kissing

[majomparade]

k i really want to kiss this girl im seeing and im going to see her tomorrow, i just need to know, because im really new at all this dating stuff, how do i approach kissing her, i believe that my chance is to kiss her as i walk her to her car (we are going to be with friends, but we are most likely are going to get some time alone). I just dont know what to do from here, and at this point im sure i'll be REALLLLYY REALLLY NERVOUS, and then not do it all together :S How do i kiss her? do i just sorta pounce and go in for it? where should i be holding her? should i even be holding her on our first kiss? do i kiss her before or after saying goodbye/goodnight? i really need help lol. Overcoming the nervousness and at least going in for the kiss is my main concern.

[oaks]

Is this your girlfriend who won't let you in the bedroom?

[Feelin Frisky]

I recommend communicating with touch first which will tell you a lot about if and when it's time to elevate things to the lips. Never "pounce". Touch her hands and if she's receptive, lead her into a kissing position. If you're standing up, you mind step in toward her and guide her hand(s) around your waist or back. If she resists then you need to back off a bit. If she accepts and accommodates your move, you're home free to kiss her or touch her face and if you're tall, tilt her head back into position. Then you move gracefully and not impulsively or aggressively. If you're sitting down I still think touching is a good first step. It's body language and is not verbal communication and you can learn to be inviting and assertive in ways that let you know how to behave. Touch starts a progression that is self explanatory and you have to start somewhere.

[D86]

You gotta do it with confidence. Just got for it! If you're nervous, she will sense it and it will be extremely awkward. Maybe have a drink before to loosen up or something.

[thatone]

that's really it, you just need to relax...