irc333 Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 I saw an RSVP list for a speed dating event....there were probably a lot more women that are attending than men. And I hear this a lot at typical dating events or public mixers. Why is this? It makes it seem women are more into finding someone than men are? But I've heard at these events, even though the male to female ratio is off, the women wind up having no interest in ANY man after the event.
Andy_K Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 I've generally found this to be age-related. In the 20's, there are more guys than girls at these things, or if it's number limited, their places fill up first. In the thirties, the women's places fill up first. Forties and over, women's places fill up first by a long shot! This generally tallies with much of the ranting you'll find on these forums... young girls for the most part have plenty of attention and meet guys without bothering with this sort of thing, whilst the guys struggle more. In the older age groups, most men who are still single have pretty much given up completely on dating, so there are far fewer of them. The women on the other hand, are now finding it much harder to meet guys than they used to, so they're force to try these sorts of thing in ever greater numbers. As for the women never being interested in any of the guys, I don't think I agree. More likely the women all want the one or two most desirable guys that turned up to the event - and here is the interesting part - regardless of the standard of men attending It's almost as if women want 'the best they can get' or 'the best relative to what the other girls can get', regardless of how good a catch that guy actually is, whilst guys have more of an absolute standard which is a pass/fail for any given girl, regardless of the general standard of other girls present.
alphamale Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 speed dating is another scam for desperate singles...don't fall for it.
grkBoy Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 I saw an RSVP list for a speed dating event....there were probably a lot more women that are attending than men. And I hear this a lot at typical dating events or public mixers. Why is this? It makes it seem women are more into finding someone than men are? But I've heard at these events, even though the male to female ratio is off, the women wind up having no interest in ANY man after the event. I think for women, speed dating and similar events have less of a "bad stigma" than online dating. Think about it, the girl who fears the idea of a coworker or relative running across her dating site profile will instead opt for these events where her chances of not running into anyone she knows are minimal. PLUS...I've heard many of the women who go are really there for "moral support" of a friend. So they often have no intentions of ever going further with any guys there. I've even heard many times where at the end, most of the women in the speed dating event basically stated they don't want to go further with any of the guys they met...meaning none of the men who showed were "worthy". I also agree with Andy on the age thing. When I last tried online dating, the numbers of 40+ women were huge. I believe a lot of that though is that these women aren't going to the normal social settings to meet men like they did in the past.
ShannonMI Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 I saw an RSVP list for a speed dating event....there were probably a lot more women that are attending than men. And I hear this a lot at typical dating events or public mixers. Why is this? It makes it seem women are more into finding someone than men are? But I've heard at these events, even though the male to female ratio is off, the women wind up having no interest in ANY man after the event. Speed dating is ridiculous. How can you even skim the surface of who a person is and what they are about in 2 minutes or however long they give you? Again, it's going to matter what the person looks like, not what they have to say in the 2 minutes you have with them. I wouldn't waste my time with speed dating. It's stupid.
insertnamehere Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 A lot of guys feel that if they have to resort to a gimmick, they don't have what it takes. Online dating is degrading enough. Going to a singles event is just downright pathetic. There's that sense, as a man, that we're the aggressors. Speed dating is pretty much surrendering that myth about yourself. For women, being the object isn't particularly new. So, speed dating isn't apt to represent the same sort of change. I've never done speed dating. So, bear in mind I am talking completely out my ass, guessing and just making **** up as I go.
Wolf18 Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 Speed dating is pretty bad. Never been involved in one (and never would) but I have seen the events play out at the pub . When there is no age limit, the men are usually all horny guys in their 20's and the women are desperate divorcees in their mid-to late 30's and 40's. It's essentially treating people like you're buying a new car, finding out all their qualities on paper then just picking the shiniest one. I don't think the every day male would benefit from Speed Dating at all, the joker with the most jewelry, toys and best looks is always going to clean up.
u_guess Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 Those commenting having not tried speed dating really should give it a go. You get a wide range of people attending, yes some are desperate for a date, other are may be new to the area and looking for new friends and others are just going for a fun night out with friends. If you go with a relaxed and open approach you might just have fun. Having run a speed dating company for 4 years I can confirm that Andy_K is complete right about men booking quicker in their twenties and the other way round in 30s and 40s. I think this is all about attitude. Guys in their 20s do it for fun and older guys feel attending speed dating threatens their masculinity. Getting back to the thread, if you attend an event with significantly un-even numbers you should ask for a refund or discount and should book with a more reputable company. Check our site for speed dating company reviews.
FitChick Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 Older men aren't ruled by their little head the way younger men are. As for many more older women being on dating websites than men, again it's the lack of testosterone driving the men's behavior, while the women are mostly divorced and want to see what they've been missing during their years of marital drudgery. I hear older men complaining that no women want serious relationships, they are mostly just social butterflies getting an ego boost. The men call them timewasters. The tables have turned!
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