I'm stupid with dating, and feel lovesick.

[Alex Eh]

So I recently took this class, on the first day there was this girl that said something I found interesting when we were introducing out self's to the class. During break I went up and talked to her and after that everyweek I would talk to her during class. For around a month I just saw her as a friend, but all of a sudden 4 weeks into the course I started to develop an interest in her.

 

I started going to some events she goes to everyweek because I wanted to see her, I used to go a lot as well but have not lately.

 

I feel we talk pretty easy and have things in common so i asked her to go eat with me after class one day. She could not, but said next week. A few days before the date I saw her at the event and she asked before we both left if the date was still on.

 

The day came and we went on the date, I found it great, we talked the whole time and joked around, felt very casual and there wasn't to much pressure which I liked. When it was over I said I had a good time and I would see her later.

 

Saw her again in class on the last day and we talked, I didn't ask her on a second date that time I tricked myself into not doing it, her not replying to my messages convinced me to hold off. I have not asked for her phone number either. When we said good by she said to me and a friend "See you both around sometime"

 

Sent her an email over facebook when I got home sending a few things I told her I would in class and said I hoped to see her at the event. She did not reply to the message, she usually does not if I message her, and she wasn't at the event like she usually is.

 

I assume she's not interested, but still have a nagging hope.

 

She's applying to the same department at a school I am next year, in all likely hood she will be there. And maybe ill see her again at this event. Just another battle with myself to get over myself.

 

Thanks for reading. I feel a little lovesick. Think I should just learn to chill out when it comes to these kind of things @___@ Ill just ask her to do something with me again next time I see her, other then that ill just let it be.

Edited November 25, 2011 by Alex Eh

[thatone]

a) more aggressive

b) should've had the phone number first

c) shouldn't have left her hanging after first date

 

get the phone number, set up the first date, kiss at the end of first date, and schedule the next one before the first one is over with, if schedule is unknown and prevents that, say when you'll call and call at that time. you need to establish a pace and a structure so that all she has to do is tell you when she's available and expect to be with you at that time, you in effect require her to actively say no and give you a reason why.