NYY5 Posted November 24, 2011 Posted November 24, 2011 Before I explain, I'll try to give a little of a background story. Basically, I've had a crush on a girl from work for a few years. I never approached her or anything like that, I didn't want to make her uncomfortable at work. Little things have happened here and there though, and it pretty much seems that she isn't interested at all. So there's not much I can do. But now and then, other little things happen where I wonder if maybe she is somewhat interested. For example, a friend of mine told me that they saw her watching me walk across the lobby, turned her head around to look and everything. Anyway, back to the main question. I found out that today was her last day working with the company and she'll be taking a new job in another town. I doubt I would've had the courage to walk up to her and wish her good luck. But part of me wishes I could still tell her a little something, kind of just as a good bye sort of thing. We have 10 mutual friends on Facebook so I'm able to see her on there, even though her full profile is "friends only." Would it be creepy to send her a message saying "all the best," or "good luck," etc? I'm just curious what you think, especially the women who might be reading. Since she's gone now, I have no other way to contact her, I know it seems kind of out of the ordinary, but I promise I'm not a stalker or anything, I'm just a normal guy who happens to be on the shy side. Also, I'm convinced she hates me, haha. Don't ask why, but I just do, I can't help it. That's why I'm so hesitant.
Author NYY5 Posted November 24, 2011 Author Posted November 24, 2011 Go **** your cousin you ****ing cocksucker.
Author NYY5 Posted November 24, 2011 Author Posted November 24, 2011 This forum has gone downhill. I used to post here a lot and get decent responses. Lately I either get no response or some bull**** response from dickheads like "Beefeater." I'll take my questions somewhere else.
dasein Posted November 24, 2011 Posted November 24, 2011 Why can't you go up to her and tell her goodbye? Ask her out now to get your answer, if she says no that will hurt some, but you will gain so much from it in that the next time will be so much easier. If she says yes, well you've got a date.
Author NYY5 Posted November 24, 2011 Author Posted November 24, 2011 She's already gone, so I can't approach her in person. And I'd feel awkward doing that at work anyway. So this is pretty much my only option.
whichwayisup Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 Before I explain, I'll try to give a little of a background story. Basically, I've had a crush on a girl from work for a few years. I never approached her or anything like that, I didn't want to make her uncomfortable at work. Little things have happened here and there though, and it pretty much seems that she isn't interested at all. So there's not much I can do. But now and then, other little things happen where I wonder if maybe she is somewhat interested. For example, a friend of mine told me that they saw her watching me walk across the lobby, turned her head around to look and everything. Anyway, back to the main question. I found out that today was her last day working with the company and she'll be taking a new job in another town. I doubt I would've had the courage to walk up to her and wish her good luck. But part of me wishes I could still tell her a little something, kind of just as a good bye sort of thing. We have 10 mutual friends on Facebook so I'm able to see her on there, even though her full profile is "friends only." Would it be creepy to send her a message saying "all the best," or "good luck," etc? I'm just curious what you think, especially the women who might be reading. Since she's gone now, I have no other way to contact her, I know it seems kind of out of the ordinary, but I promise I'm not a stalker or anything, I'm just a normal guy who happens to be on the shy side. Also, I'm convinced she hates me, haha. Don't ask why, but I just do, I can't help it. That's why I'm so hesitant. If you've never really spoken to her before this, I wouldn't bother sending her a note. Even more so since she hasn't attempted to make any contact with you, she didn't come to say goodbye or anything. I doubt she hates you, she probably just isn't interested. Remember our minds are powerful, so what you think she thinks, chances are she isn't.
Author NYY5 Posted November 25, 2011 Author Posted November 25, 2011 Well the thing is, she's gone, so I can't approach her and ask her anything in person. Which leaves sending a Facebook message as my only option. I think sometimes people get too hung up on something that's "creepy." I mean, so what if she does think it's creepy? It's not like I sent her a personal email. It's just Facebook. We even have some mutual friends on there, so her profile is up for the world to see. So even if she does think it's creepy, it's not like I'm gonna have to see her at work the next day, you know what I mean? She's gone! This is it! No consequences! It's not like she's gonna reach through the screen and slap me.
DearAbby Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 I would message her on facebook. You have nothing to lose and besides you will never see her again. There is nothing creepy about it.
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