Gypsie Posted November 24, 2011 Posted November 24, 2011 My ex boyfriend and I had really great chemistry and got along really well. Even one of our mutual friends said she thought things were going great with him and I at the start. He ends up ending it with me because he had little time for me because of work and study. At times he would cancel on me as well and I was getting a little frustrated because I was not seeing him as much as I would like. We had a talk about it and I tried to talk him around seeing me at least one day a week and he still could not promise me that. I did not think I was asking for to much and did not have to see him everyday. I had my own friends and life as well. I could have lived with that. Still. He was pretty skeptical because I did sound a little bit upset in some of my texts I sent him when he cancelled. Wish I had not initiated texts as much. Maybe that might have made a difference and keep thinking if I had just backed off things might have been different. I was then just willing to go with the flow again and then he tells me he is not ready for something serious either. He had gotten out of a serious '****ty relationship' he called it last year and was not in the right frame of mind to start something new. He said he still would like to remain friends though. He admitted to still liking me and gave me a compliment on my new hair cut and even went on about catching up again. It has now been a month and a half since we broke up. I have not heard from him at all. I did no contact but did cave a few times and sent like 3 texts over that period of time. Every couple of weeks. The last one was very short and was only one sentence. This was after I had deleted him off Facebook. I replied back to it and got no response. Got really annoyed by the fact he did not seem to want anything to do with me and ended up deleting his number. Realising he reacted this way with the last two as well. But when I wished him Happy Birthday on the one before hand. He did tell me to have fun in Queensland. Remembering I was going away that weekend. He was less friendlier in the last one and that kind of hurt. Backing off now though. Hence deleting the numbers and stuff. Just do not understand why he is being so cold to me when he was the one that dumped me and wanted to be friends in the first place. It hurt so much I ended up blocking him on Facebook. I keep blaming myself. Thinking if only I had done things a different way. I feel like I pressured him and scared him off without really meaning to and now he is probably out dating other girls and stuff. Now we don't talk or hang out at all.
Andy_K Posted November 24, 2011 Posted November 24, 2011 Stop getting hung up on one guy. Judging by his behaviour, he wasn't nearly as into you as you were to him. Don't you think you'd be happier with someone who genuinely liked you enough to make time for you?
Emilia Posted November 24, 2011 Posted November 24, 2011 I think he wasn't prepared to step it up to the level where he would have been required to make more compromises to keep the relationship going. I think the fact that he doesn't really want any contact indicates that he has moved on and probably wasn't that invested in the first place. I don't think any of this is your fault, sounds like most of it was out of your control (hence your upset text messages with him when you were together).
phineas Posted November 24, 2011 Posted November 24, 2011 Once a week is not too much. I work full time & only have 3 evenings without my kids & even though I have other things that need to get done in those 3 evenings I would still make time for a woman I wanted to see. when it comes to women, I got no time for women who got no time for me.
Feelsgoodman Posted November 24, 2011 Posted November 24, 2011 He ends up ending it with me because he had little time for me because of work and study. At times he would cancel on me as well and I was getting a little frustrated because I was not seeing him as much as I would like. We had a talk about it and I tried to talk him around seeing me at least one day a week and he still could not promise me that. If he couldn't find time to see you once a week, he wasn't that into you. End of story.
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