mr.dream merchant Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 This has always been a love hate thing with me. I hate drama, and hate when women get real sensitive and start clucking. I roll my eyes, I disengage with no eye contact, silence is my reply. If its over text? I'm completely different. I basically like to add fuel to the fire. Why not? She's pissing me off by being overly sensitive about **** that doesn't really matter to me, and therefore bringing drama into my life over unimportant things. What do I do? Everything I shouldn't. I drop a swear word here, not directly at her, just make sure to include it in somewhere. I take forever to respond. When I do respond its usually a "Ok." "I guess." "Alright." "lol, whatever you say." type of deal. They get furious. When they reply to that, I disappear. Arguing with women is such a unique experience, it really is. You get to see the woman's psyche at its height, and its lows. One trend that I have noticed among all women when they're upset is the classic "But if YOU didn't do this..." "YOU said this and..." "YOU." "YOU." "YOU." Its a damn finger pointing game with them. I can't take it serious. When are women ever going to own up to being a bitch for once? I call my own mother out on blame shifting to my father. It seems as if women would rather blame shift than to own up to their own shortcomings. Just recently I got into an argument with a woman, and instead of doing my normal routine, I actually decided to be a decent person and reason with her. It left me with no satisfaction, and she basically dismissed me. I despise being a nice and understanding guy. I get so much more fulfillment out of being a dark, mysterious, and handsome jerk to women. They enjoy it so much, and its so fun for me. To be able to say whatever I want, and throw my nice smile on top of it. They eat it all up. When they're mad at me? All I have to do is retract, and they come chasing right after me. It's a game to me. Sometimes I'll get a woman who's very strong willed and doesn't by into it, and it makes me a sad panda lol. You know what the best part about having several women on deck is? You get to treat them like they aren't worth more than a good **** and a tongue kiss. I'm so much happier when I care less about the women I'm involved with, and I mean this. Its not some troll ploy. I really am happiest when I just don't give a **** about the women I'm with. And, they seem to like it to. They like the chase. But as soon as I start caring, they become..distant. Its so backwards. I've got an actual girlfriend. But I do cheat on her. I think deep down inside she knows this. But she seems to enjoy the chase, the challenge. When we argue, its more like she just texts me bull**** and I read it, pick up my bong, hit it, then alt tab back into my video games and forget about her and her dumbass hang ups. Its always some dumb ****. I took too long to reply to her text last night. Why didn't I reply to her text last night? Why won't I add her on facebook? I logged into OKC last night and saw your profile is still up. A bunch of dumb ****. Guys don't give a **** about that. At least argue sports or something with me. I can't even be bothered to get worked up over an argument that's completely some **** that only women would care about. They're so sensitive. Say one word and they're hurt. Ignore a phone call and its a plethora of questions. Aren't you tired of answering to someone? I know I've been fed up since I could remember. My new girl doesn't ask for much, but she's still a chick about things. She'll let me **** her brains out then a week later comment on how I only get nice when I'm horny. **** like that. You can't have it both ways. Women want you to be sensitive but a challenge. It doesn't work that way, at least for me. I'm a challenge when I don't care. When I care, I'm easier to read than a book. Sometimes I'll get up and just drive home, or not even go home, but drive. The phone will be ringing with calls and texts from her, but I think she enjoys doing this. The moment I answer, she's a ghost. One thing I've always been good at is running away from drama. Earlier this day I got into an argument with my father and brother. What did I do? I left the house. And didn't come back until all the family that came over to see us for Thanksgiving was gone. I knew it hurt my family to not have me around for Thanksgiving, but for some sick reason, this was my payback to them. I treat my women the same way. When things go wrong, I don't seek to fix it. I seek to get even. Probably explains why I'll never let these walls around my heart down. The woman that I did actually let argue, she got the chance to dismiss me. Its eating me up. I want to draw her response out so I can be the one to dismiss her, and leave her mind scrambling. Truth is, like a typical ****ing woman would, she's probably on the next guy's dick already. Buncha ****ing monkeys, and men are just branches to them. best piece of advice I ever got for women was from my not so fortunate friend from the hood, he's not a very smart guy and is a lunatic..but his advice always brought me happiness when I followed it. "You better **** and treat these hoes like the pieces of **** they are Dre." He lives by this. He puts my success with women to shame. We'll be in the car driving somewhere and he'll get a phone call from a girl. He'll pick up and you can just hear this chicken clucking at him through the phone. He'll look at me, laugh, then tell her she knew what the deal was from the jump and hang up. Its so refreshing to see men out there treating women so poorly. I feel as if they almost deserve this. I'm not as bad about it as he is. I give them a chance, he manipulates them. Women really want you to make that effort, to show them you care, etc...but once they get it, they just collect it and put it in their pocket next to all the other gifts from other men. Earlier I posted about a woman who's seeing other men. She was on the fence about things because she felt I didn't care enough. My question is, why does it matter? You've got other men around anyways you dumb broad. Her answer was that she really liked me. It doesn't matter honey. The romance factor in everything I do for you, everything we do, is negated because I know you keep other men around who do the same. Hell, she'll probably end up with one of them because they're thirstier for pussy than I am. I've already got pussy on speed dial. I guess women will never get it. Men don't want to share things with you that you're sharing with other men. What's the ****ing point? Bitch had the nerve to ask me if I missed her. Are you kidding me hoe? You've got 3 other guys on your list. Ask them, the only thing I miss is when you weren't honest about your hoedom.
