Dating, texting and mixed messages?

[Ashnz]

Hi All, I need some prespective on this situation. I feel so deeply submerged in the situation that I don't seem to be able to think clearly at the moment.

 

I saw this girl about 2 years ago at a family function. She's my dad's friend's daughter. Over the two years I saw her about once every month through family. Because mine and her family were always around, I could not really ask her out as both of our families are conservative.

 

So about two months ago I decided to add her on facebook. We really hit off on facebook with exchanging daily comments and messages. Messages were always fun and flirty. At times I had to stop open discussion/comment threads because it seemed too flirty for it to be in public.

 

Then I asked her to text me so we would have privacy. She did and we continued to have fun on texts often texting each other at late nights.We made a fun/friendly bet and because she lost, she said she would take me out for lunch. So two days ago we went to lunch after I picked her from work. I really like this girl so I was obviously nervous. I must admit there were few awkward moments. At the end of the "date" we went to her best friend's work place so she could catch a ride home with her. There she even introduced me to her best friend and it all ended with a hug. Apart from few awkward moments, it was a fun and meaningful

time - we had lunch, shopped a little bit and had coffee before seeing her friend.

 

Since then I have been having an uncomfortable feeling - she seems to be a little more hesitant in texting me. I texted her after that lunch and she sounded little coldish. I thought she must be busy. Day before yesterday I told her to text me during her work break (like usual) or after work. She texted me at 11pm at night saying she was out with friends and busy with chores around the house. Funny thing is, during this time she actually commented on one of my facebook pictures.. surely if she's free enough for facebook, she's free enough to text?

 

Today I texted her at about 3pm asking how her day was going. She hasn't replied until now (about 3 hours later). During this time she actually was active on facebook and commented on one of my pictures. I am pretty sure that again tonight she will text me at about 11PM (her usual time) about how she was busy and couldn't reply to my text at that time. Last night she texted at 11Pm. I was almost sleep at that time so I just said I will talk to her today. She replied "ok, good night :-)".

 

She has told me that she is not a big fan of texting - she told me how her friends are always mad at her for not texting them back - but when I was with her she seemed to be replying to her texts straight away. And if she really liked me then surely she would make an effort to reply back within reasonable time frame? Since our date we haven't had the continuity in texting for me to even tell her that I enjoyed my time with her or that I would like to see her again..

 

And just to clear up, I do not think I'm crowding her with my texts - I rarely text her twice in a row without her reply and usually only initiate text conversation about once a day - surely that's reasonable with a girl you've been out on? I must admit in my last relationship I was an overly keen texter and my ex wasn't which led to problems.

 

What do you think about the situation? They are just texts afterall? And if she did not really like me then why is she is

out commenting on my pictures? Or even reply to my texts at all? Talk about mixed messages -_-

 

How should I proceed? Should I just call her tomorrow? Apart from seeing her, I've only talked with her once on the phone. Or should I just ask her to be open and direct with me?

 

As I read what I've wrote above, it sounds like I am being a little too sensitive. But I will post this anyway to get fresh prespectives

Edited November 24, 2011 by Ashnz

[Ashnz]

Anyone? I know its a long read but still .. Lol