll end up freaking out if he is.
Author Mark1 Posted November 26, 2011 Author Posted November 26, 2011 I would rather freak myself out by grabbing his crotch, than offend her by asking.
ShannonMI Posted November 26, 2011 Posted November 26, 2011 Hey baby, how was your day? Oh cool, really? ... yeah me too. Oh before I forget, I have a question for you. You don't happen to be born with a penis, do you? Baby? You still there? In short, by asking her you'll end up insulting her if she isn't, by grabbing her crotch you'll end up freaking out if he is. There is a time and a place for everything. No, you aren't going to ask her in normal conversation. You'd have to pick the right time to ask. Grabbing her crotch is so juvenile. And she could be a post op transgender and NOT have a penis. Imagine that!!! Yeah, they have their penises removed and they have a man made vagina. You wouldn't be able to tell the difference in most cases. So you might never know. A lot of them don't tell because of how people react.
ShannonMI Posted November 26, 2011 Posted November 26, 2011 I would rather freak myself out by grabbing his crotch, than offend her by asking. So when you freak out what are you going to do? Punch her in the face? That's how a lot of men react. Lets hope you don't. Hey if she has a dick, oh well. Just tell her you aren't into dating a transgender and let it go. End of story. She'll move on to someone else who won't care either way.
Author Mark1 Posted November 26, 2011 Author Posted November 26, 2011 -No I won't punch her -And if she is a post-op transgender, and I'm still attracted to her, then so be it, I guess
ShannonMI Posted November 26, 2011 Posted November 26, 2011 -No I won't punch her -And if she is a post-op transgender, and I'm still attracted to her, then so be it, I guess Good. You are better then a lot of men. I find the transgender subject very interesting. That's why I know quite a bit about it. I've always found it fascinating. I've watched shows and even read books. What is so sad is most of them feel they are born in the wrong body. Most of them become depressed and even suicidal. They only start to feel better about themselves when they are able to live as the gender they feel they are. Many of them don't live the way they want to live until they are middle aged though. Some get married, have children and so on to try to live as they were born. Few of them are happy until they change. So be nice to this girl. She may or may not be a transgender. If she is then good for her. She's finally living her life the way she is most happy.
Author Mark1 Posted November 26, 2011 Author Posted November 26, 2011 Good. You are better then a lot of men. I find the transgender subject very interesting. That's why I know quite a bit about it. I've always found it fascinating. I've watched shows and even read books. What is so sad is most of them feel they are born in the wrong body. Most of them become depressed and even suicidal. They only start to feel better about themselves when they are able to live as the gender they feel they are. Many of them don't live the way they want to live until they are middle aged though. Some get married, have children and so on to try to live as they were born. Few of them are happy until they change. So be nice to this girl. She may or may not be a transgender. If she is then good for her. She's finally living her life the way she is most happy. Thanks for the perspective. From your experience, do you sugest I ask, or find out?
ShannonMI Posted November 26, 2011 Posted November 26, 2011 Thanks for the perspective. From your experience, do you sugest I ask, or find out? You could ask. Don't just come out and say it though. You'll have to find the right time. Like I said, she may not even tell you. Especially if she's post op. I guess you could grab her crotch if you want, but I just don't think that's the proper way to go about it. Again, if she's post op you won't feel a penis at all. Also, like Mrlonelyone said, she may tell you if things between you get serious or perhaps not. Either way, just be nice and try to be understanding. If you don't want to date her, then don't. Just don't overreact and do something foolish.
Author Mark1 Posted November 26, 2011 Author Posted November 26, 2011 You could ask. Don't just come out and say it though. You'll have to find the right time. Like I said, she may not even tell you. Especially if she's post op. I guess you could grab her crotch if you want, but I just don't think that's the proper way to go about it. Again, if she's post op you won't feel a penis at all. Also, like Mrlonelyone said, she may tell you if things between you get serious or perhaps not. Either way, just be nice and try to be understanding. If you don't want to date her, then don't. Just don't overreact and do something foolish. Thanks. I am very open minded, but I must admit -- I would feel weird if she was transgender, and I found myself attracted to her.
ShannonMI Posted November 26, 2011 Posted November 26, 2011 Thanks. I am very open minded, but I must admit -- I would feel weird if she was transgender, and I found myself attracted to her. Sure, no problem. Well you aren't alone. Most straight men would feel weird about it. Nothing wrong with that. What is wrong is reacting in a bad way. Like with violence. I sense you aren't that way and that's a good thing.
Mrlonelyone Posted November 26, 2011 Posted November 26, 2011 Yes like Shannon said just ask. One way would be to start talking about LGBT issues. Ask how she feels about gays, Lesbians, and Transgenders. If she feels like you would be cool with it she will come out to you then. The one thing transgender people search for is someone who will love and accept them as they are. This desire has even eventually trumped pure sexual orientation (i.e. transgenders who are not really into men finding acceptance from a particular man, or transgenders who are not really into women finding acceptance from a certain woman.) Thankyou, Shannon for saying the things you did. I would have outed myself to him but then who knows if he would freak out then.
ShannonMI Posted November 26, 2011 Posted November 26, 2011 Yes like Shannon said just ask. One way would be to start talking about LGBT issues. Ask how she feels about gays, Lesbians, and Transgenders. If she feels like you would be cool with it she will come out to you then. The one thing transgender people search for is someone who will love and accept them as they are. This desire has even eventually trumped pure sexual orientation (i.e. transgenders who are not really into men finding acceptance from a particular man, or transgenders who are not really into women finding acceptance from a certain woman.) Thankyou, Shannon for saying the things you did. I would have outed myself to him but then who knows if he would freak out then. You're welcome:) I think OP would actually be grateful to know you are a transgender yourself. He seems to be pretty open minded. Hearing your perspective would be very helpful. And yes transgender people are just like everyone else when it comes to feelings and wanting love and acceptance. That's why people need to be more kind and understanding of them. They've dealt with far more hardships then most normal people have.
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