Feelsgoodman Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 I'm so much happier when I care less about the women I'm involved with, and I mean this. Its not some troll ploy. I really am happiest when I just don't give a **** about the women I'm with. And, they seem to like it to. They like the chase. But as soon as I start caring, they become..distant. Its so backwards. Totally agree with this. The less you care, the happier you are. Even Buddha thought so...
Wolf18 Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 Totally agree with this. The less you care, the happier you are. Even Buddha thought so... Buddha actually advocated that those seeking enlightenment not talk to women at all When the first Buddha heard that one of his followers established a nunnery following his teachings, he said that his religion which was meant to last thousands of years, would instead be reduced to a fad
Janesays Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 I love your threads. They truly make me appreciate the man I have now. Every time i read this nonsense, I just want to shower him with love and affection. Then, I want to sex him up.
kvinna Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 I think you're letting your emotions get the best of you.
Feelsgoodman Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 I love your threads. They truly make me appreciate the man I have now. Every time i read this nonsense, I just want to shower him with love and affection. Then, I want to sex him up. So you're saying you need to read dream merchant's posts to get turned on? I feel bad for your boyfriend already...
Janesays Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 So you're saying you need to read dream merchant's posts to get turned on? I feel bad for your boyfriend already... Uh, no. To be perfectly honest, just thinking about my boyfriend gets me in the mood. And I think about him....ahem...frequently. But threads like these do make me feel thankful that i'm lucky enough to be with a man and not a child.
proactivedreamer Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 Is this real? I cannot wrap my mind around the idea that this is your genuine attitude toward women. I am terrified at the prospect that this is how you truly feel.
dispatch3d Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 Yeah this doesn't surprise me. My worst argument ever was with a hot girl. My **** good ****ing luck coming to an agreement with her.
phineas Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 Wall of text. did not read. read title. I would rather be single than listen to a woman chirp. I have no problem letting them know that either.
Duckduckgoose Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 Most argumentive women are not logical and making sense does not apply in an arguement with them. If you can't dazzle them with brilliance then baffle them with bull****.
counterman Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 Man, I hate arguing. Brings me back to the arguments I use to have with my ex... I was ALWAYS to blame; it was NEVER her fault. She would be yelling, and I would be talking calm but firm. It would escalate when I tried to reason with her; there's just no reasoning. She would storm off and when I would try to catch up to her, she would shrug me off and continue to storm off. Everything has to be her way. For future references, I'm not putting up with that crap anymore, especially from my girlfriend. It's so childish.
Feelin Frisky Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 (edited) I've learned to spot contentiousness and not step into it. As soon as I hear it I disengage. It's a losing proposition to get into: "oh yeah?, well blah, blah and blah" as it leads to escalating levels of "oh yeah?, well blah, blah and blah, blah, blah". It's a measure of emotional wellness. Edited November 25, 2011 by Feelin Frisky
Taramere Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 Wall of text. did not read. read title. I would rather be single than listen to a woman chirp.. It could be worse. You could be flatsharing with Mr Dream Merchant....and that wall of text would become an avalanche of sound.
