oatmealkisses Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 My husband won't stop drinking. Getting in fights Lying to me being controling with money and I'm not 100% sure he isn't cheating. I feel like I can say very little to him about how this is hurting me without him getting mad or defensive. Therefore, I just say nothing. It has been building up inside me and I have no one to talk to about it. I have asked for us to go to a marriage counselor but he said he has no time with his work. We moved thousands of miles away from home, friends, and family for his job. We live in a very rural area where it gets -20 below in winter. I'm confined inside the house all winter. We only have one car and he always has it for work. He's on-call 7 days a week everyday of the year except christmas. I'm at home alone at least 14 hours a day with our baby who has colic. When he does get home, he sleeps. That part I understand. He has to sleep, but I don't think he has any idea how many hours I am alone. Our baby is awake most of the day crying and gets up 10-20 times a night. Sometimes our baby doesn't go to sleep at all at night so I'm up with him all night. I have no help around the house, and pretty much no help with the baby. I have no life. I feel trapped. I feel myself slipping away, and I just don't care anymore.
findingnemo Posted November 26, 2011 Posted November 26, 2011 Oatmealkisses, That's an interesting name. You are depressed on so many levels and something must be done. Apart from mother nature, you have no company, are suffering with a baby, and have a H who is not hearing you when you tell him. Your H also sounds depressed.the drinking, fighting, controlling... Whatever the case, you are in trouble and need to get help NOW. Why don't you go home to your family with the baby for a while? Tell your H that you need to go visit for some reason or other. Make it a long visit too. While there take your time to think things through and figure out what you want to do. It could be asking your H to find a job somewhere else, telling him to join AA, anything really. The thing is to get away from the stressful situation so that you can think clearly. Things may not look as bad when you're surrounded by family and friends.
Author oatmealkisses Posted November 26, 2011 Author Posted November 26, 2011 I don't really have anywhere to go to. Going back to family isn't really a good idea. They are worse than he is.
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