majomparade Posted November 23, 2011 Posted November 23, 2011 Over the course of the last couple of years my best friend started dating a girl from my school, and then after a couple of months dating got her pregnant after a night of drinking. After a while i became really good friends with this girl and we were all very close, and then the baby came along. After a while I realized i was falling in love with my best friends girlfriend and was becoming really attatched to her son. For half a year i became very depressed and still am, knowing that i was in love with her and not being able to do anything because it would hurt the people i care most about. I kept it to myself for quite a long time, I knew that i didn`t want to lose any friends and heald it all in. However after a while they began fighting on a regular basis and my best friend (the father) at one point told her that he felt like it was all to much and he wanted to be free to date other people. They are now on the verge of breaking up and his girlfriend came to me for advice. I basically told her that she deserves better and that he needs to grow up, now im trying to talk some sense into my friend... I told him how one of the reasons i was depressed was because i was jealous of what he had, and being single isnt such a great thing. but he didnt listen and i fear that they are going to break up and im going to lose both my god son and his mother as friends.. I think im in love with her and i dont know what to do, If they break up should I tell her how i feel.. or should i keep it all inside and hope that things work out for the best for everyone. Im doing my best to hold them together but i dont think its going to happen. I`d rather have them in my life as friends then not at all.
dizy Posted November 24, 2011 Posted November 24, 2011 you sound like a really good guy. but i doubt that you are ready to take all the responsibilities that come with.. A BABY! thats not even yours! you can give it a try but take things slowly I doubt that ur friends gf or ex can survive another failure in a short amount of time. take care
dasein Posted November 24, 2011 Posted November 24, 2011 You will have to decide whether your love is more important or these people in your life because pursuing the former brings a very high risk of losing all of them forever. The odds of things turning out well for you if you make such a declaration are slim to none. What if they do break up? They still have the baby connecting them and the possibility of reconciliation and yoyoing back and forth. Want to hang around during that process? Get out and meet other women. Go NC with this woman until you find another or get your head clear and can see this situation realistically for what it is. Good luck.
ChessPieceFace Posted November 24, 2011 Posted November 24, 2011 Is love ever clear-headed or realistic? I don't know. OP, my only advice is to not take any 1 person's advice.
oaks Posted November 24, 2011 Posted November 24, 2011 Over the course of the last couple of years my best friend started dating a girl from my school, and then after a couple of months dating got her pregnant after a night of drinking. After a while i became really good friends with this girl and we were all very close, and then the baby came along. After a while I realized i was falling in love with my best friends girlfriend and was becoming really attatched to her son. For half a year i became very depressed and still am, knowing that i was in love with her and not being able to do anything because it would hurt the people i care most about. Stop yanking our chain. In your other threads you're a 17year old; an 18 year old with no experience; you met someone online and went on a date; you're someone whose ex gf attended the same college; you're a single guy aged 40 who doesn't want kids and wants a girl who doesn't want kids either; your gf is mad at you and doesn't let you in the bedroom because you cheated on her with a pregnant girl. I see that your homepage in your profile is a commercial dating site that frequently turns up here in spam/advertising messages. I'm not sure if you'll read this because you never seem to come back to the threads you start, but I recommend that you seek counselling for your multiple personality disorder.
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