OldManWinter Posted November 22, 2011 Posted November 22, 2011 So I caught my girl sleeping with some dude behind my back saturday night. I confronted her about it and she lied to my face until I finally had her cornered and she said she was "seeing another guy that night that she met." She told me the guys name and I do know for a fact she had just met the guy 3 days before. He probably has no idea she was dating me when she slept over that night because she's dishonest and probably wouldn't be truthful with him either. I told her I want nothing to do with her anymore and that was that. I would never take her back under any circumstances but I obviously still feel awful. I was debating facebook messaging the dude very politely and being like, "Hey you don't know me man, but not sure if you knew that when she was there saturday night, she was dating me and lied to me about being at your place. I'm not trying to convince you to stop seeing her because obviously you're going to do what you want, but I just figured I'd give you a heads up as to the kind of things she's capable of pulling behind peoples backs. I know I would have liked to have known this about her before putting all my trust in her and dating her." It would just be gratifying to see her get ****ed over somehow out of this whole thing. Good chance sending that message would do nothing and he would continue seeing her, but in the off chance it really turns him off as he worries he can't trust her, it would be very satisfying to see her end up with nothing from her poor choice of actions. Anyone ever done this before? Bad idea/good idea?
nofool4u Posted November 22, 2011 Posted November 22, 2011 Its neither a good or bad idea. If you want to out her, go ahead. She deserves it. As far as this guy caring, I doubt he will. She is more than likely just a piece of ass to him. So out her and forget her. If she tries to contact you, block her and ignore her at every turn. Nothing eats at pieces of crap like her than to be ignored.
val22 Posted November 23, 2011 Posted November 23, 2011 I would send him a PM and just say she was seeing you at the time. then forget about both of them. Sending a message would be for your benefit and probably won't change anything but if it makes you feel better then do it.
Chi townD Posted November 23, 2011 Posted November 23, 2011 Chances are he probably already knew about you, but didn't care. So, if he didn't care about your relationship he certainly won't care what you have to say. I'd go complete NC on her, delete from facebook...everything. Sooner or later the guilt is gonna start eating at her and she might try to contact you, so, I would just do everything I could do to see that she doesn't. Ignore her. She made her bed. She gets to lay in it.
Ginger Beer Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 I'd tell the guy, but not to spite my ex, but because I think it'd be the decent thing to do. Assuming he is innocent and thought she was single, if, by the slightest chance he has feelings for her, he doesn't deserve to be hurt as well. So I would let him know what's gone on. The thing I'm unsure of is whether I'd do it personally so he knows who I am or send an anonymous letter instead. If you message on Facebook it could create problems for you, if it's anonymous there is no danger of that but it could also take the sting out of it and your ex could dismiss it as a rumour someone started because they don't like her. Either way, if you're gonna do it, don't do it to spite your ex. Two wrongs don't make a right IMO. I also commend your composure regarding the other guy. Not sure how I'd feel in your shoes.
DearAbby Posted December 18, 2011 Posted December 18, 2011 I am always one for the high road. I usually feel karma will get them in the end. I would just completely delete this girl out of your life. You know what revenge is. Revenge is going to the gym, working out balls to the wall, and looking gorgeous.. and getting a hotter girl on your arm. Don't waste any more time on this chick..she's not even worth your time.
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