codoer22 Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 Hello! I'm new to this forum..I've been on a few sports forums so I know how all of this works, but I've been looking for a forum for long distance relationships and this definately looks like the place! First off, I'll start off with saying that I'm 17 and a senior in highschool, my girlfriend was an exchange student last year and currently lives in germany! I love her to death and don't have anyone to ever talk about her with.. (Most people don't understand long distance relationships...) So yeah, that's all I've got! If you have any advice or want to know more about me, I'd LOVE to talk!
folieadeux Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 Welcome aboard! I know how you feel all too well about no one really "getting it". Unless you've been in an LDR yourself; people just can't relate. Sites like these have been a real blessing.
Author codoer22 Posted November 26, 2011 Author Posted November 26, 2011 Hello! Yes..it really sucks that nobody gets it, it's nice to be able to read about what other people have to say and it just gives me comfort knowing that the people here aren't going to call me stupid for dating a german. I'm excited to get to know people here! Like I said before, the idea is comforting. So what kind of situation are you folks in?
folieadeux Posted November 26, 2011 Posted November 26, 2011 People who would judge anything they don't know are just plain ignorant. I'm with a Brit and we're getting married/resolving the distance next year. :bunny:
Author codoer22 Posted November 28, 2011 Author Posted November 28, 2011 I agree.. people can't judge anything unless they've experienced it. That's extremely exciting!(: My girlfriend and I talk about that all the time but we've still got awhile to go, we're both in highschool still. Although she is maybe coming to college here so we can be together during that time!
creighton0123 Posted November 28, 2011 Posted November 28, 2011 If that is the two of you in your profile picture, you're both very adorable. Hopefully you get the opportunity to spend more time with her at the same college once you both graduate high school. If that's the case, there isn't much in the way of a long distance relationship, but a run-of-the-mill romantic relationship to consider. In the meantime, since it is only November/December, I'd recommend you both create a solid structure when it comes to communication. Enjoy Skype dates with voice and video. I'd also say that you plan a relationship check-in every few weeks (once a month will do) to discuss the status of the relationship, how you both are feeling, what you like and don't like about the relationship, what you want more of or what you want less of. This type of communication can foster a very, very healthy relationship. Absent this communication in an LDR can cause you two to drift to the point where you're either complacent or simply going through the motions.
lesoiseaux Posted November 28, 2011 Posted November 28, 2011 Welcome! I'm new to the LDR thing as well, having just started this August. I don't post here too often, but it's SUCH a comfort just knowing this forum is here when I need it. Be sure to use Skype often!
Author codoer22 Posted November 29, 2011 Author Posted November 29, 2011 Well thank you Creighton! You seem like you really know what you're talking about! Have you experienced a LDR before? We skype often, usually 2 or 3 times a week is what we try for, sometimes it's tough since we both have school though! I've never really thought of a relationship check-in, but actually that seems like a really good thing to maybe try. I feel like where we're at right now is great though, we don't hide anything and neither of us could be happier with another person! But maybe I will mention the idea, thanks(: Hello Lesoixeaus! How long have you been with your SO? I know what you mean, I already look forward to seeing what everyone has to say on this forum! It's nice having friendly people around going through the same thing.
lesoiseaux Posted November 29, 2011 Posted November 29, 2011 I've been with my SO for about a year now, but it's only been a few months long distance. I can't wait for it to be over! I'm in school and we plan to move back to the same city together once I graduate...but that won't be until 2013. It could be worse, though! At least that's what I try to tell myself...
Author codoer22 Posted November 30, 2011 Author Posted November 30, 2011 Wow that sounds almost identical to my situation! Is your SO from over seas or not? Are you in highschool or college? Don't tell yourself it could be worse! You're lucky to be making it through such a tough test with your SO, I think of long distance relationships as the biggest test of love, you're really testing the waters of the relationship and I'm glad to hear everything is going well(:
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