irc333 Posted November 24, 2011 Posted November 24, 2011 ....This is a follow-up to "You're profile and initial email must suck" There had been times where I had sent emails to women in my area, and they DO mention how they loved my email and profile, my wit in my intro email and all that. Had one recently said that even though she loved my wit, smart, and she thought I was funny....HOWEVER, she thought we wouldn't make a good match. Something about how she prefers a taller man. Most responses, if I do get them.....are from appreciative women who actually thought my profile did NOT suck, but they mostly ended the response with, "I don't think we'd make a good match, good luck in your search" Which probably meant it was some physical criteria. Like the previously mentioned example...height requirement
Emilia Posted November 24, 2011 Posted November 24, 2011 The fact that they reply means you come across well in writing otherwise they would just ignore you. The only thing you can do is keep trying as everyone's taste is different.
Art_Critic Posted November 24, 2011 Posted November 24, 2011 irc333.. it sounds like you have got it.. now just apply the numbers to it and you will have some success... By the way.. if all you are emailing are 10's then you might want to email a variety of women that suit your taste rather than just the hottest..
Art_Critic Posted November 24, 2011 Posted November 24, 2011 I disagee. There are some men none of you will go near no matter how well spoken they are. There is some truth to this.. but moreso in the fact a person's negativity like yours for example comes out in conversation and getting to know someone, irc333 doesn't have that problem.
Andy_K Posted November 24, 2011 Posted November 24, 2011 It's commonly stated that women tend to be far more strict in their physical criteria online than they would in real life, which will make it ridiculously hard for guys like you. In person she can only have one conversation at once. She can warm up to you or change her mind in that time. Online, there's always someone taller or better looking than you, so you will tend not to get that chance to 'work your charm' as it were in the first place. Her attention is elsewhere to begin with. You are doing a lot of things right if you're getting 'thanks, but no thanks' responses. And Kudos for not lying about your height on your profile. An awful lot of guys do, from what girls have told me.
Author irc333 Posted November 24, 2011 Author Posted November 24, 2011 I do tend to vary it up when it comes to physical appearances, this one in particular was okay looking, she actually said she is 5'11, and that is deal breaker for some men...so she even recognized she wasn't all "that". She said most men my height or shorter will date women of ANY height (I'm assuming she's implying short guys are desperate and will date anyone of any height? LOL)...but men around HER height 5'11" .....have a problem with HER height...at least that's her experience. But I typically email women from average, I've avoided some really attractive...but had snarky profiles that kind of rubbed me the wrong way....so I avoided them. I have usually wound up friends with such women because they were attrated to my personality and witty banter (FZ'ed) but that's pretty much it, I have dated a few here and there that were attracted to me FOR my personality though...usually met them in real life. irc333.. it sounds like you have got it.. now just apply the numbers to it and you will have some success... By the way.. if all you are emailing are 10's then you might want to email a variety of women that suit your taste rather than just the hottest..
DearAbby Posted November 24, 2011 Posted November 24, 2011 You are right. Women are more strict during online dating than they would be in real life. For example, they have a set criteria online like: "I won't date anyone shorter then 5'8." But, if the same girl met you out in a bar and you came over and wowed her with your dynamic personality and nice smile you may be able to overcome her height requirement. Online, you never get past that. He doesn't meet my criteria- NEXT.
Andy_K Posted November 24, 2011 Posted November 24, 2011 She said most men my height or shorter will date women of ANY height (I'm assuming she's implying short guys are desperate and will date anyone of any height? LOL)...but men around HER height 5'11" .....have a problem with HER height...at least that's her experience. She's probably right. I like girls to be between around 5'2" and 5'8", give or take, and I'm 5'11". Dating a girl my height or taller is not going to happen unless I'm absolutely blown away by her other characteristics.
Author irc333 Posted November 25, 2011 Author Posted November 25, 2011 She's probably right. I like girls to be between around 5'2" and 5'8", give or take, and I'm 5'11". Dating a girl my height or taller is not going to happen unless I'm absolutely blown away by her other characteristics. Considering she just RECENTLY moved into a town where you have to drive 50 miles from either side to run a red light......she might realize her options are very limited, and she might have to make an adjustment to her unimportant criteria.
grkBoy Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 IRC333, out of all the troubles you've had in dating, I've seen you come a long way and grow to the point of getting some results. In all honesty, I think the main things that work against you right now are: 1) Your location. You live in a small town with a small dating pool. Plus the women are more willing to be alone as opposed to "picking from what's available". 2) Differences in lifestyle/mentality. We've seen that you're a more classy "old school" kind of thinker in regards to lifestyle, morality, etc. Unfortunately too many others don't share your ideals...thus some find it unappealing. Don't take this as a "downer", but more just that it's a challenge finding someone who shares your values. 3) The demands of the women in your dating pool. Again, I think a lot of the women who live in or move to your neck of the woods are hoping for that tall hot hunk who somehow never got taken by a local girl, but instead find perfectly good average Joes like yourself...thus they think they will hold out and wait for a "better" that never arrives. Keep doing what you're doing...because it shows you're not "female repellent". I personally still think most of it is your location and the mentalities of the women in your dating pool.
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