joshextreme Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 (edited) So I use to be a frequent visitor here last year between about February and May. My ex would not get back with me no matter what I pleaded so I took advice from everyone here and just ignored her. Well eventually that followed through and we started talking again and got back together. Now to recent news.. About a week ago my ex (not broken up yet) became upset with me because I didn't talk to her for 3 days. I had no way of contacting her I was with my friends camping. So when I got back she was talking how she felt distant just after 3 days. We were fine before I left. In 8 months I leave for Marine boot camp where I'll be gone for 3 months, back for 10 days, then off for another month.t So I decided that if she cant last 3 days how was she to last 3 months? I dont need her pulling a dear john while I'm in boot camp. (for those who don't know the movie, basically I'm saying is she might break up with me boot camp because she cant handle the distance). The break up didn't bother me that much because I knew we'd break up eventually and there was no point in being upset. Anyways she gave up on trying to get back with me and we decided to be friends. That worked for me. Last night I kissed another girl and being so emotionally attached to her I felt the need to tell her. Now she absolutely hates me. I understand tho. But now I feel lost kinda. Some moments I feel good because I'm doing what I want, such as kissing other girls. But another parts me knows I love her with all my heart. I know she won't give me another chance but I just dont know what to do about this feeling. This emptiness. I understand that if i loved her then I shouldnt of kissed another girl or broken up with her to begin with. But apart of me wanted this freedom but another part needs her. I dont know. I thought id come here before i make even more of an ass out of myself to her. Edit: Reading through it I left out some info -- Im 17 year olds and a senior in highschool -- When I signed up for the Marines she never told me she was proud unless I asked and she HATED the fact I was leaving. She never gave me a sure answer if she'd stay with me through it all. Edited November 25, 2011 by joshextreme
Author joshextreme Posted November 26, 2011 Author Posted November 26, 2011 Hey. I used to be in your spot. My girlfriend left me for another man and I was alone and depressed. One day I was browsing the web and I found this site- http://tips2getyourexback.blogspot.com/. Thanks to the free tips that site provided me and my girl are back together and happier than ever. They also have a really cool free newsletter that was great! Hey, it worked for me, maybe it can work for you too. Good luck But I don't really want my ex back.. like I miss her but I know we're going to end anyways so it's not worth it.
Author joshextreme Posted November 26, 2011 Author Posted November 26, 2011 I don't mean to be pushy or annoying but alls im looking for is answer to why like i can go out and flirt with other girls and kissing but why i sometimes feel like im missing her so much
M2155 Posted November 26, 2011 Posted November 26, 2011 You're young and you know your relationship with your ex can't work. Maybe this is the first time you've experienced a loss, it takes time to get over a love. You're just in an emotional place where you want to move on but haven't broken emotionally yet. There is nothing really anyone can tell you as you just have to live through this experience and get over your ex. Flirting with other women is probably just a distraction as you felt guilty enough that you needed to tell your ex. You just need some time till you realize you don't "need" her. Sounds like a relationship is not something you need to worry about for the near future anyway. Good luck.
Author joshextreme Posted November 27, 2011 Author Posted November 27, 2011 You're young and you know your relationship with your ex can't work. Maybe this is the first time you've experienced a loss, it takes time to get over a love. You're just in an emotional place where you want to move on but haven't broken emotionally yet. There is nothing really anyone can tell you as you just have to live through this experience and get over your ex. Flirting with other women is probably just a distraction as you felt guilty enough that you needed to tell your ex. You just need some time till you realize you don't "need" her. Sounds like a relationship is not something you need to worry about for the near future anyway. Good luck. Well in January lost her for 4 months and by the time she came back to me I was already over her. But I gave it a shot. This sucks, plain and simple lol. I just wish sometimes I had her. Like right now I feel as if I'm missing her but a few hours ago I was telling my buddy how happy I was single. Love makes no sense lol
M2155 Posted November 27, 2011 Posted November 27, 2011 You might not be missing her anymore. You might be missing what you had with her. She represents that. I think every single person feels lonely sometimes, so of course that's where your thoughts go. But it didn't work out twice now...and you have your whole life ahead of you which will be totally different in a few months anyway. If love made sense none of us would be here:rolleyes:
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