Tailspin Posted November 23, 2011 Posted November 23, 2011 We fixed the problem I mentioned in my other post on here, but now some other ones have come up. He watches football. I know it's just a sport, but it's really violent. So many people get hurt and the violence is just glorified. If I ever have a future with him I don't want us having kids and then our kids grow up around violence. I asked him to stop watching it, or maybe just watch one or two times a year, but he says he really likes watching his team play. And then he watches this guy's videos on youtube. I think he's a comedian but he dressed up in this weird outfit sunglasses and shorts and says sexist things. My boyfriend says it's a joke and a parody, but I'm skeptical. It makes me very uncomfortable that he watches it. He doesn't watch the videos too much with me anymore but he and his friends watch it and laugh all the time. Am I just making this a big deal out of nothing? Or are we doomed? I really like him but I don't about this stuff. Help?
phobos Posted November 23, 2011 Posted November 23, 2011 You sound like an insecure and controlling stupid b*tch. You probably have cold sores! if i was your BF, i would kick you out and change the locks. You are just plain retarded.
fortyninethousand322 Posted November 23, 2011 Posted November 23, 2011 Really? Really?! You know what, he should just give up the football watching and everything else, because you sound like a really special girl.
phineas Posted November 23, 2011 Posted November 23, 2011 I can't tell if tailspin or phobos is the troll in this thread.
Soxfaninfl Posted November 23, 2011 Posted November 23, 2011 That's the funny thing with herpes is you can have it and never have out breaks. Be careful cause I been with two women that had it and didn't tell me or have out breaks and you can still get herpes.
Queen Zenobia Posted November 23, 2011 Posted November 23, 2011 I can't tell if tailspin or phobos is the troll in this thread. tailspin sounds clueless, not trollish. But hey, there are a lot of clueless people out there.
blueeyes_mike Posted November 23, 2011 Posted November 23, 2011 You are complaining that your man watches a sport that is loved by millions and millions of people and a comedian on youtube? Are you for real!!! There are people on Loveshack hurting cause their SO is breaking up their family, couples breaking up cause of cheating, men and women on the verge of mental breakdown and some even contemplating suicide and you are worried about your man watching football? WOW! You have some serious issues!
Author Tailspin Posted November 23, 2011 Author Posted November 23, 2011 I am not clueless and I'm not a troll. But I'm worried that we're not compatible. Some people wouldn't date a republican or a democrat or someone who watched porn, why is my question so different?
Lilmisus Posted November 23, 2011 Posted November 23, 2011 Fact: Never try changing someone you date. No one ends up happy and they may come to resent you in the future for trying to change them. If you can't accept that he watches football (which is not that violent..they tackle each other...not punch each others lights out), and don't appreciate his sense of humor, then move on and let him find someone who will accept him for who he is.
Soxfaninfl Posted November 23, 2011 Posted November 23, 2011 This is a common problem that men watch too much sports and they don't get enough attention.
Author Tailspin Posted November 23, 2011 Author Posted November 23, 2011 I like everything else about him, just not these two things. I mean can't we compromise on the football (maybe he watches less)? and I don't like him watching sexist stuff, sexism is not cool.
TigerCub Posted November 23, 2011 Posted November 23, 2011 Tailspin get a sense of humor. I'm a girl and I laugh about dumb sexist crap all the time - just look at my signature - who cares??! People need to relax and not make an issue out of every little thing. As for the violence in football - its not like he's doing it, he's just watching it. And besides, if you win on the football case, your next mission will be to eliminate any action movies (oooh too violent) and replace them with chick flicks. Don't try to change your guy - as long as he's treating you well - that's all that matters.
Author Tailspin Posted November 23, 2011 Author Posted November 23, 2011 I don't have a problem with some violent movies because it's fiction. Football is real, they really hit people. I read an article once that said football was really metaphorical Nazism, getting people to love their team and hate the other. Maybe I'll let the youtube videos go, but they still kind of bother me.
oaks Posted November 23, 2011 Posted November 23, 2011 We fixed the problem I mentioned in my other post on here, but now some other ones have come up. He watches football. Ugh. Controlling much? I hate to think what happens when he flicks channels to watch a hockey game. Just tell him you're not compatible with him and go and find someone who doesn't like sports and does like fluffy bunnies or whatever floats your boat.
phobos Posted November 23, 2011 Posted November 23, 2011 OP sounds like a FAT, insecure, controlling b*itch with an entitlement complex. What gave you idea OP, that you have a right to tell him what to do?....WHO THE F*CK ARE YOU??????? I bet his friends are telling him what a stupid b#itch you are, like i would.
