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mike588 Established Member

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Who broke up with who? Age?

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dont get ur hopes up mate,maybe is better than a no but it could turn out to be a no so dont ger hopes up is what id say

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were in our mid twenties. i told her, im glad you brought this up, i can see now that this is the best thing for us both. 2 days after the breakup, she initiated contact 3 times, one just after i gave her that message, and two times asking about everything in my life. i called her a month after and she agreed to a meetup, she sounded really happy. and now we might go to her "schooltown" and she is acting in a different way now. she might feel that im dating someone, long story, but i aint doing that. and she might testing me, what do you think?

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were in our mid twenties. i told her, im glad you brought this up, i can see now that this is the best thing for us both. 2 days after the breakup, she initiated contact 3 times, one just after i gave her that message, and two times asking about everything in my life. i called her a month after and she agreed to a meetup, she sounded really happy. and now we might go to her "schooltown" and she is acting in a different way now. she might feel that im dating someone, long story, but i aint doing that. and she might testing me, what do you think?

 

Still don't know much of the story even reading your other thread. If she broke up with you and is now contacting you and you want her back go slow,,very slow.

 

Don't come across as to needy, if she broke up with you play alittle hard to get.

 

Yes she may be testing you,, may be,, to see where you stand and what you want.

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Still don't know much of the story even reading your other thread. If she broke up with you and is now contacting you and you want her back go slow,,very slow.

 

Don't come across as to needy, if she broke up with you play alittle hard to get.

 

Yes she may be testing you,, may be,, to see where you stand and what you want.

 

 

 

yeah, damn in so stupid, i have practically been half ignoring her 1 month, and she still asks me stuff, when i call her she sounded happier then ever, and she wanted to see me, but now i dont know, mixed signals. i dont want to get my hopes up, but i did for a while, and now im not sure, and not knowing is the worst feeling of them all.

 

i haven't used any form of begging since we broke up, neither have i brought anything up about the relationship. and the way the conversation ended, she didn't say good night or anything, shes acting like i did. maybe she's just testing me, and maybe i shouldnt go to the town.

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yeah, damn in so stupid, i have practically been half ignoring her 1 month, and she still asks me stuff, when i call her she sounded happier then ever, and she wanted to see me, but now i dont know, mixed signals. i dont want to get my hopes up, but i did for a while, and now im not sure, and not knowing is the worst feeling of them all.

 

i haven't used any form of begging since we broke up, neither have i brought anything up about the relationship. and the way the conversation ended, she didn't say good night or anything, shes acting like i did. maybe she's just testing me, and maybe i shouldnt go to the town.

 

Well the ignoring her has maybe made her miss you and see what's up. If you want her back and she is showing interest in you then meet up with her and judge her actions and see what she has to say.

 

Just don't come across as you've been miserable without her,, be alittle of a challenge to her.Let her do most of the talking, be polite,don't come across as a needy wuss.

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Well the ignoring her has maybe made her miss you and see what's up. If you want her back and she is showing interest in you then meet up with her and judge her actions and see what she has to say.

 

Just don't come across as you've been miserable without her,, be alittle of a challenge to her.Let her do most of the talking, be polite,don't come across as a needy wuss.

 

 

yeah i know, i hope i didnt screwed things up now, i mean if she wants to see me, she will. i hope that she's not gonna lie to me, because i've never lied to her. i hope she's testing me, because i dont wanna go 2hour roadtrip and to realize that she dont want to see me, then the whole weekend would be miserable. btw how is it working with your ex?, i remember your threads

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yeah i know, i hope i didnt screwed things up now, i mean if she wants to see me, she will. i hope that she's not gonna lie to me, because i've never lied to her. i hope she's testing me, because i dont wanna go 2hour roadtrip and to realize that she dont want to see me, then the whole weekend would be miserable. btw how is it working with your ex?, i remember your threads

 

Well it may mess your whole weekend and you may not like the results but at least you will know where you stand.

 

Prepare for the worst and hope for the best. As far as my ex. and I,, well it's been 3 1/2 months ago,,, 3 1/4 weeks of strict N.C.,,,, havent heard a word from her,,, don't really expect to until they breakup (if they breakup again, 3rd time) then I most likely will hear from her?

