D86 Posted November 22, 2011 Posted November 22, 2011 Not sure what's with all the complains about no luck on online dating. I just signed up for POF a couple of days ago after breaking up with long-time girlfriend and so far 5 girls msg's me and about half replied to my emails. Got several phone numbers and making plans for the weekend. Granted, my profile is very detailed (5-paragraphs) and I portrayed myself in the most positive light possible. When I emailed first, it was about 200-300 word messages pertaining to the actual profile of the girl and our common interests. So maybe before whining like a bunch of pussies, you should put some effort into your profile and the emails you sent. Just a suggestion. BTW I'm average looking guy, not a super model by any means lol
grkBoy Posted November 22, 2011 Posted November 22, 2011 Maybe you should post your profile link or give depth and tips then into what works for you. If you're getting results, my only concern would be finding out how.
ShannonMI Posted November 22, 2011 Posted November 22, 2011 Not sure what's with all the complains about no luck on online dating. I just signed up for POF a couple of days ago after breaking up with long-time girlfriend and so far 5 girls msg's me and about half replied to my emails. Got several phone numbers and making plans for the weekend. Granted, my profile is very detailed (5-paragraphs) and I portrayed myself in the most positive light possible. When I emailed first, it was about 200-300 word messages pertaining to the actual profile of the girl and our common interests. So maybe before whining like a bunch of pussies, you should put some effort into your profile and the emails you sent. Just a suggestion. BTW I'm average looking guy, not a super model by any means lol Or they may not message back because they are creeped out by the men who try to message them. I dealt with that when I tried the online dating thing. It wasn't because their profiles sucked. It was because they looked like John Wayne Gacy or were old enough to be my dad. Yeah, sometimes it's all about looks. And it's about how annoyingly persistant those particular creeps can be. If you don't get a response after one attempt, the chick is not feeling you. Good profile or not.
Author D86 Posted November 23, 2011 Author Posted November 23, 2011 Maybe you should post your profile link or give depth and tips then into what works for you. If you're getting results, my only concern would be finding out how. Would rather not post the profile here. Basically what the problem is with most people is that they put absolutely no effort into their profile and expect results. I looked at some random profiles of guys and they are all identical with crap like... "I like to hang out with friends and listen to music". No **** Sherlock, who the **** doesn't? Read your damn profile from a girl's point of view and think to yourself, "OK I'm a cute girl, what is it about this person that is unique and special that makes me want to message them". If your profile doesn't answer this simple question, than don't be surprised if nobody contacts you. Its also helpful to not look like you have an IQ of a squirrel. Most profiles I've read have embarrassingly bad grammar, run-on sentences, poor structure, etc. That just makes you look like a high-school dropout. And when you do message, focus on common interests first, then say what makes you different from other guys, tell the girl why she should respond to you and not the 2000 emails in her inbox. That's about it.
grkBoy Posted November 23, 2011 Posted November 23, 2011 At least post your "copy"? An example? I'm serious...perhaps if these guys see a good example, they'll get to making better profiles and such. How about interests? Do you have a lot of interests listed? Or at least ones girls get into?
ShannonMI Posted November 23, 2011 Posted November 23, 2011 Would rather not post the profile here. Basically what the problem is with most people is that they put absolutely no effort into their profile and expect results. I looked at some random profiles of guys and they are all identical with crap like... "I like to hang out with friends and listen to music". No **** Sherlock, who the **** doesn't? Read your damn profile from a girl's point of view and think to yourself, "OK I'm a cute girl, what is it about this person that is unique and special that makes me want to message them". If your profile doesn't answer this simple question, than don't be surprised if nobody contacts you. Its also helpful to not look like you have an IQ of a squirrel. Most profiles I've read have embarrassingly bad grammar, run-on sentences, poor structure, etc. That just makes you look like a high-school dropout. And when you do message, focus on common interests first, then say what makes you different from other guys, tell the girl why she should respond to you and not the 2000 emails in her inbox. That's about it. That's funny when I tried the online dating scene I put one picture up and one or two things about myself like I put how old I was, where I was from and some other basic bullsh*t. I got many, many messages. So your theory about having a great profile is not necessarily true. It's what you look like. I'm an attractive girl hence the many messages. And the attractive men are going to get messages and responses as well. The ones that look like serial killers aren't. Simple as that. It's about LOOKS!!! Not so much about what your profile says.
