notfunny Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 Long story short, i fell in love hardly for this 1 girl.. and we had been together for 15 months..it was really good almost to good..both were crazy in love..and we have been trought some crazy **** together always there for each other..and then around 15th month we started to fight..we had 1 big issue she could not let that go, neither could i..and after month of fighting she broke up with me.... i was in such pain..i deleted her from facebook and.just hit the ground drinking all night long.. i asked her after 2 months of nc.. does she feel anything for me.. she said no..and she said she moved on..after that she texted me like each 1 month - 2.. to ask how am i doing.. most of the time she said that she is fine and moved on.. and i said i am fine.. but i am ****ing not fine.. after our break, girls started to ask me out..but i ****ing cant..it hurts still so much... and i still ****ing didnt meet a girl like her..and i really want to believe that i will find someone better but its hard.. 8 months have passed.. i have my good days.. but it seems like every road brings me back to her..i go out, bring the cool face but **** i am dieing..yesterday i dreamt her..i woke up in tears..i tryed most of the stuff not to think about her but its hard..she is in my mind almost everyday..can anybody help me..i really want to move on..i dont want to be in such pain anymore..and i feel like i cant find the personality like hers..and ye me and her were 1st love.. and the funny **** is i didnt believe in love..before meeting her..HELP ME..
iPhone Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 You and I have some things in common. When I broke up with my first girlfriend, we had dated about 15 months as well. I felt like I cried every day... for 8 months. And then something shut off. I stopped caring. That came at a price, though; the "not caring" extended past her and encompassed my whole life. That wasn't (and still isn't) much fun. I have healed mostly, but my strongest advice is don't take the route which you feel will leave you numb. Not that you are, but just keep a look out and don't take that route if it appears before you. Now, here is the advice that will help. First off, you can't run from the pain, you have to face it and embrace it. Here is a technique which I have used time and time again to heal in many ways: Close your eyes. Focus on where the pain is. Describe the pain to yourself; is it tension, aching, etc? What color do you envision it in your mind? What shape is it? Where is it? How much do you think it weighs? Now, ask yourself once you are focused on the answers to those questions: Can you release it? Will you release it? When will you release it? Then repeat the steps. Embrace the pain fully, don't fight it and resist it like it is our nature to. Keep repeating the steps until the pain has subsided. It may return, but this technique can be repeated. Eventually, the pain will vanish altogether.
Author notfunny Posted November 26, 2011 Author Posted November 26, 2011 thx, it was really hard for me yesterday.. when it hit my mind..that she moved on.. and im stucked in the same place more less..even thought i healed i dont have the same crazy feeling about her, he is still in my mind..and that pain is still there..Thx for advice.. I just want to move on..and be able to feel for someone else..really thx for the post it helped alot
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