 

Sometimes I wish to hear from her,,, then again sometimes I don't!

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Well it may mess your whole weekend and you may not like the results but at least you will know where you stand.

 

Prepare for the worst and hope for the best. As far as my ex. and I,, well it's been 3 1/2 months ago,,, 3 1/4 weeks of strict N.C.,,,, havent heard a word from her,,, don't really expect to until they breakup (if they breakup again, 3rd time) then I most likely will hear from her?

 

Sometimes I wish to hear from her,,, then again sometimes I don't!

 

 

yeah but i do feel thats she's testing me, because she acts the same way i did when we texted, and then a week after. she called me up instantly because she didnt answer because of work, and she texted me about the call, i asked her for 2 minutes, sounded real happy for a meetup. and now she does this.. never try to understand a woman they say.

 

do you think woman feel that when something doesn't work out as they planned they often dump the guy even if theyre inlove with him? its not easy to show her that youve changed if you cant meet her

 

 

ah so she's in a relationship, forgot that. thats hard. hope your managing to stay strong.

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yeah but i do feel thats she's testing me, because she acts the same way i did when we texted, and then a week after. she called me up instantly because she didnt answer because of work, and she texted me about the call, i asked her for 2 minutes, sounded real happy for a meetup. and now she does this.. never try to understand a woman they say.

 

do you think woman feel that when something doesn't work out as they planned they often dump the guy even if theyre inlove with him? its not easy to show her that youve changed if you cant meet her

 

 

ah so she's in a relationship, forgot that. thats hard. hope your managing to stay strong.

 

Your reading way to much into this,, relax. Meet with her,tell her what you want,, what you expect in the relationship and go from there.

 

As far as women dumping you when when things don't go their way well,,,a committed partner looks for a solution to the problems,a uncommited partner looks for a reason to escape.

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Your reading way to much into this,, relax. Meet with her,tell her what you want,, what you expect in the relationship and go from there.

 

As far as women dumping you when when things don't go their way well,,,a committed partner looks for a solution to the problems,a uncommited partner looks for a reason to escape.

 

 

this has been going for 1 month, im feeling better i really do. but i cant stop thinking about her. i dont know if there's a waste of time, maybe i should wait for her to come to my hometown before i make any moves, i will tell by her emotions how she'll react

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this has been going for 1 month, im feeling better i really do. but i cant stop thinking about her. i dont know if there's a waste of time, maybe i should wait for her to come to my hometown before i make any moves, i will tell by her emotions how she'll react

 

That's your call. Can you wait till then?

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i say go on the trip no matter what. don't tell her you have decided to go unless she directly asks. don't call her right when u get there to say you have arrived. i say wait till you've been there awile. maybe next day. shows her that shes not constant;y on ypur mind

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mike: well its probably just one week, so i guess. and it might make look less needy. lets say i dont go there, maybe i should stick with NC, but then again if she doesn't contact me i will act needy by asking her again. hard decision. i think i either go there and ask her out, or i call her and tell her that im not going there, and that she could give me a call if she wants to see me later on.

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i say go on the trip no matter what. don't tell her you have decided to go unless she directly asks. don't call her right when u get there to say you have arrived. i say wait till you've been there awile. maybe next day. shows her that shes not constant;y on ypur mind

 

 

yeah that would be the best idea. im thinking about that to, saturday would be great.

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yeah that would be the best idea. im thinking about that to, saturday would be great.

 

 

i am seriously thinking about not going there, im thinking about go full NC. dont ever try to understand girls.

 

1. she might be scared to promise something, and when i ask her, she have to say that she cant. it could really be that easy. but what are the odds?

 

2. she's testing me to see where i stand. acting like i am when im i on NC/LC

 

3. she doesn't wanna see me right now, she might still do it, but she dont want to, because she feels she got better things to do this weekend. with that said, she might see me when she comes back here. but she isn't gonna do it now.

 

 

if its the last one. then she's lying to me, and that would be the most hurtful thing to me. because i have never lied to her before, i just ask her to be honest, she cant hurt me more anyways

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