mr.dream merchant Posted November 24, 2011 Posted November 24, 2011 Been on the dating scene for a while now. POF, meeting women in school, work. No luck in school. At work I've got three of them. One of them I'm having sex with on the regular, the other two are ready to take things to the next level but just want to fool around which is cool with me. POF - I've got 3 on the line. 1 is 18 years old, probably just looking to get ****ed. 2. Is a lovely 24 y/o woman with a career and an amazing body. 3. The same as 2. The problem with POF's 2 and 3 are as follows - 2. Has a son, and works as an HIV um...I dunno what the term is. But its a career so whatever. She told me she used to teach Latina women how to cheek which is a method they use to secretly slip a condom on their lover by their mouth. She told me she would show them on a dildo, and that she herself is really good at it. (Boing!). We started talking about sex and what not, she told me she keeps a drawer full of condoms (Red flag) and that she has them organized by color, brand and size (Red flag). We continued to talk and she began telling me stories about HIV patients she works with one on one, getting them set up for medication, treatment, etc. She gave me a story about a trucker who's GF used to be homeless. He had heard about her over the radio from other truckers who would go there and basically have sex with this homeless woman. Well, turns out the homeless woman has HIV. Prior to him knowing, this particular trucker met with her, and did nice things for her. Bought her food and ****, and slowly gained her trust. Eventually they fell in love, and now she rides with him on his truck route. I told her that's a touching story but I could never be that guy. She got quiet then asked me what did I mean. In more elegant words, I told her that I could never be Mr. Captain-Save-a-Hoe, especially if STD's/HIV were in the picture. She got quiet then asked me "What if I had herpes? Would you not talk to me?" I asked her if she did have Herpes, she said that information would be revealed at a later time when we know each other more. My guess is, she does have some kind of long term STD/virus. She even told me she prefers sex with the condom because it feels better...lol, what? So, before this talk, we had a date planned last night. I got out of work early but lied to her and told her I was working late. She called me, I didn't answer. She texted me and asked me to call her, I did but she didn't pick up. Eh, as long as I got out of the date was all that mattered to me. I can't do a girl that has STD's or a virus. POF girl #3 - We had a great time together on our date, I really liked her. We talked, texted. Some times she would never reply back and I figured she's either busy or possibly with another man. One day we're texting and she asked me if I missed her to which I just replied "lol...". We started chit chatting and somehow I teased her about her other two crushes doing things for her that I did, so I didn't believe her on me being special. She laughed it off, so then I asked her "Seriously, are you seeing other men?" She told me that she's keeping her options open, but she's only texting other guys. She told me that she hasn't been on a date since me and long before me. She also said she noticed my profile was still up and that she doesn't believe for a second if I told her that I'm not talking to other women (I am, I'm actually having sex with other women). Dunno, for some reason or another, I can't be bothered to deal with a woman who's got other men around. I told her that I appreciated her honesty but the amount of effort I'll put in will be minimal now. I'm not for going after a woman who's got several other men doing the same thing for her. What's the point? I could keep that time, energy, and money to myself. There's a bigger chance that it would be wasted. I understand I'll never be the only guy going for a woman, that's the nature of things. But that's different than a woman who's keeping other men around.
anne1707 Posted November 24, 2011 Posted November 24, 2011 So it's OK for you to be seeing 2/3 women and having sex with them but it's not OK for one of those women to be seeing another man. And to top it all off, you seem to imply that you don't want to wear a condom when you are sleeping around like this. Classy
TaurusTerp Posted November 24, 2011 Posted November 24, 2011 50-75% (depending on what organization you ask) of people in the US have a form of herpes. You probably have it, you're just asymptomatic. Check that, you definitely have it if you're raw dogging random girls. Idiot.
Author mr.dream merchant Posted November 24, 2011 Author Posted November 24, 2011 Who the **** said I was raw dogging random hoes? You guys are ****ing morons. I simply thought, wow, who actually prefers the feeling of a condom to the real thing. That doesn't mean I **** randoms with no protection. God, kill yourselves already. Dumb ****s.
Wolf18 Posted November 24, 2011 Posted November 24, 2011 LOL Mr Dream Merchant is a bad guy because he doesn't want to date someone with Herpes or a woman who "multi-dates"? I know it's a deal breaker for me, one of a few. Love never lasts forever, but Herpes does. A woman who dates 4-5 guys at once is someone whose either out to use men or with a very short and fickle attention span.
anne1707 Posted November 24, 2011 Posted November 24, 2011 Who the **** said I was raw dogging random hoes? You guys are ****ing morons. I simply thought, wow, who actually prefers the feeling of a condom to the real thing. That doesn't mean I **** randoms with no protection. God, kill yourselves already. Dumb ****s. Yep. As I said. You really are a class act
anne1707 Posted November 24, 2011 Posted November 24, 2011 LOL Mr Dream Merchant is a bad guy because he doesn't want to date someone with Herpes or a woman who "multi-dates"? I know it's a deal breaker for me, one of a few. Love never lasts forever, but Herpes does. A woman who dates 4-5 guys at once is someone whose either out to use men or with a very short and fickle attention span. But it is OK for him to multi-date? Why is that?
