JC14 Posted November 24, 2011 Posted November 24, 2011 I feel so weak right now. I miss my ex so much. I want her back so bad. Though, I am almost certain that she does not want to get back together, otherwise she would have reached out. Right? Even if she wants to reconcile, we can't get back to the old relationship. That means that we both need to be able to see what went wrong, and willing to work on that. If she is the same person as before, I know I wouldn't be totally happy. Yet, I still want her back, because it is as close as I have ever been to happieness. I don't know what to do anymore...
sardeen Posted November 24, 2011 Posted November 24, 2011 Trust me, I am in the same situation and it has not even been a month. This is the first person I have felt deeply for and I have never been through this pain before, but it helps to think that it may not be worth getting her back if you are the only one willing to work things out. It is difficult when someone you cared a lot for and shared a lot of things with is suddenly gone, but all these feelings can be felt with someone else. Just be the person that attracted your ex and make sure not to make the mistakes you made before. Thats the way I look at it at least, simple, but logical. I have given up on hope that my ex will call or want to work things out, so should you. That way if she does contact you, you will likely be able to remember the hurt you were put through and assess the entire situation before even thinking about reconciliation.
ChelseaLS Posted November 24, 2011 Posted November 24, 2011 You need to move forward with healing. We all get these horrible, gut wrenching lows, but forward you must go. Backwards is not an option.
lolita jade Posted November 24, 2011 Posted November 24, 2011 It is all about staying strong no matter how weak you feel. Even when you cry and feel so low that you feel your world has ended. Stay strong and keep busy. You will get through this
twinkles Posted November 24, 2011 Posted November 24, 2011 I'm so sorry for you. We all feel your pain here because we are all going through the same thing. I know it hurts so let it hurt until you don't hurt anymore. Those feelings will go away faster than you think. You answered your own question when you said "we can't go back to the same relationship". You were not happy in the relationship. So that means you were unhappy in the relationship. If you get back together it won't be long until you become unhappy again. So don't waste your time thinking about getting back together it will not change and then when you break up again it will be even worse. It's better to feel the sadness now and get it over with so you will have the strength to move forward.
Author JC14 Posted November 24, 2011 Author Posted November 24, 2011 Thank you guys for all your kind words. I don't know why, but the last couple of days have been really hard on me. I just thought I was doing a lot better. It just scares me that one day I feel good, and the next day I am a total wreck. I just did not expect to have a huge setback like this... Though, maybe I need to get through this in order to heal completely. Just like you guys said Thank again for letting me vent and helping me through this LS! JC
twinkles Posted November 24, 2011 Posted November 24, 2011 JC One day will you will want to cry and sulk, the next day you'll be angry, the next day you will throw yourself a pity party, the next day you will feel ok. You will go back and forth it's very natural. But dont worry, it will get better believe me. What is helping me is reading other people's stories and commenting on them. I suggest you try that. In reading other people's stories and comments you get alot of incite on your own situation. Use the situation you are in to help other people that feeling the same way. We can all learn from each other.
SkyEmtRN Posted November 24, 2011 Posted November 24, 2011 I feel so weak right now. I miss my ex so much. I want her back so bad. Though, I am almost certain that she does not want to get back together, otherwise she would have reached out. Right? Even if she wants to reconcile, we can't get back to the old relationship. That means that we both need to be able to see what went wrong, and willing to work on that. If she is the same person as before, I know I wouldn't be totally happy. Yet, I still want her back, because it is as close as I have ever been to happieness. I don't know what to do anymore... JC I feel your pain. I too lost my gf not to long ago. It's been a month and we had on and off contact. It sucks that she broke up with me but I'm trying to revert and become that better person. The person she wants to be with but I'm also doing it for me. And I hope that over time she wakes up and realize that the man of her dreams is right in front of her she just has to wake up and realize. The pain is still there. But all I keep saying to myself is to take it day by day and who knows maybe she just needs time to herself so she can realize everything again. She still misses me so thats a plus. JC we don't know what can happen tomorrow or in a week or in a month. Take it day by day and try to find every little thing you can to take your mind off it. I been hitting the weights hardcore and I like my improvements. Its b/c I want to rub this in her face the next time I see her lol. Hang in there buddy...God knows what will happen.
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