Author D86 Posted November 23, 2011 Author Posted November 23, 2011 (edited) At least post your "copy"? An example? I'm serious...perhaps if these guys see a good example, they'll get to making better profiles and such. How about interests? Do you have a lot of interests listed? Or at least ones girls get into? OK OK Fine. Here it is. Just nobody copy anything please for the love of all that is Holy. Its one thing to exaggerate a little and portray yourself in best light, but if you flat out a lie, a girl will know if you're full of bull**** and then you'll just look like a retard and a liar. And as you can see, there is nothing negative about the profile. I only put positive statements. Example, say what you're looking for in a girl, don't say what you're not looking for. Say what you're interested in, don't say what you're not interested in. If you put negative statements, you'll just look like a downer and nobody wants to hang with one. Also, main pic is super important, ask feedback on a picture from your friends (hopefully you have them) and make sure you don't look like E.T. / Sloth from Goonies hybrid on said pic. Pay a professional to take pics if you're too dumb to take a good pics yourself. Be funny and charming, don't sound like you have mental issues. Serious though... some of the whiny bull**** I read on the forum is mind-boggling, and then they wander why no girls will spread their legs for them? My ex told me once that she should've recorded me when I was browsing this forum and that the video would've been a hit on youtube because I have the weirdest/funniest "WTF" expression when I'm on here lol. Profile content: Hello POF! I am making this profile hoping that I could find a girl who shares my interests and with whom I could just be myself =) I realize its a little strange looking to meet people online, but I assure you that I'm a sane, normal guy. I promise I'm not a creepo looking to hump anything that moves, and I definitely won't be sending you photos of my package, so you don't have to worry about that. Now that we got that out of the way -- a little about me. I'm 25 years old, grew up in Europe and moved to the US to attend college. After graduating, I decided to stay here and started a business in the automotive industry. I consider myself a very down to earth person and very easy to get along with. In my free time I like going to the beach, working out, spending an evening in a nice restaurant with friends, etc. I'm not a big partier but do go out to clubs once in a while when a really good DJ is playing. I enjoy watching movies (some of my favorites are Dark Knight, Inception, Scarface, Pan's Labyrinth, Interview with the Vampire, Edward Scissorhands, etc), anime, and shows (big fan of Dexter), as well as gaming on PS3 occasionally (love it in 3-D on my new 82-inch HDTV - WOW!); I enjoy all gaming genres from racing to RPG's, but my all time favorite is the Final Fantasy series. I love listening to rock music, especially The Beatles, Guns & Roses, and Aerosmith. My favorite song of all time is "Let It Be" (always wanted to learn guitar but can never find time for it, maybe one day...). I like going to concerts and shows! My other interests include photography, traveling around the world, learning about new cultures, and trying new cuisines (I can't live without steak, seafood, and sushi)! I'm a huge car and motorcycle guy and love taking mine to the race track. Health is also important to me. To stay in shape I practice jiujitsu, lift weights, swim, and enjoy running outdoors (especially on the beach). MMA is my favorite sport, I watch most UFC and Strikeforce events and sometimes smaller league shows. Basically I try to live life to the fullest and get the most out of every day! I'm also very passionate about helping others, especially kids. I'm currently working on starting a nonprofit organization that donates used Sony PSP's (loaded with games and movies/cartoons) to children's hospitals and foster homes. I didn't have much growing up and it means a lot to me to be able to make some very unlucky kids a little happier and improve their outlook on life. My biggest aspiration in life is to make a significant positive difference in the world. As far as what I'm looking for - I'm hoping to find a girl who's kindhearted, honest, emotionally stable, and drama-free (a little drama is OK, but don't go overboard lol). I also find it very attractive when a girl is comfortable in her own skin and doesn't need five layers of makeup or the latest fashion wear to feel pretty and carry herself with confidence. The biggest turn-off for me would have to be when girls start playing games; life's too short for that. I'm not a date-a-million-girls at the same time kind of guy. I don't like superficial and fake things, so if I'm seeing someone I want it to be meaningful. Anyway... I always enjoy meeting new interesting people, so if you think we'd get along, don't be shy and shoot me a message and we'll go from there! Edited November 23, 2011 by D86
fortyninethousand322 Posted November 23, 2011 Posted November 23, 2011 Not sure what's with all the complains about no luck on online dating. I just signed up for POF a couple of days ago after breaking up with long-time girlfriend and so far 5 girls msg's me and about half replied to my emails. Got several phone numbers and making plans for the weekend. Granted, my profile is very detailed (5-paragraphs) and I portrayed myself in the most positive light possible. When I emailed first, it was about 200-300 word messages pertaining to the actual profile of the girl and our common interests. So maybe before whining like a bunch of pussies, you should put some effort into your profile and the emails you sent. Just a suggestion. BTW I'm average looking guy, not a super model by any means lol Yeah I'm a big pussy, but I've had people look over my profile, they didn't see anything horrible about it. I get about 1% of my emails responded to. No girls ever message me first...ever. All you do is write an awesome profile and women just come to you? I don't know if I believe you.