TigerCub Posted November 23, 2011 Posted November 23, 2011 I don't have a problem with some violent movies because it's fiction. Football is real, they really hit people. I read an article once that said football was really metaphorical Nazism, getting people to love their team and hate the other. Maybe I'll let the youtube videos go, but they still kind of bother me. how old are you? Why do you have to believe what an article once said? Can't you come to your own conclusions about things? How does it hurt you or him if he watches football? Oh and for those players that are get physically hit for real - so what?? they know what they signed up for and they're getting paid well for it - don't lose any sleep over that.
stillafool Posted November 23, 2011 Posted November 23, 2011 We fixed the problem I mentioned in my other post on here, but now some other ones have come up. He watches football. I know it's just a sport, but it's really violent. So many people get hurt and the violence is just glorified. If I ever have a future with him I don't want us having kids and then our kids grow up around violence. I asked him to stop watching it, or maybe just watch one or two times a year, but he says he really likes watching his team play. And then he watches this guy's videos on youtube. I think he's a comedian but he dressed up in this weird outfit sunglasses and shorts and says sexist things. My boyfriend says it's a joke and a parody, but I'm skeptical. It makes me very uncomfortable that he watches it. He doesn't watch the videos too much with me anymore but he and his friends watch it and laugh all the time. Am I just making this a big deal out of nothing? Or are we doomed? I really like him but I don't about this stuff. Help? Football is awesome. My husband and I can't wait for football Sunday. How would you like it if he didn't want you to watch your favorite shows? Would you really deprive your little boy (or girl) from playing a sport like football if they loved it? If I were him I would break up with you.
oaks Posted November 23, 2011 Posted November 23, 2011 omg. i actually agree with a (small) proportion of what RedRussian wrote. Help!
serial muse Posted November 23, 2011 Posted November 23, 2011 omg. i actually agree with a (small) proportion of what RedRussian wrote. Help! Haha, me too. The "insecure" part. OP, football isn't the problem. It sounds like you want to change this guy to be somebody else. But he's who he is. Maybe who he is isn't working for you...well, that happens all the time. But you shouldn't enter into a relationship hoping that someone will "come around" to your way of thinking. That's unfair to him. You sound incompatible.
TigerCub Posted November 23, 2011 Posted November 23, 2011 Football is awesome. My husband and I can't wait for football Sunday. How would you like it if he didn't want you to watch your favorite shows? Would you really deprive your little boy (or girl) from playing a sport like football if they loved it? If I were him I would break up with you. I think its awesome that you and your H both enjoy watching stuff like that together. I'm no football fan, but my bf and I make date nights when UFC pay per views are on - we go to a pub and watch it and have lots of fun - I love our UFC nights OP if you thought football was bad, you'd freak out over UFC - so hey!! it could be worse
hoping2heal Posted November 23, 2011 Posted November 23, 2011 We fixed the problem I mentioned in my other post on here, but now some other ones have come up. He watches football. I know it's just a sport, but it's really violent. So many people get hurt and the violence is just glorified. If I ever have a future with him I don't want us having kids and then our kids grow up around violence. I asked him to stop watching it, or maybe just watch one or two times a year, but he says he really likes watching his team play. And then he watches this guy's videos on youtube. I think he's a comedian but he dressed up in this weird outfit sunglasses and shorts and says sexist things. My boyfriend says it's a joke and a parody, but I'm skeptical. It makes me very uncomfortable that he watches it. He doesn't watch the videos too much with me anymore but he and his friends watch it and laugh all the time. Am I just making this a big deal out of nothing? Or are we doomed? I really like him but I don't about this stuff. Help? You two are doomed because you are so highly incompatible with one another. If you think football is violent and glorifies violence but he really enjoys it - no doubt this is the tip of the iceberg with you two and there will be many things you two can't agree on and neither one of you will be happy.
snowflakes88 Posted November 23, 2011 Posted November 23, 2011 Geez. Yes, you are being totally ridiculous. I mean, does he tie you down and force you to watch football with him? What else is he not allowed to enjoy? I'm assuming boxing and hockey are out of the question. And even if you don't end up with this guy, how are you going to control what your children watch on tv when they're away from your home? Will your "forbid" them from attending football games in high school and/or college? I mean, seriously. You cannot control other people to the extent you seem to believe you can.
Wolf18 Posted November 23, 2011 Posted November 23, 2011 (edited) I don't think Tailspin is a troll. She sounds like a typical American policy-maker/college professor/psychologist. Everything revolves around feminine emotions. I think football is dumb, but have to say most men enjoy violence, it's in our DNA to be violent risk takers. And subconsciously, it probably sexually arouses tailspin to be violent, which is the punchline of women who are always crusading so that the world can have bubblewrap around every corner . Edited November 23, 2011 by Wolf18
Author Tailspin Posted November 23, 2011 Author Posted November 23, 2011 Geez. Yes, you are being totally ridiculous. I mean, does he tie you down and force you to watch football with him? What else is he not allowed to enjoy? I'm assuming boxing and hockey are out of the question. And even if you don't end up with this guy, how are you going to control what your children watch on tv when they're away from your home? Will your "forbid" them from attending football games in high school and/or college? I mean, seriously. You cannot control other people to the extent you seem to believe you can. I don't want to control him, I want him to see what I'm concerned about and share my concerns. I should have known how I was attacked in my last thread that I would be attacked in this one too. I come here for help and advice and everyone just attacks.
Wolf18 Posted November 23, 2011 Posted November 23, 2011 I don't want to control him, I want him to see what I'm concerned about and share my concerns. I should have known how I was attacked in my last thread that I would be attacked in this one too. I come here for help and advice and everyone just attacks. Welcome to the Loveshack Matrix, a place where relativity isn't a religion and you can get criticized . Have you ever thought about his concerns? Maybe he is concerned that you do not share his interests? What if he wants his male children to play violent sports like Boxing when they get older while you want them to play with Nerf?
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