spanky Posted May 25, 2004 Posted May 25, 2004 My wonderful perfect boyfriend (my future husband/man of my dreams) broke up with me on Mother's day because he says my feelings for him were stronger than his for me and he felt like he was leading me on. I am crushed and devastated over the whole thing. I tried to think of every possible way for me to get him to want me back. Finally after lots of tears, ice cream and chocolate, I snapped back into reality and realized that I have to let him go. SOOooooo...... I started to go out more and I met a few guys and actually had a wonderful date last night. It was very healing to feel beautiful and wanted again. Well, besides a great date, I coincidently bumped into some of my ex-b/f co-workers. Well, we haven't been broken up very long and I still feel like I want him back. I'm sure he'll find out that I was out drinking margaritas with another man and I'm wondering what his reaction is gonna be. Will he be happy that I've moved on? Will he be mad? Will he reevaluate his choices and beg for me back? HHMMMmmmmm........I wonder? Anyone have any advice, input, or experience with a situation like this? Thanks! Spanks
Miss_Prolixity Posted May 26, 2004 Posted May 26, 2004 Hi Spanky, I can't really interpret what your ex feels like knowing that you're dating again. But I will say this. IMO, it is far more attractive to know that someone is living their life and going out, than staying at home feeling exhausted over their break-up. It reminds me of a situation my brother was faced with. He had broken up with a girl he was with for a year. He just didn't feel that spark towards her he once had (as most people don't, after the initial "infatuation" period wears off). Anyways, at first she was needy and clingy but it was only pushing him further away. So, after four months of this, she decides she wasn't going to wait around for him (although they remained friends). So she finally starts dating and got fairly serious with another gentleman. Well, as soon as my brother found out, he realized he could lose her and how much he really loved her. Now they're back together (going on three years) and have future plans to marry. Not to say all exes end up back together, but the fact that she started to live her life again and was happy made some type of impact. Even if you two don't end up back together, at least you're opening yourself up to new possibilities.
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