moving on tips

[lolita jade]

Hi

 

I am in England but yes live in a decent sized city and there is the website 'Meetup' which is international. I haven't noticed any travel groups but know there are websites for single travellers. Not into skydiving though. Good luck with that one:)

 

I am not really into to extreme activities and not that much into action stuff but would love to travel the world.

 

But will have a think............

[twinkles]

Hi lolita,

 

Your bucket list doesn't have to be anything too risky or extreme.

 

Read a book you always wanted to read. Go to a fancy restaurant and order the most expensive thing on the menu or try a new food.

 

England is beautiful (have been). I have travelled alone. It's great you meet people you normally would never meet. Start off with a day trip. Get on a bus and go to a nearby city just for the day. I remember when I was in London I took a day trip to Nottingham because I had wanted to see where Robin Hood lived. Another day I went to Cambridge to see the university. There is so much to do in England. See if there are any day tours at the hotels and take one. There will be others who are going solo too. And who knows you may get lost and have to ask a man for directions. or better yet pretend you are lost

Never be afraid to do things alone...there's no better company than your own.

[BigDumbFoot]

Meditation helps too. Mindful meditation especially.. Also learning to adjust your 'self-talk'.

[lolita jade]

Twinkles. I will do that. Start out small and get braver. Thats an idea--pretend to be lost I like that.

 

Bigfoot--- Yes trying to get spiritual. Good sites called psychic knight/ Or Michelle Knight. English site.

 

adjusting self talk?? You mean like softening your self critic?

[twinkles]

Lolita, you can start practising being lost in your home town. Just go somewhere you are not too familiar with and ask a man where this is or where that is. Have something in mind.

He can be old, young, gorgeous, not so gorgeous.. whatever just make sure he is walking alone and in broad daylight please. Men love to help a damsel in distress. You just say excuse me sir I am sooo lost would you please help me. It may not get you a date but it will certainly help your self esteem. It just feels good to have a man help you and make sure you say thank you.

 

I remember doing this one day when I really was lost and boy were they happy to help.

[lolita jade]

Can't wait to try that one out Twinkles

 

You sound like you have great fun exploring by yourself!

[twinkles]

I do. I'm my best friend.

 

Another fun thing to do is go to a concert alone and just stand up there and dance and sing along. Who cares what anyone thinks.

 

Go here right now and start dancing

 

Do it now.

[smokey bear]

Good post guys,

 

I thought it was good to sit each night and make a list of 3 things i would the next day.

 

At the start it was simple tasks, do a washing, tidy up, make a pot of soup.

 

At the end of that day it really did feel good to look back and say well i felt terrible all day but i got some things done.

 

Over time my list progressed and I actually conquered one of my biggest fears a month ago, i was so proud of myself and the fear certainly took my mind of my ex.

 

I find a list helps, not so much a bucket list, more a to do list, all the odd jobs that need done, little errands that you never manage, get rid of all the unfinished business, it really helps xx

[lolita jade]

Smokey, That is part of CBT. Planning your day and sticking to it even if you cant be bothered.

 

What was your worst fear?

 

Twinkles- I will look at you tube

[lolita jade]

Hey, Great uplifting lyrics on the You Tube link for us recovering dumpees

 

Take a look and sing and dance.

 

Thanks Twinkles