dizy Posted November 23, 2011 Posted November 23, 2011 I didnt want to talk about this because it still hurts but I realized that I need some opinions since I am acting like a kid. There was this guy who flirted intensely with me. I liked him very much and it was great. Then I introduced him to a friend of mine, they talked for a couple of minutes. my friend added him on facebook. and the next day? he left a comment under my friends picture saying shes cute. No big deal. We were not even dating so I get absolutely nothing to say about that. but I was really hurt by the fact that he was being flirting with MY FRIEND not the fact that he was flirting. I mean obviously my friend is going to talk to me about this. In fact she was very shocked that someone who talked to her for less than 5 min would leave a flirty comment like that (trust me it's not "nice pict, you look great" but almost an adoration way of saying shes pretty). I was really hurt by the fact that he didnt care what I would have felt about that. For me it was pretty clear that he was trying to give me a clear msg: yeah maybe we flirted a bit but it doesnt mean anything, look im flirting with your friend. its very hurtful because it came out of nowhere. I was almost going to ask him to a date when that happened. anyway, I was trying to digest that since last week, but it's just so hard because we see each other often since we have same classes. and honestly i just want him to stay away from me. I don't hate him for not liking me or even for flirting with me when he knows that hes not interested, but I really need some space, and I acted distant and maybe unfriendly. I know hes mad and I am pretty disapointed at myself too. I want to be the mature one saying that nothing went wrong and just act like nothing happened. but I just cant. I am really mad at myself Sorry for the long story. I need some concrete advice on how to deal with the situation.
ditzchic Posted November 23, 2011 Posted November 23, 2011 Why would you want to date someone that flirts with every girl he meets then facebook creeps them? I understand it sucks when you realize someone you're kinda into isn't the person you thought (and really hoped) they were. But that's life. There really is no way to "handle" this. Be happy you found this out now before you pulled the trigger on dating someone that wasn't right for you.
Author dizy Posted November 23, 2011 Author Posted November 23, 2011 thanks for replying. I am actually getting over him. its just hard because we have to see each other often. The problem is I want to keep my distance and he is mad because he doesn't know what happened. Technically we are still friends and friends dont act distant and cold. I understand all this, its just There is no way for me to act just like nothing happened. I guess I should just keep my distance. Its sad that I will have to lose a friend.
ditzchic Posted November 24, 2011 Posted November 24, 2011 he is mad because he doesn't know what happened. Technically we are still friends and friends dont act distant and cold. Friends also don't lead their friends on romantically and then hit on their other friends. Don't worry about him. He's a big boy. He'll be fine. Worry about you and how you can start picking better friends.
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