Author D86 Posted November 23, 2011 Author Posted November 23, 2011 Just re-read my **** and wow... I even said I like Final Fantasy games and still cute girls emailed me!
silvermercy Posted November 23, 2011 Posted November 23, 2011 Just re-read my **** and wow... I even said I like Final Fantasy games and still cute girls emailed me! I would have mailed you BECAUSE of the Final Fantasy mention. LOL But then I'm not exactly normal. I do have a fictional crush for Sephiroth! ahahaha!
Author D86 Posted November 23, 2011 Author Posted November 23, 2011 I would have mailed you BECAUSE of the Final Fantasy mention. LOL But then I'm not exactly normal. I do have a fictional crush for Sephiroth! ahahaha! Sorry but Sephiroth is only at #2 spot of ultimate badass villain list. #1 spot goes to Griffith from Berserk
silvermercy Posted November 23, 2011 Posted November 23, 2011 Sorry but Sephiroth is only at #2 spot of ultimate badass villain list. #1 spot goes to Griffith from Berserk Boooo!! But Sephiroth has beautiful long hair! Everything else is irrelevant. So he wins! lol
FitChick Posted November 23, 2011 Posted November 23, 2011 I recommend that people check out the competition to see what they are posting, photo and profile wise. I tend to agree that looks are more important to men than the woman's profile, because on one website they listed the most popular profiles, based on how many people made them a favorite. I checked out my competition and was shocked at the dull, poorly written and punctuated profiles. The photos looked good though.
Author D86 Posted November 23, 2011 Author Posted November 23, 2011 Boooo!! But Sephiroth has beautiful long hair! Everything else is irrelevant. So he wins! lol hahaha! I didn't know that hair was the main defining attribute of the ultimate villain And stop hijacking my thread you! I added you to my contacts, let's continue our "discussion" via PM if you'd like
unknownsources Posted November 23, 2011 Posted November 23, 2011 Just re-read my **** and wow... I even said I like Final Fantasy games and still cute girls emailed me! You also said you do jujitsu, ride a motorcycle, and are from Europe. Just saying, before you call everyone out, realize that girls (at least the common cliche of American women) want a motorcycle riding, ass-kicking, European... I had a well written, intelligent profile for a while. I wrote emails talking about common interests and still nothing panned out....
Wolf18 Posted November 23, 2011 Posted November 23, 2011 90% of your response rate rides on how good looking your picture is or how tall you are. If you don't get through that hoop, women don't even read your profile. Not berating them for it, but considering all the choices women have I dont doubt only a guy who looks like george clooney but only 7'3 and on horse steroids will get responses. You are either better looking than you say, or have a really misleading and good picture . Post your profile as an example instead of ragging on everyone.
