stunned8165 Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 Well, Thanksgiving is done. I do have to say that I feel a little better today now that it has gone. I was with family, friends and all, but still had that nasty pit in my gut of emptiness. The feeling that we should all be together as we were for the past three years. I wonder how SHE faired it not having any family but her Mom. I have a big family that always included my ex and her kids in anything, or any family function. I wonder if she for a moment missed it. But the hard part for me was not havig the kids. They are just 4 & 5 and I'm the only dad they know. Thats what makes it so hard for me to let the kids go. If they HAD a dad in their lives, I would know they were ok and would have never got that close to them in the first place. Hell, if it wasn't for all my family and little cousins, there would have been hardly any kids at their B Day parties we had at Chucky Cheese or where ever. I'll never understand how you can walk away from something that was healthy, fun, exciting and loving.
Feelin Frisky Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 I had chills and nausea probably from my kidney stone procedure the day before. I got better in time for dinner though. A few phone calls from my darling FL helped me through what could have been a real downer.
mike588 Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 Well, Thanksgiving is done. I do have to say that I feel a little better today now that it has gone. I was with family, friends and all, but still had that nasty pit in my gut of emptiness. The feeling that we should all be together as we were for the past three years. I wonder how SHE faired it not having any family but her Mom. I have a big family that always included my ex and her kids in anything, or any family function. I wonder if she for a moment missed it. But the hard part for me was not havig the kids. They are just 4 & 5 and I'm the only dad they know. Thats what makes it so hard for me to let the kids go. If they HAD a dad in their lives, I would know they were ok and would have never got that close to them in the first place. Hell, if it wasn't for all my family and little cousins, there would have been hardly any kids at their B Day parties we had at Chucky Cheese or where ever. I'll never understand how you can walk away from something that was healthy, fun, exciting and loving. I don't mean to Boo Hoo but I'll be honest. Mine was the WORST ever,,no family, no g/f, the few friends I have were out of town so it sucked. I know I should'nt of thought of her but I couldn't help it,, tried not to dwell on her being happy back with her ex.(she had alot to be thankful for by getting him back) having her family over for dinner etc. This is the 1st year I spent alone and didn't have one bite of turkey and all the fixings. I was hoping some of my neighbors who know what I'm going thru would invite me over or bring some left over turkey over but no one showed up,,, so glad it's over,, now I have Christmas to look foward to,, Oh joy!! Next year will be better,,,,,,,, I hope.
iPhone Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 (edited) I've read a lot of your replies Mike, and you're a lot like me. I have studied psychology since I was 13, so about 11 years now. You have a strong and accurate viewpoint, and I can honestly say you're the only person who would reply exactly like me, to a lot of things. I was on this site under a different name about 3 years ago brother, I lost the girl I thought I would spend the rest of my life with. Tore me apart to no end, and I am not sure the depression ever truly subsided. Anyway, I have been with a new girl for 2 years. Here is my update for you: Women are crazy. I'd say, count your blessings. There are plenty of benefits to relying only on yourself. Sure, I spent Thanksgiving with a woman, but we argued, etc. Just saying. The grass isn't always greener lmao sometimes the only thing we're missing, isn't the person we no longer have. What we're missing is common sense, and the fact that we aren't really missing out on anything at all. Edited November 25, 2011 by iPhone
Author stunned8165 Posted November 25, 2011 Author Posted November 25, 2011 I've read a lot of your replies Mike, and you're a lot like me. I have studied psychology since I was 13, so about 11 years now. You have a strong and accurate viewpoint, and I can honestly say you're the only person who would reply exactly like me, to a lot of things. I was on this site under a different name about 3 years ago brother, I lost the girl I thought I would spend the rest of my life with. Tore me apart to no end, and I am not sure the depression ever truly subsided. Anyway, I have been with a new girl for 2 years. Here is my update for you: Women are crazy. I'd say, count your blessings. There are plenty of benefits to relying only on yourself. Sure, I spent Thanksgiving with a woman, but we argued, etc. Just saying. The grass isn't always greener heh I'm waiting for the day my ex sees the grass is not so much greener on the other side. If I know her, and what she went to go explore which I happen to know isn't a healthy change for her and the kids.. (long story) , But I'm sure there was a atleast one moment yesterday where she thought about what we had.
carhill Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 The deep-fried turkey fared well, but stuffing too close to the broiler resulted in a visit from the local fire department. The video I shot reveals the homeowner offering appetizers to the firemen and various people posing with those big guys in uniform. No damage resulted other than a bit of bruised pride for the homeowner. The rest of the day was good friends sharing food, drink and good times. Good day from sunny North Carolina.
mike588 Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 I've read a lot of your replies Mike, and you're a lot like me. I have studied psychology since I was 13, so about 11 years now. You have a strong and accurate viewpoint, and I can honestly say you're the only person who would reply exactly like me, to a lot of things. I was on this site under a different name about 3 years ago brother, I lost the girl I thought I would spend the rest of my life with. Tore me apart to no end, and I am not sure the depression ever truly subsided. Anyway, I have been with a new girl for 2 years. Here is my update for you: Women are crazy. I'd say, count your blessings. There are plenty of benefits to relying only on yourself. Sure, I spent Thanksgiving with a woman, but we argued, etc. Just saying. The grass isn't always greener lmao sometimes the only thing we're missing, isn't the person we no longer have. What we're missing is common sense, and the fact that we aren't really missing out on anything at all. Yes I've been alone before and know I'll be ok,, I'm not a kid, I'm in my 40s yikes,lol. maybe why this one hurts so much (she was the same age) and thought she had her sh*t together by this time in her life. It sucks starting over when your older but I guess there are some benefits to it? I'm not a needy,,gotta have a someone in my life! (unlike her) but I so enjoy having having someone to share good times,and the bad with,someone to love and be loved,, like all of us want,, a basic human need.
