Paper Roses Posted November 23, 2011 Posted November 23, 2011 My story is long, so I won't bore you with the details. He's lied to me, taken me for granted, cheated and while I am still crazy about the person he PRETENDED to be when we first met, I have no use for him now. I'm still hurt, bitter and would, to be honest, like a little revenge. Past couole of weeks, he's been texting sweet nothings to me, blowing up my phone and knocking on my door. I've been ignoring him. No contact has been made for almost 3 weeks. Last time I answered his call, told him I'd call him right back and never did, taste of his own medicine right there. I understand that I cannot hurt a man who cares nothing about me, but I'm hoping to mow down his ego. Is my best course of action to talk to him and tell him I'd sooner have a festering head wound than him or keep ignoring him? I've been told by a male friend that cutting off contact with no explanation is THE WORST, at least for him it was. Try not to judge me for wanting to hit back a little, this guy really did hurt me alot. Thanks in advance. <3
Chi townD Posted November 23, 2011 Posted November 23, 2011 I understand you wanting to get some revenge and telling him what you REALLY think about him. But, what would that accomplish really in the end. The best revenge you can get is to lead a good life. To make improvements to yourself for the positive. Believe me, he'll find out how well you're doing and he'll be the one kicking himself in the butt. Stay NC, your silence speaks volumes. He knows he wronged you. That's why he's reaching out to you. So, he can try to put himself in a better light with you and put you on the back burner. If you you go off and tell him that he's pond scum and lower than dirt; then, all you've accomplished is confirming in his head that he was justified in cheating and leaving you because you're mean and nasty. Don't give him the satisfaction. You're better than that. Stay NC.
mike588 Posted November 23, 2011 Posted November 23, 2011 I understand you wanting to get some revenge and telling him what you REALLY think about him. But, what would that accomplish really in the end. The best revenge you can get is to lead a good life. To make improvements to yourself for the positive. Believe me, he'll find out how well you're doing and he'll be the one kicking himself in the butt. Stay NC, your silence speaks volumes. He knows he wronged you. That's why he's reaching out to you. So, he can try to put himself in a better light with you and put you on the back burner. If you you go off and tell him that he's pond scum and lower than dirt; then, all you've accomplished is confirming in his head that he was justified in cheating and leaving you because you're mean and nasty. Don't give him the satisfaction. You're better than that. I agree. Let him remember you in a good way not a nasty hateful way.
Author Paper Roses Posted November 23, 2011 Author Posted November 23, 2011 (edited) Thank you guys so much! I appreciate that you didn't skewer me for wanting to hit back, even if it's just a little bit. I believe you are right, he's calling, wanting to talk and see me because he knows I was crazy for him, I played no games and decided to let this one know how I felt without the b.s., he wants to keep me around as an option. I hope he stops soon, ignoring him like this is killing me, I hope he doesn't know that... I'm determined to get over this guy who doesn't deserve a woman like me. Ya'll are so sweet. Made me feel better. Edited November 23, 2011 by Paper Roses typo
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