Mme. Chaucer Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 Sad. I think that the OP could have a happy and fulfilling life if only he'd had the good fortune to be born gay. How frustrating and lame to waste so much time with people that you dislike, OP.
phineas Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 It could be worse. You could be flatsharing with Mr Dream Merchant....and that wall of text would become an avalanche of sound. He could be my Guster.
Oxy Moronovich Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 Raise your hand if you scrolled through that long-ass rant and said, "There's no way in hell I'm reading all that!":laugh:
Casablanca Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 Wall of text. did not read. read title. I would rather be single than listen to a woman chirp. I have no problem letting them know that either. I didnt read either....Louis CK said it best, just take their side and make them think they've won, then there is no argument if you agree with her Anywho, I let them think they've won and that I'm in the wrong and then talk with them about the situation later once cooler heads have prevailed.
dasein Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 Having an argument with most women is like what I imagine shepherding goats or sheep is like. You have to repeat back to them what they have expressed as the topic for clarity, "So you are saying..." Once the topic is established, you have to perpetually play "cruise director" on the conversation to keep them honest. If they deviate from whatever topic they picked, you have to hop in immediately with "Wait, that's something entirely different, are we through discussing XYZ?" and refuse to pay any more attention to them until they admit the "old topic" is settled. After you have gone through a couple or three topics, say "OK that's enough for one discussion, we have discussed X issues; I'm not interested in opening up new topics and want to reflect on what we have discussed." Another thing experienced constantly with women is "not letting it drop after a reasonable time." When they get wound up on something, they wrongfully expect to just hash and rehash it, to put it in your face over and over, even when they are in the wrong and know it. You have to step in and say, "I've heard you loud and clear and am not interested in further repetition of the same thing, will take what you have said to heart." Please move onto the next thing if there is one. Don't ever apologize to women in arguments because unless they are so egregiously in the wrong that it would shock a reasonable third party, they sure as hell aren't going to be doing any apologizing to you. Moreover, many men make the mistake that admitting wrong or apologizing is how to bring the argument to a close ROFL! Don't be a naive idiot. Apologizing is merely the first step she needs to drag the conversation out until she has gotten whatever emotional cookie she was looking for, length of the tirade has NOTHING to do with how you feel or what you did or didn't do, merely with her self-stroking mechanism. When you get tired of their ways, or start to feel angry and that you may say something over the top, start forcing yes or no questions and cutting them off when they start to deviate into rant mode again or take a yes or no question as openended. No one has the right to sit and unload on others, regardless of what type of sexual apparatus they have. Wear that attitude on your sleeve and you will find that the better ones innately get it and respect you more. The bad ones are chaffe to be screened out.
betterdeal Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 (edited) I'm a challenge when I don't care. When I care, I'm easier to read than a book. It's finding the middle ground between the two that's the trick. I'll let you know if I ever manage it. Edited November 25, 2011 by betterdeal
Appleanche Posted November 26, 2011 Posted November 26, 2011 I got sucked into reading the entire post. I was mesmerized actually. Truth is, there are a lot of women who do just as the OP said, but men are just as bad as women in arguments. We both attack - women get emotional and men get quiet and detached. That makes her more frantic and he just wants to escape even further... it's a slippery slope. I've had relationships where we argued all the time, and I hated it. We just didn't see things eye to eye and didn't respect each others standpoint I guess. Some people just don't mesh well together. I've been on the flip side of that where the bf and I never fought. I will never stay in another relationship that requires so much work... no point. Life is too short. I am currently in a LT relationship and we never argue. We get along fantastically, have the same sense of humor, have very similar personalties and like most the same things. He's not a drama queen and neither am I. I think if the OP found someone for suited to him he just might feel differently about women as a whole. We aren't all that miserable to deal with.
Feelsgoodman Posted November 26, 2011 Posted November 26, 2011 Sad. I think that the OP could have a happy and fulfilling life if only he'd had the good fortune to be born gay. I think the same can be safely said about you
Feelsgoodman Posted November 26, 2011 Posted November 26, 2011 All of you slamming the OP need to read his post again while filtering out all the anger and frustration. He actually makes some good points, especially about not caring.
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