iPhone Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 Not always a basic human need. Strive to be a sociopath, you'll be set I kid of course. But in any case, you should know there are plenty of fish in the sea. My dad is 56 and still gets attractive women (around his age of course) left and right. I say you should sign up for match.com or one of the more popular dating websites. Seems a lot of people are having luck with those. And even if it doesn't result in a relationship, you never know what you will gain from meeting all those people. I once told a friend who lost the girl he was with, that he should make friends with girls who aren't even attractive to him; chances are, they have a few attractive friends.
mike588 Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 Not always a basic human need. Strive to be a sociopath, you'll be set I kid of course. But in any case, you should know there are plenty of fish in the sea. My dad is 56 and still gets attractive women (around his age of course) left and right. I say you should sign up for match.com or one of the more popular dating websites. Seems a lot of people are having luck with those. And even if it doesn't result in a relationship, you never know what you will gain from meeting all those people. I once told a friend who lost the girl he was with, that he should make friends with girls who aren't even attractive to him; chances are, they have a few attractive friends. I signed on on one of those sites and got alot of hits and had 3 casual "dates", just met for coffee. One I was interested in but just could'nt go thru with it,, I was still hurting pretty bad and didn't want to use her as my "emotional bandaid" like my ex. used me. The other two dates,well they were not my type in the personality dept.then all the other ones were way over weight,other reasons I wasn't interested.
Author stunned8165 Posted November 25, 2011 Author Posted November 25, 2011 Mike, you know what? You sound like what her new boyfriend is going to end up like. She went from me to him. Infact, he helped her move. My story http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t302201/ But in my case, (of coarse I fell for ya man, I really do) I hope he gets whats comming to him. Because all he did was flirt with her. But unresolved issues are going to surface and that relationship will fail just because of who they are. Besides, you date your boss? We all know how love in the work place usually turns out. Especcially in the resteraunt business.
ChelseaLS Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 Well it wasn't thanksgiving for me in the Great White North, but yesterday (and today) are crap. In a large way I wouldn't mind skipping the rest of 2011 and the whole of 2012... just skip me forward to 2013.
Woggle Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 Great but we ate too much. Myself, my wife, and my uncle and his partner together ate an entire turkey.
Author stunned8165 Posted November 25, 2011 Author Posted November 25, 2011 Well it wasn't thanksgiving for me in the Great White North, but yesterday (and today) are crap. In a large way I wouldn't mind skipping the rest of 2011 and the whole of 2012... just skip me forward to 2013. I'm with ya on that one Chelsea. I just hate this rejection too. All I want to do is hear from the kids. Geee, I can't wait for Christmas.
Desensitized Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 I have to admit, I wasn't thinking about her much at the start of the day. But towards Thanksgiving dinner, I really started to think about her. All of our memories of us being together last year for Thanksgiving started to get to me, and I almost texted her saying "Happy Thanksgiving." I am glad I didn't, though, because she doesn't want anything to do with me. But I don't care. If that's what she wants, then so be it. I have nothing to feel guilty about. I said everything I had to say and apologized for all the things I said/did when our relationship was going to sh*t. She hasn't apologized for anything, so I hope she is really sure that she did nothing wrong, even though that is b.s.
ken_25 Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 It was okay. I thought a lot about my ex and it brought me down a little. I miss her... son of a bitch I hate this. But, today is a better day and I'm feeling pretty good. I'm in the boat with Chelsea, let's just fast forward.. even 6 months sounds good.
Author stunned8165 Posted November 25, 2011 Author Posted November 25, 2011 She hasn't apologized for anything, so I hope she is really sure that she did nothing wrong, even though that is b.s. I have nothing to apologize for. She is the one that should be apologizing. She never even once said she was sorry for herting me and cheating on me. All she did was try to blame me. It was so obvious that she was angry with herself for being a screw up. She has ALWAYS been a crew up. I really thought she was ready to live a nice happy family life. But all she did was go back to what she knows. Drugs, lies, etc. I know for at least a moment yesterday, she thought about all out thanksgiving dinners together as a family with my family. Her loss. Unfortunately, her kids loss too.
Desensitized Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 I have nothing to apologize for. She is the one that should be apologizing. She never even once said she was sorry for herting me and cheating on me. All she did was try to blame me. It was so obvious that she was angry with herself for being a screw up. She has ALWAYS been a crew up. I really thought she was ready to live a nice happy family life. But all she did was go back to what she knows. Drugs, lies, etc. I know for at least a moment yesterday, she thought about all out thanksgiving dinners together as a family with my family. Her loss. Unfortunately, her kids loss too. I hear ya. My ex-fiancee has apologized approx. twice to me, and one of those times was when she slept over at another guy's house while we were together, and she admitted that she screwed up. Other than that, it has always been my "fault." I tried to reconcile and become friends again, but honestly, I see that she's not supposed to be in my future. But yeah, I'm certain she went back to drinking, doing drugs, and lying excessively. What a life, huh? So sad. They're never going to apologize, they are broken on the inside and they just lie, lie, and lie to protect themselves from further misery. We should pity them, really.
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