Wolf18 Posted November 24, 2011 Posted November 24, 2011 But it is OK for him to multi-date? Why is that? It's called nature. Men have infinite sperms , you have one egg, make the correlation.
Author mr.dream merchant Posted November 24, 2011 Author Posted November 24, 2011 Yep. As I said. You really are a class act Yeah Happy Thanksgiving to you to *****.
anne1707 Posted November 24, 2011 Posted November 24, 2011 It's called nature. Men have infinite sperms , you have one egg, make the correlation. Ah well that is a perfectly sound, intelligent argument. It's amazing that us poor feeble minded women don't realise that all we good for is to serve the physical needs of you men.
Wolf18 Posted November 24, 2011 Posted November 24, 2011 Ah well that is a perfectly sound, intelligent argument. It's amazing that us poor feeble minded women don't realise that all we good for is to serve the physical needs of you men. A great man once said... "Kitchen and Bed!!"
Woggle Posted November 24, 2011 Posted November 24, 2011 What is so wrong with him having these standards? If a woman should she does not want to date a man that multi-dates or has herpes nobody would make a big fuss but he chooses not to date women like this and he catches hell. This is what I mean when I say men get crap no matter what on here.
anne1707 Posted November 24, 2011 Posted November 24, 2011 What is so wrong with him having these standards? If a woman should she does not want to date a man that multi-dates or has herpes nobody would make a big fuss but he chooses not to date women like this and he catches hell. This is what I mean when I say men get crap no matter what on here. Woggle - he multidates/has sex with several women. Fine. But he criticises women who do the same. He is the one being hypocritical, not me. Step back and read it from a neutral point of view for a change!
Woggle Posted November 24, 2011 Posted November 24, 2011 Woggle - he multidates/has sex with several women. Fine. But he criticises women who do the same. He is the one being hypocritical, not me. Step back and read it from a neutral point of view for a change! Maybe true but why do I get the feeling he would get flack even if he did practice what he preached.
proactivedreamer Posted November 24, 2011 Posted November 24, 2011 Woggle - he multidates/has sex with several women. Fine. But he criticises women who do the same. He is the one being hypocritical, not me. Step back and read it from a neutral point of view for a change! Agreed, and this seems very typical. In response to the herpes comment-which some seem completely ignorant of- one can contract the herpes virus even if they are having protected sex with an infected person. Most people are not aware that they are carriers of the virus because 1. They are asymptomatic and 2. If they do experience an outbreak, it is so mild that it goes ignored. Herpes is not a big deal, just the stigma that is attached to it. If it was, it would be part of the standard std exam. If you want to test for herpes,you have to request a blood test and even then, the doctors do not recommend testing for it. I have read a number of your post, and it seems to me-correct me if I am wrong-that you don't have much respect for women, and you view them as mere objects of pleasure. How is a woman who multi-dates any different than you? I think you need to do some deep reflecting on your own attitudes toward sex and women.
Author mr.dream merchant Posted November 24, 2011 Author Posted November 24, 2011 Don't know don't care. I will not catch Herpes from some nasty chick and I will not be one of some chick's many options. They both got the booth. I'm just taking full advantage of my good looks while they last.
Feelsgoodman Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 Woggle - he multidates/has sex with several women. Fine. But he criticises women who do the same. He is the one being hypocritical, not me. Step back and read it from a neutral point of view for a change! So you are saying that men and women should always be judged according to the same standards?
anne1707 Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 So you are saying that men and women should always be judged according to the same standards? I am saying that if you apply one set of standards to yourself, you should also apply those to everybody else. If it is OK for you to do xyz, then it is OK for everybody else to do xyz. Simple as that.
Author mr.dream merchant Posted November 25, 2011 Author Posted November 25, 2011 I am saying that if you apply one set of standards to yourself, you should also apply those to everybody else. If it is OK for you to do xyz, then it is OK for everybody else to do xyz. Simple as that. Problem is, its not as simple as that.
anne1707 Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 Problem is, its not as simple as that. I suppose that might be the case if you are bigoted, narrow-minded, selfish, ignorant, egotistical, vain, arrogant, self-obsessed. Basically lacking decency.
Author mr.dream merchant Posted November 25, 2011 Author Posted November 25, 2011 I suppose that might be the case if you are bigoted, narrow-minded, selfish, ignorant, egotistical, vain, arrogant, self-obsessed. Basically lacking decency. I have lots of decency lol. I just don't hold men and women to the same standards love.
Feelsgoodman Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 I am saying that if you apply one set of standards to yourself, you should also apply those to everybody else. If it is OK for you to do xyz, then it is OK for everybody else to do xyz. Simple as that. So it's okay for men to: 1) cry when their feelings are hurt; 2) be passive and expect women to pursue them; 3) expect women to pay for them on dates; 4) expect women to open doors, surprise them with gifts, etc.??
Imageiko Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 I'm going to side step the flaming here but I'm not sure what the question was in the op? Seemed more like a narrative then anything. I don't think I'd date someone with a permanent std either fwiw.
the wizard Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 I'm going to side step the flaming here but I'm not sure what the question was in the op? Seemed more like a narrative then anything. I don't think I'd date someone with a permanent std either fwiw. You would date someone with a permanent STD?
Imageiko Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 umm no that's kinda what I said in my above post...
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