Awarth Posted November 24, 2011 Posted November 24, 2011 Hey everyone, i just wanna know, its there any signs or indications that shows whether an ex is still interested in you? or shows that she wants you back? coz i am kinda confused nuw..so i listed a few of the things my ex has been doing.. But first, let it be known that my ex left me for someone else..we have been together for 5 yrs.. so here goes; 1) she called me after 2 wks NC. telling me not to ignore her... 2) another 2 wks later, she sms me, asking me whether i have hated her.. 3) 1 wk later, she called me in the afternoon, start chatting for a bit.. 4) on that v same night, she call me again..telling me that she miss me, had been dreaming of me.. 5) she told me that its so comfortable toking to me.. 6) she call me "darling" once..playfully.. 7) she ask me out for a movie..i ask her wont ur bf mind, she says "dont care abt him!" 8) she ask me whether i still have that couple hand-phone strap attached to my phone, she says she still have.. 9) she sms me on the morning of my exam, wishing me luck.. 10) all contacts so far had been made by her.. so that's basically what she had done these 2 months since we have broken up..so what do you think everyone?
smudge21 Posted November 24, 2011 Posted November 24, 2011 11) she's still with her current boyfriend yet making contact with you just to make sure you're still there in case things don't work out, so she can come running back. Everytime you respond, you're giving her the green light to keep on doing this AND telling her that you're still there for her. These are all breadcrumbs and will continue as long as you want them to, but it's unlikely anything will change. You'll just end up pulling your hair out and getting more and more hurt and confused. I doubt this will stop though unless you tell her to stop. She's hurt and betrayed you - quite frankly, unless she was coming back with "sorry" and "I made a mistake, I want you back, I'll do anything to prove my love for you" or similar, then I wouldn't entertain these comments. I know you'd like to think this is all a good sign, but as someone who's been there, all I see is the negative side here. See what others suggest.
sardeen Posted November 24, 2011 Posted November 24, 2011 I was going to tell you to consider giving her a second chance until I read she has a boyfriend. Leave her alone my friend, she is simply trying to keep her options open in case the relationship with her boyfriend does not work. If it takes have a bad relationship with someone else to realize that you miss someone, then they do not seem like a good catch! All the best to ya.
leoc1973 Posted November 24, 2011 Posted November 24, 2011 yeah man listen to these other 2 guys. I just posted a few weeks ago about what my ex did to me. She gave me "signs" way bigger than yours. Like I would have bet my left nut that she wanted me back. I felt so good. I was so happy! I finally just came right out and asked her she was like what do you mean what would give you that idea? I told her I went online and read that whole 12 signs that your ex wants you back and she literally did every one. She told me to stop being stupid and listening what a dumb website says. She says if I wanted you back I would tell you. I was completely crushed cause I had gotten to the point where I was pretty much over her and she brought me back to caring and wanting her back. That will never happen again! I am done with her now. I am not a toy and she knew what she was doing and pretending that she didn't. She can keep her loser boyfriend I was the "good guy" and she needed a "bad boy" she will be back soon as I have moved on!
chados Posted November 24, 2011 Posted November 24, 2011 yeah man listen to these other 2 guys. I just posted a few weeks ago about what my ex did to me. She gave me "signs" way bigger than yours. Like I would have bet my left nut that she wanted me back. I felt so good. I was so happy! I finally just came right out and asked her she was like what do you mean what would give you that idea? I told her I went online and read that whole 12 signs that your ex wants you back and she literally did every one. She told me to stop being stupid and listening what a dumb website says. She says if I wanted you back I would tell you. I was completely crushed cause I had gotten to the point where I was pretty much over her and she brought me back to caring and wanting her back. That will never happen again! I am done with her now. I am not a toy and she knew what she was doing and pretending that she didn't. She can keep her loser boyfriend I was the "good guy" and she needed a "bad boy" she will be back soon as I have moved on! you see anything wrong with telling her that?
flitzanu Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 i can tell you what sign to look for, and it's super easy. your ex will contact you and say "i want to fix this, i want to get back together with you". if they aren't saying that, then they DON'T want to get back together.
BCCA Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 The only signs she is giving is the sign that she feels guilty. Everything she is saying is about her, dont hate her, dont ignore HER, etc etc... She has a BOYFRIEND! What else do you need to hear? Until she drops him and comes back saying she made a huge mistake and wants to make things work, she's just wasting your time and using you. All she cares about is her own guilty consciounce, not you. These arent signs she wants you back, theyre signs she wants you to boost her ego. Again, she is with some other guy, doing all the stuff you two used to do...enough said. Waste of time
Author Awarth Posted November 25, 2011 Author Posted November 25, 2011 hmm..okie..but what if she ask you whether you wanna chase her again? she call me and said "have you been dating other girls?", i reply: "NOt really..why?" she then said "do you wanna chase me again?" i did not ans that qns..
BCCA Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 hmm..okie..but what if she ask you whether you wanna chase her again? she call me and said "have you been dating other girls?", i reply: "NOt really..why?" she then said "do you wanna chase me again?" i did not ans that qns.. Yeah, she likes the attention. By telling her you havent been dating any other girls youre basically just telling her that youre lost without her, and she can do whatever she wants and youll be there as a safety net. The better answer would have been 'thats not really any of your business', because it isnt. All youre doing is stroking her ago, and making it look like you have no life without her. Im sure she would love to know that youll chase her again, but dude - SHE HAS A BOYFRIEND!!! Nothing says she isnt interested in rekindling anything with you like her dating someone else...
smudge21 Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 hmm..okie..but what if she ask you whether you wanna chase her again? she call me and said "have you been dating other girls?", i reply: "NOt really..why?" she then said "do you wanna chase me again?" i did not ans that qns.. Answer: "been there, done that, didn't work out very well did it. Besides, don't think the guy you left me for would be happy with me chasing you..."
flitzanu Posted November 28, 2011 Posted November 28, 2011 Answer: "been there, done that, didn't work out very well did it. Besides, don't think the guy you left me for would be happy with me chasing you..." +1. she kinda sounds like a bitch.
mattymx Posted November 28, 2011 Posted November 28, 2011 dude look at the positives, youve done nothing and shes the one contacting YOU! Whatever her intentions are, you have to show progress in yourself! its hard to do but see her contacts as u would anyone.....eg dont jump at the chance to respond!! its not about playing it cool/hard to get its about sorting urself out. Feel more about urself than u feel for her and dont read into her contact. Its not about her anymore! dont tell her whats shes missing in you! let her wonder about you!........curiosity killed the cat:)
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