amythan Posted November 22, 2011 Posted November 22, 2011 (edited) Hi there, I know after my last break up i feel very unsecured. My ex-bf used to avoid me or ignore when he felt like doing it and now i am scared everyone behaves this way. Maybe unfair but I cannot trust anyone. I met this guy and we went out twice. I do not think this can progress from casual but i like him and his company and he seemed a decent guy. He texted me last sunday and said let's meet up this week (meaning before friday, he will be traveling then) and go out for drinks. I replied (trying to not pressure him): Perfect:) I have to see other people too so text me when you know your plans And he never texted back. I do not understand really ... I just need to know to organise with my friends. Why kind of behaviour is that ? What should you do ? Edited November 22, 2011 by amythan
YaOldBuckaroo Posted November 23, 2011 Posted November 23, 2011 Hi amythan Honestly, It's possible that he texted several girls to go out and grab drinks, and decided to pick the one that he likes best. He did mention that he was travelling within the week, so he may have been desperate to get the hottest girl he could find, and maybe even bang her before he left (pardon my language). Well it may have been a good thing that you didn't show up. Regarding your issue with trusting guys, checkout the URL below: http://www.wikihow.com/Trust-Your-Boyfriend Hope this helps, Max
maysj18 Posted November 23, 2011 Posted November 23, 2011 You also said you have plans with other people which could have been taken as "I have another date". That may have turned him off.
yeahyeahyeah Posted November 23, 2011 Posted November 23, 2011 I know the pain of being ignored and being an option (so to speak), my ex-gf did that to me all the time. It's weird when someone does that. But anyways, you did say that you just wanted something casual and don't see it becoming too much more, so he might have picked up on that. And I agree that you saying you were hanging with friends could have thrown him off a bit. At the same time, he might just be finalizing his plans and will let you know the sooner it gets to friday. If he doesn't say something by thurs or fri, I think it'd be alright to send a short/lighthearted text about meeting up and friday and checking to see how his plans were looking. I don't think it could hurt, but those are just my two cents.
Author amythan Posted November 23, 2011 Author Posted November 23, 2011 (edited) Thank you ! That is exactly my worry ... I didn't want to give the impression that i have more dates going on (i would find myself this even rude). What i meant was "I am happy to meet up this week (this is why i wrote prefect ) but i have other people to see (friends, excollegues) so give a bit of notice and i work it out." Just that. I do not think that text him again would make me feel that well .. I do not want to force anyone to go out with me ! I just do not understand why say let's meet up this week and then change your mind (which is ok) and do not tell me. Edited November 23, 2011 by amythan
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