cherries1921 Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 my ex broke up with me because he thinks he needs to have one non serious relationship before he commits to me. the girl he picked happens to be an ex friend of mine who used to always pray on my insecurities. he said he absolutely will come back to me but never told me how long that will be. he told me he's afraid of losing me and as long as i'm patient he will come back. we still talk everyday but i don't like the feeling of knowing he needs to do this. or am i the one thats overreacting? am i being too sensitive?
ChelseaLS Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 Thats gross.. don't wait for him. Drop his ass. You are not overreacting. If he is afraid of loosing you, then he wouldn't be asking you to wait while he goes and ****s around.
headsashed Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 Thats gross.. don't wait for him. Drop his ass. You are not overreacting. If he is afraid of loosing you, then he wouldn't be asking you to wait while he goes and ****s around. totally agree with chelsea,drop him as fast as you can,what sort of person says "will you wait for me while i go sleep with other people,i promise ill come back" thats literally the worst thing ive ever heard in my life,drop him,sorry if thats not what you wanted to hear but its true.
flitzanu Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 my ex broke up with me because he thinks he needs to have one non serious relationship before he commits to me. the girl he picked happens to be an ex friend of mine who used to always pray on my insecurities. he said he absolutely will come back to me but never told me how long that will be. he told me he's afraid of losing me and as long as i'm patient he will come back. we still talk everyday but i don't like the feeling of knowing he needs to do this. or am i the one thats overreacting? am i being too sensitive? hah, so he actually convinced you to wait for him while he goes off to bang your best friend? and once he's done railing her and any other girls, he's going to come back to be with you?
twinkles Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 Tell him to go have as many non serious relationships he wants to have. which translated actually means F#** You you F#**en *********. Geez the nerve of this guy. Don't you dare wait. You hear me. I'll say it again Don't you dare wait. don't text him, call him, facebook him.. nothing. Get away from this guy now.
ThinkPink218 Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 He's a jerk and wants to have the best of both worlds! Don't wait for him, focus on you and stop being in contact with him. If he's so afraid of losing you and wants you then he will be with you. Drop this kid!!
lolita jade Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 This guy is a complete knob. Listen to Ce Lo Green. F*** You. What an ***hole. You need your pride to tell him to do what Ce Lo Green says
geegirl Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 He can't commit to you now but the heavens will open after he's done screwing another woman? He's probably laughing that you're going along with his suggestion. You teach people how to treat you. You've just taught him that you will sit there and allow him to dangle you on a string. Your desperation is nothing but an indication to him that he can do anything and you'll sit there waiting for him. And even when he is "committed" to you, he will more than likely prey on your lack of self-respect, again.
mike588 Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 What? I though I heard it all,, he want's you to wait for him while he's screwing around. What!! Dump his ass NOW!! Don't put up with this CRAP another minute!!!
BCCA Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 You would have to have absolutely no self esteem to even consider waiting for this clown. He has absolutely no respect for you whatsoever, and if you even thought about going along with this garbage, it would set an awful presedence. This guy is a loser. I would never even talk to him again if I was you.
M2155 Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 I doubt he'd ever come back for real. He won't seriously respect someone that rolls over and allows him to be with another woman. You are stuck with nothing either way while he has his fun? He knows exactly what he is doing, trying things out with her and when it doesn't work, he'll be back.... and then he'll do it again and again. I'm sure you know deep down he is giving you some bull! There's a man out there that will honor you.
Author cherries1921 Posted November 26, 2011 Author Posted November 26, 2011 thank you guys so much. after reading all your posts i realized that i shouldn't second guess myself. he gave me an ultimatum instead of working things out with me and listening to my feelings.
Sugarkane Posted November 27, 2011 Posted November 27, 2011 Don't wait for him, you could waste your whole life waiting for him. You don't want that do you? Especially with no guarantee he'll come back.
DannyT27 Posted November 27, 2011 Posted November 27, 2011 Definetly drop him.. My ex left me 4 sum1 else and just the fact she's slept with another person kills me.. Go NC and move on )
hoping2heal Posted November 27, 2011 Posted November 27, 2011 my ex broke up with me because he thinks he needs to have one non serious relationship before he commits to me. the girl he picked happens to be an ex friend of mine who used to always pray on my insecurities. he said he absolutely will come back to me but never told me how long that will be. he told me he's afraid of losing me and as long as i'm patient he will come back. we still talk everyday but i don't like the feeling of knowing he needs to do this. or am i the one thats overreacting? am i being too sensitive? Hello Cherries, I think you are under-reacting, actually. Firstly, if your ex wants to go out and pursue other women then that is his prerogative. However, asking you to wait for him so he can go sleep with someone else? Not only does that rate off the charts on the insensitivity meter it is extremely, extremely unfair to you. He has promised to come back to you - what will you be getting back exactly? Well, if you do wait for him you will have signed yourself up for more of this insensitive and disrespectful behavior in the future as he will now feel he is entitled to end the relationship each time he wants to sleep with some other woman and then lucky him - he can fall back on you when he gets "that out of the way". You're signing yourself up for the lifetime membership to the doormats-club for women and all your waiting will only leave you with a selfish jerk in the end. Talk about a raw deal!
loversquarrel Posted November 27, 2011 Posted November 27, 2011 A couple of things here - 1. It's one thing if someone asks you to wait for them while they work things out in their lives. Its possible when you really like someone and really don't want to lose them but certain events may have happened in that person's life where they just aren't ready for a relationship. It's one of those deals where that particular person doesn't go running to someone else but rather chooses to use that time to work on themselves. 2. This isn't one of those cases. If your bf needs to work on things, its not going to help having other people in the picture. At least he was up front with you and asked instead of outright cheating on you. 3. Having said that....It's now up to you to be a strong enough person to tell him how you feel about it. It's not up to any of us to tell you what to do, but if it were me, I wouldn't enable this. Maybe a good idea would be to tell him you want to see other people too. You are certainly guaranteed a reaction out of that. 4. Lastly, though he was honest with you, I think its pretty ****ty this other person he wants to screw around with happens to be an ex-friend of yours. It really wouldn't matter if it was her or anybody else, but that certainly adds insult to injury. An honest action on his part deserves an equally honest action on your part.
shayla Posted November 27, 2011 Posted November 27, 2011 Oh my goodness. He has surely lost his mind. There is no way on earth that any woman would put up with that foolishness. He has the choice to do whatever he wants. And you have the choice to tell him to kick rocks. If it were me, I'd tell him which side of H-ll to go to, then I'd go on with my life.
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