Lobouspo Posted November 26, 2011 Posted November 26, 2011 Have you ever dated someone you had awesome chemistry with but no compatibility? How could you tell? Was it hard to walk away knowing you would get hurt in the long run?
oaks Posted November 26, 2011 Posted November 26, 2011 Have you ever dated someone you had awesome chemistry with but no compatibility? How could you tell? Was it hard to walk away knowing you would get hurt in the long run? I'm not sure that the terms are defined well enough that I could tell, or I haven't tried to analyse things so precisely.
Million.to.1 Posted November 26, 2011 Posted November 26, 2011 I've just broken up with someone for this exact reason. Great chemistry, but we weren't compatible... Chemistry : Attracted to each other, great sex, had heaps of fun together, communicated well, lot's in common, laughed lots... great connection physically and mentally. ....but there were a few fundamental differences in our personalities and what we individually value that didn't fit. At first you over look these things... But they start showing up in little things over and over again. It may just be about where your at in life or what you want in the future or what religious faith you have or political stance. It could be anything... or a combination of a few. Whether you choose to not them them bother you or whether you make them a deal breaker i suppose. Compatibility to me is about wanting the same life. Sharing the same values and wanting the same thing from each other. It's the bigger picture. Break-ups always suck. It's a loss of someone you care deeply about and love.. So it's never easy. But better that than hurting someone you love or allowing them to hurt you. Walking away isn't easier at first because the chemistry is still there and its what you'll miss... but going N/C and remembering the things that make you incompatible will make it much easier in the long run once the rational mind over takes the emotional one. well.. that's how i see it.
Author Lobouspo Posted December 4, 2011 Author Posted December 4, 2011 Very well put million to 1...and reading some of your previous threads about your breakup, i hope you are doing well
Lonely Ronin Posted December 4, 2011 Posted December 4, 2011 Break-ups always suck. It's a loss of someone you care deeply about and love.. So it's never easy. But better that than hurting someone you love or allowing them to hurt you. Walking away isn't easier at first because the chemistry is still there and its what you'll miss... but going N/C and remembering the things that make you incompatible will make it much easier in the long run once the rational mind over takes the emotional one. Very well said!
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