march31 Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 my current boyfriend and i have been dating for about a year now and things were completely amazing! i could honestly say, no other boyfriend has ever made me happier than he did. But lately, i feel like hes pulling away. All of a sudden he wants to go out with friends more(drinking, partying, ect). Hes always texting other people or doing something else on his phone besides paying attention to me while we are together. The other day i broke down crying and he didnt even care. He told me we'd talk later because he was "watching a movie and wanted to finish it". after about 10 minutes of arguing he finally gave me a kiss on the forehead and hugged me on the couch. He use to do anything and everything he could in order to see me. Now he loves working long hours. The only time i feel like he really wants me is when he wants to have sex. I've talked to him and he just apologizes and then does it again. i dont know what to do honestly. we love each other to much to be with other people. it's not an issue about cheating or anything. but more that i feel like hes pulling away. before he'd never stop kissing me and he'd hate when i'd move away from him while we were sleeping (bc he'd be hugging me) now he sleeps on the other side of the bed. he use to call me on his breaks just to remind me that he loves me. now he sends a text if im lucky. what can i do to get him interested again. i would really love a guys opinion. has this ever happened to anyone? girl or guy please helppp. ---thank you.
eleanorhurting Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 Have you tried talking to him about it? Maybe the "honeymoon" phase of the relationship has worn out. That does not mean i t has to be over. It shouldn't mean that actually.
insertnamehere Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 How often do you break down and cry? To me, from experience, it sounds like he's just hit his limit with the emotional outpourings. I've known girls who just laid it on so thick it got to a point where her crying didn't mean anything, because she did it all the time.
Author march31 Posted November 25, 2011 Author Posted November 25, 2011 im not the type of girl who cries everyday or who cries for attention. i was seriously going through something with my family and i really needed him there. hes the only one i talk to about my problems because he cares and listens no matter what. i really needed him and by him not even aknowlegding that i was there it just hurt more and o broke out in tears. the fact that he would rather watch a movie than care that i was genuinely hurt, just made things worse.
Author march31 Posted November 25, 2011 Author Posted November 25, 2011 You sound like am emotionally unstable woman with an ADD....like a child inside a woman with big breasts and sex drive. If i was your BF, i would not walk, but fly away from you on a rocket ship to the Orian belt. that was completely unneccessary. i asked for advice about what i should do not what my bf would do. get a ****ing life. you're rediculous. this site is for people who really want help not people to criticize others.
insertnamehere Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 im not the type of girl who cries everyday So, making it through a 24-hour stretch is the standard we're applying for not crying too much? As a guy, I can handle about one emotional outburst a week. A rate that goes far beyond that, to me, starts to feel immature. BTW, the other person's ID on here is "Not a Troll". This is someone who is trolling you just to be a prick.
ditzchic Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 You are 'going through something with my family'... a parent died? If not, then what is serious to you might be like 'drama queen' to him and he's tired of your attention seeking immaturity. How bout when you're told your grandmother has 0 days to a month to live? lol. That's what happened with my last boyfriend. I found out that news, called him and told him about it. He gave me a simple "aww that sucks.", cut the conversation short, I cried like a baby that he didn't care. He told me that I was over-reacting and he just didn't know what to say. Guys aren't that emotional, blah blah blah. About 3 days later he blows out the tranny on his BMW, called me in a tizzy so upset about it. Starts blabbering on about how he can actually feel it in the pit of his stomach. Asked me to come over and hold him for the night. I snapped back with something along the lines of "Yeah, I know that feeling. I've been having it ever since I heard the news about my grandma. I can't take her to a mechanic." He flipped about how insensitive I was. We were over by the end of the month. I love how so many guys give the emotionally unstable argument but they can't see it when something bad happens in their life....
Author march31 Posted December 1, 2011 Author Posted December 1, 2011 i guess i kind of took a little bit of everyones advice. i stopped crying and being a baby about things and i have begin to realize not all guys are emotional and i kind of have to deal with his emotionless way of looking at things. yesturday though, we were cuddling and he just started telling me how he feels. he opened up to me in... i dont even know how long. we got into an argument today but hes coming over tomorrow to talk things out. (this time he flipped out on me) for a completely rediculous reason. anyway, he decided it that it would be best if we broke up and stayed friends. i dont want to just be friends because we've been together so long and i really truely care for this guy. (more than anyother guy i've ever been with.) Butttttttt, im not gonna be the girl to keep trying and trying to get him back when we fight. so i guess what im trying to say is i need help moving on. and help letting him go. Hes coming tomorrow to make sure things are ended on a good note. and i need all the help i can get ASAP!
Casablanca Posted December 2, 2011 Posted December 2, 2011 Ignore the trolls... A relationship is a two way street, you pay them attention and they pay you attention, you care for each other, make sacrifices for each other (which shouldnt feel like a sacrifice because you do it to make them happy, which makes you happy) Sometimes people do need space, maybe want a few more guys nights out. If you two are hanging out and he's on his phone a little bit, but if he looks bored, he doesnt want to be with you. Did he at least converse with you while on the phone. I had a gf, and when we'd stay at each other's place, we'd typically be on our computers a lot,; homework and such, but we still conversed, or heck, FBed each other while being 5 feet away. The honeymoon phase always wears off, BUT it shouldnt make someone be bored with you, they should be happy to be around you, but you just dont get quite that same new tingly feeling. I dont know your history, and there is no way anyone can accurately determine if you're too emotional or cry too much, etc from the info you posted, so ignore those posters there So, making it through a 24-hour stretch is the standard we're applying for not crying too much? Id say what she said was just a saying that says she doesnt cry like clockwork or very often.
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