Lonelystar Posted May 26, 2004 Posted May 26, 2004 Lately things have been going fine but today I had a dream that my ex was with someone else. I woke up with tears in my eyes. I thought I was over him, and I was sure living like that. I don't understand why suddenly I dreamt of him, and why it ruined my day. In the dream I felt weak and betrayed. I don't know if this is normal behavior or not.... or should I complete be over him? Do you ever reach the point where it doesn't bother you who your ex is with, and if they are with someone does it help to get over them faster.
supermom Posted May 26, 2004 Posted May 26, 2004 It will get better with time. Eventually you won't even care who he's with, what he's doing and so forth. Sounds like you could use a girls night out
Author Lonelystar Posted May 26, 2004 Author Posted May 26, 2004 I know.. I need a girls day out. It is consant mood swings of feeling " okay i'm over this"... to " man I miss him". Is it normal to feel this way? Or should I be complete over him already. It has been 4months since we broke up... eeeh i don't know. any advice will be kindly taken.
sid3 Posted May 26, 2004 Posted May 26, 2004 A bit over 5 months here and I'm right with ya. Sometimes I feel like I am getting a little bit better, then other times the pain comes back like a tidal wave. My girl let me just before xmas, it's been a sh*tty year so far. At least it is almost half over. Makes me sick when I think of my x with someone else. Not so much jealous as betrayed and lied to, try not to think about it. Why torture yourself.
Author Lonelystar Posted May 26, 2004 Author Posted May 26, 2004 Aw I know how you feel. I get a sick feeling to my stomache too. I try to pretend I'm okay, hoping I soon believe it...but sometimes It comes back... and like you said like a tidal wave. I just wish he would dissappear from my mind all together. I haven't talked to him for abut 3weeks now. Maybe after awhile of not talking to him I can be okay. I hope you feel better as well. I don't want to to torture myself, but sometimes It just happens you know. Love songs, sappy movies... eeeh maybe i'm just over sensative. I know however though if he asked me back I would say no...but I still miss him and such. I just wish it hadn't ended that bad. DO most relationships end this bad.. or can people have nice clean break ups?
UCFKevin Posted May 26, 2004 Posted May 26, 2004 Sure, an amicable break up happens, it's probably about half and half. Truly, the most sickening thing to think of is your ex with someone new, but eventually, those thoughts will begin to disappear, and you may even get thru a day without even thinking about him. You live in a city where guys are a dime a dozen. You probably aren't even thinking about meeting someone new, but at least the option is there. Most guys here are probably scumbags, though. You've got a friend in me, at least, whenever you need it.
Author Lonelystar Posted May 26, 2004 Author Posted May 26, 2004 Thanks a lot! Like I said my emotions are like a roller coster. I tried dating again but I don't think I was ready just yet. I think I just need to make some friends, hang out with old ones...and try to get over this. I know that one day I will.. I just wish that would come soon. I would love to be friends with you... if you ever need to talk to you can instant message me. My sn is ragetoolfreak ( i made it in 8th grade due to my two fav bands..rage and tool haha). Anyways talk to you later I hope. Bye
ladyangel Posted May 26, 2004 Posted May 26, 2004 Originally posted by UCFKevin You've got a friend in me, at least, whenever you need it. Kevin, can we clone you? You are the sweetest of the sweet!
tom_gbr Posted May 26, 2004 Posted May 26, 2004 i know where you guys are coming from...thinking you are over your ex and that you can move on happily...but every now and then you miss em like crazy and thoughs come into your head of them with soemone else. we were together for 6 months and its now coming up to 2 and a half months of being seperated and i still miss her and think about her everyday...im not sure if this is because this is happening as she is my first love or not. ive just keep saying to myself that there is someone else out there who will love me and appreciate me for who i am
azgirl Posted May 26, 2004 Posted May 26, 2004 Yeah. Everyone keeps telling me that line of crap, too! "There is someone out there who will love you and appreciate you." Sorry. Just very bitter right now. I thought I had found that person. Really, truly did. So ... if that someone is "out there" where is he and when will I find him because I am getting too old for this s***!
sportsloving Posted May 26, 2004 Posted May 26, 2004 Originally posted by azgirl I thought I had found that person. Really, truly did. So ... if that someone is "out there" where is he and when will I find him because I am getting too old for this s***! He is there waiting for you to heal from this experience. And when you find him, it will be even better than you ever imagined. You know what they say, you find love when you are least expecting it. Good luck to you, I wish you the very best.
azgirl Posted May 26, 2004 Posted May 26, 2004 Yeah, but you know?? Part of me NEVER wants to be with anyone again, so that I don't ever have to feel like this again. I still love him soooooo much. I thought I had found the man of my dreams. And a week and a half ago, he hits me with this sh**. Out of nowhere! I just want to rewind and go back to the way things were!!! I hate this and am hurting so much right now. I hate that he looks at me as if I am a stranger! All I want to do is cry. I want to give up. I don't think I will ever find a connection like the one I had with him.
beautiful Posted May 27, 2004 Posted May 27, 2004 If someone does not want to be with you-simply let go. Why would anyone be with someone and have to work so hard for it? It is truly not worth it. No one on this earth can give you the kind of love that you can give yourself. People give people way to much "power over". How can anyone give true love and happiness to anyone else unless they allready have it within themselves? Expectations are way to high. No one can live up to that. Each one of us is responsible for our own well being and happiness. In any relationship it is important to remember to love yourself first and never love anyone more.
Author Lonelystar Posted May 27, 2004 Author Posted May 27, 2004 Great advice. I agree. It is very important to love yourself! and right now I am in the process!
eldslover Posted June 1, 2004 Posted June 1, 2004 wow its uhh comforting i suppose to see that like the feeling for a person after a break up can last a while i guess. my first love left me 4 monthes ago and i still cant explain how much i miss her. we speak to each other often which i dont think helps much either. i just wish the feeling could go away, i wish i didnt feel so strongly for her anymore. but oh well...
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