nyckidd Posted November 23, 2011 Posted November 23, 2011 She broke up with me over a month ago and we have NC for 5 weeks. She text me once in between that time on our would be anny to say she was thinking of me and hopes Im doing good, and hoped that my day was going well. I ignored because I was just wasn't ready for contact. From what I heard she did't take this to kindly but I mean I had to do it for myself I didn't want to keep in touch and keep hurting. Tom. will be thanksgiving and I've been missing her like crazy despite the way she acted after the BU. For the past 2 years We went to the Macy's parade in NYC together and my mind is just plagued with memories. I was considering sending her a text just to re open lines of communication. I miss her so much, but in the same sense I just want to continue NC. I don't know how or if she would even respond to a text from me. I've just been really mixed up lately. My anger towards her is fading and I just want to talk to her. Any suggestions or advice?
ChelseaLS Posted November 23, 2011 Posted November 23, 2011 It's pretty normal to be all over the map with emotions right now. I am 47 days since BU and I can fully understand. I think it's best if you keep up the NC. Let her come to you if that's what is meant to be. Don't take a step back in your healing by contacting her, because if she doesn't reciprocate, it's going to hurt. I guarantee she is thinking about you as well.. you both scared a life together, so it was be hard for to just dismiss the thoughts especially in the holiday season. Chin up. We are all in the same boat right now... battling with yourselves over contact and ex's. It will get better.
ken_25 Posted November 23, 2011 Posted November 23, 2011 Ok she reached out to you and you didn't respond. Now, if you reach out to her and she doesn't respond, is that going to hurt? if yes, then i wouldn't do it. You feel torn to contact, but what's your gut telling you? Follow your instinct.
Paper Roses Posted November 23, 2011 Posted November 23, 2011 Ok she reached out to you and you didn't respond. Now, if you reach out to her and she doesn't respond, is that going to hurt? if yes, then i wouldn't do it. You feel torn to contact, but what's your gut telling you? Follow your instinct. What he said. ^^^^ Be prepared for rejection. If I were her, I'd eat glass before responding to you. When she came to you, she may have been hurting and you dismissed her. But you know her, I don't. Either way, it hurts and I'm sorry you are going through this. I wish the best scenario for you.
Author nyckidd Posted November 23, 2011 Author Posted November 23, 2011 Ok she reached out to you and you didn't respond. Now, if you reach out to her and she doesn't respond, is that going to hurt? if yes, then i wouldn't do it. You feel torn to contact, but what's your gut telling you? Follow your instinct. I didn't respond because I felt like why are you reminding me of our anny and telling me you thinking about me if you left me? And yea that would probably hurt which is one of the reasons I am so hesitant to contact her. My head is telling me 'don't contact her, she did you wrong after the breakup' And my heart is saying 'contact her because you really miss her and the angry feelings you had for her are going away.' So it's hard to chose which one I want to do..
Author nyckidd Posted November 23, 2011 Author Posted November 23, 2011 What he said. ^^^^ Be prepared for rejection. If I were her, I'd eat glass before responding to you. When she came to you, she may have been hurting and you dismissed her. But you know her, I don't. Either way, it hurts and I'm sorry you are going through this. I wish the best scenario for you. Well she started talking to some other guy a couple weeks after we broke up so I felt like why are you talking to me if your talking to someone else? I was just angry.
ken_25 Posted November 23, 2011 Posted November 23, 2011 Follow your gut, not your head or your heart. It's just a feeling man, and I would go with it.
Author nyckidd Posted November 24, 2011 Author Posted November 24, 2011 Follow your gut, not your head or your heart. It's just a feeling man, and I would go with it. I want to contact her I really do, but I think my gut is saying just to remain in silence until I heal idk
sunflower11 Posted November 24, 2011 Posted November 24, 2011 Hey, honestly, I just broke NC. I called he answerd and I said hey..and he hung up. Don't do it. I am hurting so bad right now...seriously don't do it. You never get what you expect out of it and I regret it so much.
Author nyckidd Posted November 24, 2011 Author Posted November 24, 2011 Hey, honestly, I just broke NC. I called he answerd and I said hey..and he hung up. Don't do it. I am hurting so bad right now...seriously don't do it. You never get what you expect out of it and I regret it so much. Thanks for the advice I won't. And you'll be fine. I did that in my last breakup with my ex ex and she actually had a guy pick up the phone so I know how you feel if not worse!
hoping2heal Posted November 24, 2011 Posted November 24, 2011 I think you have been NC because you know without it the hurt you are feeling now is going to be worse. You're protecting your heart - you have every right to do that and you're being smart. She didn't like it? Tough crap, it is not your obligation to make her feel good about herself or stroke her ego just because it is what she wants. If she doesn't want to be in a relationship that is her decision but dumpers need to remember to be fair to dumpees - give them a clean break. Let them heal and move on, don't string along someone you have no intention of getting back together just because you want the security of someone pining for you. You have been smart so far and I can imagine tomorrow will be really difficult but then it is going to pass - not the difficulty but the day itself. Maybe you could do something reasonably enjoyable tomorrow? I know it isn't going to make you stop thinking of her or take the hurt away but it is time to make some new, good memories that don't include her. It will help remind you that you can do that still - make good memories even with her gone. She broke up with me over a month ago and we have NC for 5 weeks. She text me once in between that time on our would be anny to say she was thinking of me and hopes Im doing good, and hoped that my day was going well. I ignored because I was just wasn't ready for contact. From what I heard she did't take this to kindly but I mean I had to do it for myself I didn't want to keep in touch and keep hurting. Tom. will be thanksgiving and I've been missing her like crazy despite the way she acted after the BU. For the past 2 years We went to the Macy's parade in NYC together and my mind is just plagued with memories. I was considering sending her a text just to re open lines of communication. I miss her so much, but in the same sense I just want to continue NC. I don't know how or if she would even respond to a text from me. I've just been really mixed up lately. My anger towards her is fading and I just want to talk to her. Any suggestions or advice?
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