spiderowl Posted November 22, 2011 Posted November 22, 2011 Guy (and girls of course), should I read anything into this? Had a spot of trouble with car at work. Colleague I'd never met before magically appeared in cold, wet car park and offered to help. He was really great, helped and left. I must admit, I was quite struck by this guy. I found out who he was and next day sent him a simple thank you message. He responded and sounded pleased I'd thought of it. He finished with 'I'll look forward to crossing paths with you in better circumstances'. Would you say that was just a friendly comment?
ShannonMI Posted November 22, 2011 Posted November 22, 2011 Guy (and girls of course), should I read anything into this? Had a spot of trouble with car at work. Colleague I'd never met before magically appeared in cold, wet car park and offered to help. He was really great, helped and left. I must admit, I was quite struck by this guy. I found out who he was and next day sent him a simple thank you message. He responded and sounded pleased I'd thought of it. He finished with 'I'll look forward to crossing paths with you in better circumstances'. Would you say that was just a friendly comment? Hmmmm could be just a friendly comment or something more. How did he act why he was helping you? Super friendly and flirty or just normal?
Author spiderowl Posted November 22, 2011 Author Posted November 22, 2011 Car wasn't going which is why he was trying to help me. He was warm, friendly, caring. I wouldn't say flirty but he smiled a lot and seemed really thoughtful.
daphne Posted November 22, 2011 Posted November 22, 2011 2 interpretations in my book. 1-See ya around sometime. 2-I hope to see you again sometime. You didn't know him, but did he know you? This could be very telling. I was at a restaurant with friends, and I met a guy I'd never seen before knew the building I worked in, which company and how long I'd been there (he worked in the same building.) Your guy may have flown under the radar too. Also helpful would be any flirting he did, if any.
Author spiderowl Posted November 22, 2011 Author Posted November 22, 2011 Thanks for your comments. No, it's highly unlikely he knew me. I can't say about flirting, he was nice, kind, offered ideas and seemed in no rush to get away. A real knight in shining armour rather than a reluctant one.
ShannonMI Posted November 22, 2011 Posted November 22, 2011 Car wasn't going which is why he was trying to help me. He was warm, friendly, caring. I wouldn't say flirty but he smiled a lot and seemed really thoughtful. I don't know. Maybe he's just a nice guy. Did he have a wedding band on? Hahahahahaha it's hard to decipher his message. It could one way or another. You have to think back over your encounter with him and look for other clues. Sorry I can't give better advice.
FL Lady Posted November 22, 2011 Posted November 22, 2011 I'd drop by his office, when you look like a knock-out in about 2 weeks. Have NO expectations and see what happens again in person.
pripp22 Posted November 23, 2011 Posted November 23, 2011 I'd drop by his office, when you look like a knock-out in about 2 weeks. Have NO expectations and see what happens again in person. ITA. It could go either way but my first thought is that he is interested in you...
daphne Posted November 23, 2011 Posted November 23, 2011 Thanks for your comments. No, it's highly unlikely he knew me. I can't say about flirting, he was nice, kind, offered ideas and seemed in no rush to get away. A real knight in shining armour rather than a reluctant one. Hmm. If I had been there I could tell you if he was interested. But from the information given, I can't say with certainty that he's interested. He sounds like a total gentleman. Only time will tell. Did you two talk about which department you worked in? Did you flirt at all? Or were you just very matter of fact? PS I disagree with dropping by his office. If he's interested, he'll come find you.
ptp Posted November 23, 2011 Posted November 23, 2011 Nothing more than being a friendly. Obviously we weren't there so we don't know how you two interacted in person, but just based on messages, you posted, you are reading way more into it than you should.
Author spiderowl Posted November 23, 2011 Author Posted November 23, 2011 I wouldn't swing by his office as the whole place is secure and besides it's just not my style. I wouldn't chase the guy and, yes, he could be married. I didn't think to look for a wedding band - I was standing in the cold and my car had broken down ... Usually I can tell if someone is interested, and I would have said yes in this case, but it was a confusing situation with a problem to solve and the guy was probably just being a gentleman. I think in similar circumstances to him, I would have acknowledged the message and said 'Thanks for letting me know you got home safely. Good luck with the new spark plugs', or something.
ShannonMI Posted November 23, 2011 Posted November 23, 2011 I wouldn't swing by his office as the whole place is secure and besides it's just not my style. I wouldn't chase the guy and, yes, he could be married. I didn't think to look for a wedding band - I was standing in the cold and my car had broken down ... Usually I can tell if someone is interested, and I would have said yes in this case, but it was a confusing situation with a problem to solve and the guy was probably just being a gentleman. I think in similar circumstances to him, I would have acknowledged the message and said 'Thanks for letting me know you got home safely. Good luck with the new spark plugs', or something. How did you two message each other after the car issue? Was it through work email or something? Why don't you send him something back and just say "yes I hope to see you as well" or something along those lines.
Els Posted November 23, 2011 Posted November 23, 2011 No way to tell from just that. Assuming you're interested in him too, why not just get to know him better? You'll find out more when you talk to him more. Entirely possible that he was just being nice and actually has a gf, but even in that case you would've made a friend. Win-win.
Author spiderowl Posted November 23, 2011 Author Posted November 23, 2011 Thanks Shannon, yes, through work email. He introduced himself when he came to help me so it was easy to email him. I am thinking about how to respond, or if.
jobaba Posted November 23, 2011 Posted November 23, 2011 Guy (and girls of course), should I read anything into this? Had a spot of trouble with car at work. Colleague I'd never met before magically appeared in cold, wet car park and offered to help. He was really great, helped and left. I must admit, I was quite struck by this guy. I found out who he was and next day sent him a simple thank you message. He responded and sounded pleased I'd thought of it. He finished with 'I'll look forward to crossing paths with you in better circumstances'. Would you say that was just a friendly comment? In all honesty, If I had a woman interested in me like you every time I helped them out in a situation like that, I'd be Wilt Chamberlain. Exaggeration... But did he strike you because he was the "great guy who helped you out in a spot." Or because he was... "The cute guy who helped you out in a spot." Anyway, if you think he's cute, pursue. He's obviously somewhat of a nice guy.
ShannonMI Posted November 23, 2011 Posted November 23, 2011 Thanks Shannon, yes, through work email. He introduced himself when he came to help me so it was easy to email him. I am thinking about how to respond, or if. Yes, think of a good response. Mine was kind of lame. Email him and see what he says.
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