amb0317 Posted November 24, 2011 Posted November 24, 2011 My friend set me up with this guy she works with. I'll call him "David". We went out and had a good time. I'm not sure how big of a connection we had. He's good looking w/ a sweet personality. At the end of the date, he gave me a hug, asked me to go out again and told me he'd call me. I waited and waited for him to call. In the meantime, I got a message on facebook from another guy. I met "Johnny" 2 years ago when he worked at an auto parts store and put a new battery in my car. I couldn't believe this guy remembered me from 2 years ago. He told me he tried and tried to find me on there, but couldn't remember my name. (He's a friend of my cousin's and saw my picture on her fb page). "Johnny" has made it clear he's interested in me. I had an instant connection with him, even if it was through facebook. Back to "David"...I found out that on the date, "David" didn't think I liked him. And he was gonna wait a few days before calling, or "Play it cool". He called 4 whole days after our date. So, by then I didn't think he was interested. I ended up giving "Johnny" my number and he has texted me a few times. I'm pretty sure he'll eventually get around to asking me out. The Pros for "David"--good looking, sweet personality, good job. Cons--didn't show interest in me when he waited 4 days to call me back, I'm not sure he knows how to date. The Pros for "Johnny"--knows exactly what to say to make me feel special, shows interest in me. Cons--he has a child and I've always had a fear of "baby mamas". I think I've gotten myself in a pickle. I don't wanna hurt anyone. My question is: Is it okay to date 2 guys??
mr.dream merchant Posted November 24, 2011 Posted November 24, 2011 Let them know you're seeing other men
SJC2008 Posted November 24, 2011 Posted November 24, 2011 Damed if you do damed if you don't. Call a woman too soon after a date you're needy. Call too late you're not interested. When does it stop? A first date is what I call a pre date. It's just to see if there is any chance of chemistry and if you want to date them again. If you think there is a chace of chemistry happening with "David" continue to date him and see where it goes. Also, It's ok to not want to date a man because he has a child. If you are ok with the child and are afraid of baby mama drama I'd say don't let it stop you. I think it is ok to multi date because you are not commited to anyone, but I would make sure they are aware of it. Good luck!
insertnamehere Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 At this early stage, it's completely OK to be taking dates with two guys.
DearAbby Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 You do not need to let them know you are seeing other men. You barely know either one of them. If you start to get more serious, you can decide what to do, but at this point you can just get to know them.
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