Andy_K Posted November 23, 2011 Posted November 23, 2011 I'm consistently told my PoF profile is 'one of the best they've ever seen' or 'really funny' by girls who write to me. But still I find my response rate around 20% and I'll only get unsolicited mail if I spend the whole evening logged in so I show up in the 'online now' section. And most of those who write to me first aren't what I'm looking for. Maybe you have very good pictures, maybe you're in an easier age group or location. It would be interesting to know, because there's more going on here than the profile I think.
irc333 Posted November 23, 2011 Posted November 23, 2011 90% of your response rate rides on how good looking your picture is or how tall you are. If you don't get through that hoop, women don't even read your profile. Good point, I'm sure women weed out and hit the delete button in order of their height requirement as being the first. They see those feet and inches, and if it's not to their liking, "unread/delete", they figure why waste their time, right? Among other things in the physical appearance dept. Believe me, I've seen the content of women's profiles, and though they written nicely grammatically. They are all pretty much similar 1. The extremely bitter woman who starts off witha generic sounding profile, then she starts to update it in a BLOG-like format where she's getting more and more frustrated as her time progresses on her profile. They eventually start to sound like a bitter old spinster. This one woman, she actually had in her headliner, "This is harder than I thought!" I've actually saw her TWO dating sites, and she's copied and pasted the same bitter crap on the other one, too." LOL Pathetic. Eventually, they start demeaning their own male audience with whatever was written in their profile. Things like, "Don't ask me out for coffee on our first meet, that's lame!" One said she doesn't like corny men, if they're basically being funny, and she's not laughing , move onto the next profile "Make me laugh, Mr Court Jesture! Amuse me you lackey!!" Then they wind up a permanent fixture on dating sites indefinately, andt hey wonder why with that attitude, she's still single. 2. The other is the basic sounding profile, "I like to meet new people, have new adventures" basically they list hobbies and put the word "new" in front of it. LOL 3. The philosophizer or quote-master - they try to sound like a Zen master by quoting people. "Don't sweat the small stuff" or "Life's too short" or "Dance like no one's watching" , or "Looking for a good hearted man" 4. The "Jerks or players need not apply" or "Where are all the nice guys" but yet when their inbox fills up, they ignore the nice guys. (probably because they were too short) LOL All you do is write an awesome profile and women just come to you? I don't know if I believe you. Right, Funny how the OP is cocky and even demeaning towards his audience, I'm sure he's just trolling up some responses just to get a rise out of people. I seriously doubt his claims are even true just by his style and content of the post of which is rather insulting to begin with. My profile is rather well written, even had it looked over by some people, and they liked it. So it's moot.
oaks Posted November 23, 2011 Posted November 23, 2011 grew up in Europe and moved to the US This bit makes you 'exotic' and stand out from the crowd, which helps.
Emilia Posted November 23, 2011 Posted November 23, 2011 After reading that profile I'd say the photos must be very good.
phobos Posted November 23, 2011 Posted November 23, 2011 Or they may not message back because they are creeped out by the men who try to message them. I dealt with that when I tried the online dating thing. It wasn't because their profiles sucked. It was because they looked like John Wayne Gacy or were old enough to be my dad. Yeah, sometimes it's all about looks. And it's about how annoyingly persistant those particular creeps can be. If you don't get a response after one attempt, the chick is not feeling you. Good profile or not. Yet another typical shallow bitch.
phineas Posted November 23, 2011 Posted November 23, 2011 That's funny when I tried the online dating scene I put one picture up and one or two things about myself like I put how old I was, where I was from and some other basic bullsh*t. I got many, many messages. So your theory about having a great profile is not necessarily true. It's what you look like. I'm an attractive girl hence the many messages. And the attractive men are going to get messages and responses as well. The ones that look like serial killers aren't. Simple as that. It's about LOOKS!!! Not so much about what your profile says. Most men just need a picture when it comes to online dating. LOL! But in my brief stint I made just a parragraph about myself & my goals. Closed the browser & meant to go take a picture, forgot, didn't even know my POF profile was live & when I signed in after the weekend I had 5 messages. LOL! But I wasn't interested in them & when I started searching I really didn't see anyone that interested me in 15miles so I made sure It was deactived & signed off. When I do window shop I don't want to read a full page of rambling though.
dasein Posted November 23, 2011 Posted November 23, 2011 OP get back to us after actually nailing down dates and going out with some of these women on actual dates. You do realize that brand new profiles are given special promotion as "new" by OLD sites and placed into lots of the sites' matching functionality?
oaks Posted November 23, 2011 Posted November 23, 2011 After reading that profile I'd say the photos must be very good. Emilia, thanks for making me laugh.
PlumPrincess Posted November 23, 2011 Posted November 23, 2011 After reading that profile I'd say the photos must be very good. I actually like it. He's too young for me, but still, he sounds interesting.
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