arbrne_vet Posted November 23, 2011 Posted November 23, 2011 i called her last night. she had sent me a text telling me she wanted to talk to me. i found out she is seeing a co-worker now. someone about 12 years younger than her. so i called and asked what she wanted to talk about, and she said "i don't know". so then we got into a conversation about how everything was my fault, citing examples as far back as 6 months after we first met. we were supposed to meet Friday.... i sent her a text today, and told her there were some things i needed to discuss with her regarding friday. she called, and i very polity and calmly asked her, why she wanted to talk to me, and what she wanted for an out come. then she said again, "i don't know". so i very calmly and polity told her i knew she was seeing someone, and why would i want to talk to her if she was seeing someone, and she does not know what she wants. i have been hearing the "i don't know" what i want for the past year, and the "i need time" ya, she needed time alright. time to string me along till something better comes along. then i ask for my ring, and she knows the the deal will be finalized, so she contacts me, not knowing i know she is going out with someone. so, she tried to string me along again. tried to play on my emotions. not working anymore. i see her for who she really is. a manipulator. i am fuuuuuuucking pissed right now, for allowing this bile to go on for so long. it's time to be me..... again!!!
ChelseaLS Posted November 23, 2011 Posted November 23, 2011 i called her last night. she had sent me a text telling me she wanted to talk to me. i found out she is seeing a co-worker now. someone about 12 years younger than her. so i called and asked what she wanted to talk about, and she said "i don't know". so then we got into a conversation about how everything was my fault, citing examples as far back as 6 months after we first met. we were supposed to meet Friday.... i sent her a text today, and told her there were some things i needed to discuss with her regarding friday. she called, and i very polity and calmly asked her, why she wanted to talk to me, and what she wanted for an out come. then she said again, "i don't know". so i very calmly and polity told her i knew she was seeing someone, and why would i want to talk to her if she was seeing someone, and she does not know what she wants. i have been hearing the "i don't know" what i want for the past year, and the "i need time" ya, she needed time alright. time to string me along till something better comes along. then i ask for my ring, and she knows the the deal will be finalized, so she contacts me, not knowing i know she is going out with someone. so, she tried to string me along again. tried to play on my emotions. not working anymore. i see her for who she really is. a manipulator. i am fuuuuuuucking pissed right now, for allowing this bile to go on for so long. it's time to be me..... again!!! Good job on coming to this realization and moving forward.
Chi townD Posted November 23, 2011 Posted November 23, 2011 DUDE!!! You now know that she's seeing someone else. She's giving herself to some other guy! WAKE UP CALL!!!!! That should be enough information for you to move on! You ask what she wants, and she doesn't know!!! Well, that should be enough information for you to know!!!!! Move on! she should become a distant memory to you now!
geegirl Posted November 23, 2011 Posted November 23, 2011 In a way, it was a blessing. Be pissed and mad. It was what you needed to seal that coffin. It's much easier to move on when you see them for who they are. I hope you get what you need back and move on with your life. She will never change because this is the only way she knows how to be. Good luck in getting that ring back. Just stand your ground.
Author arbrne_vet Posted November 23, 2011 Author Posted November 23, 2011 as much as i want my ring back, i am not sure if i want the hassle. i don't want to see her, i don't want a confrontation. i don't want endless calls and texts when she gets the paper. She is such a messed up person. her family is not even talking to her now. the only person left in her life is her daughter, and she said she is fighting tooth and nail to keep her. Soooooooooooo many times, it thought she would come around. But i finally saw the real her, when i was calm and spoke to her, and asked her what she wanted to come out of our meeting. when i heard her "i don't know" that was the straw that broke the camels back. then the texts. i think all she wanted was to string me along, to see how things go with this guy she is seeing. if things did not work out, then she had me. i have been strung along wayyyy too long. i have had my heart drug through the mud, stomped on, and kicked around. i am tired of it. she just lost the best thing she ever had, ME!!
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