watermelonjuice Posted November 24, 2011 Posted November 24, 2011 Back story http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t301139/ I know most LSers would tell me to just put up a photo on my profile but what's with guys that contact you and keep asking for your photos? He's seen one, asked for another with a different profile and yet another. Then he bailed again. Since this isn't the first time it's happened to me, I wasn't as bitter. But it still hurt! No matter how much my friends tell me I'm not ugly and how I know I'm not exactly bad looking, it just isn't nice to be rejected based on it. I've stopped going back to the dating site until this guy persistently messaged me. I thought one won't hurt. And then it did. Who among you have given up on online dating? Why? Since giving it up, what have you done to give your love life a boost?
Feelsgoodman Posted November 24, 2011 Posted November 24, 2011 My suggestion is to post photos that provide an accurate and honest reflection of what you look like in real life (not flattering pics taken from weird angles and then processed in photoshop).
Cee Posted November 24, 2011 Posted November 24, 2011 Online dating can test one's patience and self-esteem. Online dating for me was fun when it was about meeting people. When I wanted an LTR, it became frustrating and demoralizing. I have always met my boyfriends in real life. It works well for me. After I quit online dating, I met my boyfriend 5 months later. If we were on a dating site, we never would have gone on a date. We would have seemed wildly incompatible. But our intellectual and physical chemistry is undeniable. Thank God, I met him at that meetup group. He's the most wonderful boyfriend ever. Get out there and meet people. At the very least you'll make new friends to socialize with.
Alexz Posted November 24, 2011 Posted November 24, 2011 I gave up after a month because my age group (I'm 19), is generally immature and just confused about who they are. Few people around my age seek committed deep relationships, so I understood its worthless to continue with the site. Regardless, its difficult to find a person who shares similar interests, and has a genuinely intriguing personality that maps to yours on an internet dating site. I found people like to feign who they are and mask their bad traits, even when you start engaging in deeper conversation with them. I understand, there are success stories on dating sites. My own sister met the lover of her life on OKcupid, its odd, but it happens. All in all, it varies from person to person. But I think everyone should give it a go, it can be fun if you take it seriously but set your expectations to nothing.
FitChick Posted November 24, 2011 Posted November 24, 2011 My suggestion is to post photos that provide an accurate and honest reflection of what you look like in real life (not flattering pics taken from weird angles and then processed in photoshop). Absolutely. Head shot and full length in good lighting, don't wear a hat, sunglasses or baggy clothes. This goes for both men and women. That way if you are rejected, you will never know it. Isn't that preferable?
Author watermelonjuice Posted November 25, 2011 Author Posted November 25, 2011 Tired of the superficiality. I get the need for physical attraction but the way he hounded me for the photos just screamed weird to me. I agree with Cee. If this guy and I met in real life and clicked, it would have been different. Alexz, I'm not even sure many of them were feigning with masks. I don't always get to that stage. Now I should get back out there! This dating website just drains my confidence and makes me feel down.
Alexz Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 Now I should get back out there! This dating website just drains my confidence and makes me feel down. You're an honest person. People are often superficial and immature. SO long as you had a photo revealing your physique/face, people shouldn't expect more. I'm afraid 90% of people are just looking for shallow sh*t on dating sites. Don't despair, just don't expect too much. Just keep your eyes peeled for a potential catch, and just ignore the jerks requesting creepy crap like more pictures. :/
Author watermelonjuice Posted November 28, 2011 Author Posted November 28, 2011 You're an honest person. People are often superficial and immature. SO long as you had a photo revealing your physique/face, people shouldn't expect more. I'm afraid 90% of people are just looking for shallow sh*t on dating sites. Don't despair, just don't expect too much. Just keep your eyes peeled for a potential catch, and just ignore the jerks requesting creepy crap like more pictures. :/ Thanks, Alexz. I'm giving dating sites a break. Don't have the stomach for it. From my experience, everyone seems to be either jaded from the sites but trying on there for lack of choice to meet people perhaps or just looking for a fling or looking for Miss USA to take the time to know someone. Don't worry, you will encounter a lot of jerk like that in your life. Just keep moving and don't look back. Yes, I have no choice but to move on. Hopefully to something better. It's "sad" when the one guy I had a connection with online was a married guy thinking he's separated but has a liking for me.
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