majomparade Posted November 22, 2011 Posted November 22, 2011 So here's the deal. I met "M" (the one I talked about in my last thread) from an on-line site. While we've been talking and e-mailing for about a month, we've only gone out once, though we've since been talking about a second date. (We live 2 hours apart, so it can be difficult to plan things like that.) Out of the blue, I get an e-mail from somebody else on the site ("E"). It's a site that requires you to show interest before you can read the e-mail, so I haven't actually read it yet. On the one hand... M and I are by no means exclusive... heck, we've only been out once. Part of me thinks I should, or at least can, talk to other people in the meantime. Certainly, she could be talking to other people too. "E"'s profile looks OK - and I think it's cool how she took the first step and sent me an e-mail. Ordinarily, I'd probably respond. But... I really like "M". I think we hit it off great in person. I really want to pursue a relationship with her. I feel like if I respond to "E", I'd just be using her as a back-up plan, which doesn't seem right. Another piece of info, based on what I know of them both (which, admittedly, is a lot more about "M" than "E"), all things being equal, I'm more interested in M. So I don't know... should I respond to "E"'s e-mail? Am I putting to much faith in my not-yet-a-relationship with "M"? Or even better, how in the world do I make this kind of decision?
creighton0123 Posted November 22, 2011 Posted November 22, 2011 You're far from exclusive with M. Respond to E's email. Go out on a date with E if it tickles your fancy. No harm in that until you and M decide to be a monogamous couple.
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