malentendu Posted November 23, 2011 Posted November 23, 2011 I posted my story before but it was misunderstood. I did try the rules but when I went to try to explain myself, my guy already made up his mind to end our relationship. However, he is very hearty and didn't mention me missing dinner (I think he liked all the freedom I gave him). He said he was looking for short term and I was looking for long term and he was leaving in 4 months and didn't want to try long-distance. He barely got to know me. He ignored my rational nice emails asking to meet for tea just for closure. He ignored my texts, which were nice, polite, angry and then begging "I miss you please let me know if we can meet" It's finally been 4 weeks. I still cry every night. I think it's because I just knew the second I met him it would be long term. He is a romantic like me and I just re-read his dating profile and it says he is looking for a serious partner, that could define his existence for the rest of his life and that love is underrated. Long story short. What can I do short of showing up at his door? He ignores me and even though he is wrong, I know I can't force someone to love me. So, I'm sure many of you have been in this predicament. Also, I calculated that from 17-32 I have been heartbroken after falling in love 13 times. Almost once a year. It often takes me a year or two to recover. I think that the older we get the more we want this to be the last time. I definitely want it to be the last time and with this last one I was hopeful for marriage. 6 months before meeting me he'd ended a 4 year relationship with his ex who he was still best friends and work with, so I suspect that. It is selfish I just want to tell him my feelings, and I am leaving for home soon myself, but I still have 2 more months before he leaves town. I wish I could make this work, but with one unwilling partner it's unrequited. Please be kind!
PegNosePete Posted November 23, 2011 Posted November 23, 2011 You can do absolutely nothing. Sorry to say he doesn't want you. He has made this perfectly clear. You cannot force him to want you. He makes his choices and I'm afraid it is not you. The only thing you can do is forget him and move on.
Author malentendu Posted November 23, 2011 Author Posted November 23, 2011 even though he wrote me and asked to still see me but then at the last moment said "just friends dinner". sigh. I guess he wouldn't want someone he doesn't respect. I was curious if I made myself clear that I was still interested. I think it was. dating sucks.
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