carebear87 Posted November 22, 2011 Posted November 22, 2011 Yesterday was a terrible day. It has almost been five months since my ex broke up with me. I've been doing alright with coping, and even talked to her on the phone a few weeks ago. I am 26, she is 24. She went on a "trip" with a 50 yo man at the beginning of June and nothing was the same after that. While she swore they did absolutely nothing, my intuition always told me differently. So yesterday, I was looking at pictures she had sent me months ago. One caught my eye, in particular. It was her alone in what seemed to be a classy hotel room. A quick google search of the town I knew she went with the old man revealed a bombshell. The link is here: http://www.bigbendholidayhotel.com/cinnabar.html It is a 100% match and it has had me devastated all over again for the past 24 hours. I am just so pissed off and in pain, all over again. I cried last night for the first time since immediately following the breakup. What's worse is that we were planning on meeting up for a drink over Thanksgiving. I was actually cool with just chilling and having a good time, but now I don't know what to do. I feel I have to let her know, once and for all, that she is a liar. But that probably won't do any good. Please help.
ChelseaLS Posted November 22, 2011 Posted November 22, 2011 Yesterday was a terrible day. It has almost been five months since my ex broke up with me. I've been doing alright with coping, and even talked to her on the phone a few weeks ago. I am 26, she is 24. She went on a "trip" with a 50 yo man at the beginning of June and nothing was the same after that. While she swore they did absolutely nothing, my intuition always told me differently. So yesterday, I was looking at pictures she had sent me months ago. One caught my eye, in particular. It was her alone in what seemed to be a classy hotel room. A quick google search of the town I knew she went with the old man revealed a bombshell. The link is here: http://www.bigbendholidayhotel.com/cinnabar.html It is a 100% match and it has had me devastated all over again for the past 24 hours. I am just so pissed off and in pain, all over again. I cried last night for the first time since immediately following the breakup. What's worse is that we were planning on meeting up for a drink over Thanksgiving. I was actually cool with just chilling and having a good time, but now I don't know what to do. I feel I have to let her know, once and for all, that she is a liar. But that probably won't do any good. Please help. So who is this old guy?
Author carebear87 Posted November 22, 2011 Author Posted November 22, 2011 He was a co-worker. He is extremely fat and unattractive. I don't think he has any money. Our relationship turned into an LDR. When we were together, she used to tell me about him, and they would hang out after school. "The trip" was him moving back to his home area, 500 miles away. She told me that he took her to Terlingua, and when she came back on the trip, everything went to hell in a hurry. I am almost positive that they still see each other and he takes her to do stuff even now, though she proclaims to still be single. I know that some older guys look good and have game, but if her friends knew about this, her reputation would be squashed.
ChelseaLS Posted November 22, 2011 Posted November 22, 2011 He was a co-worker. He is extremely fat and unattractive. I don't think he has any money. Our relationship turned into an LDR. When we were together, she used to tell me about him, and they would hang out after school. "The trip" was him moving back to his home area, 500 miles away. She told me that he took her to Terlingua, and when she came back on the trip, everything went to hell in a hurry. I am almost positive that they still see each other and he takes her to do stuff even now, though she proclaims to still be single. I know that some older guys look good and have game, but if her friends knew about this, her reputation would be squashed. This is kind of gross to me. I mean I know age is just a number (there was 7 years between me and my ex)... but I don't know I find this weird. He could be her dad. In fact I am older then your ex and my dad isn't even 50 yet. The whole situation seems a little fishy. I think you need to cut her loose and not meet up with her. Time to heal and move on.
coltsfan1 Posted November 22, 2011 Posted November 22, 2011 If the trip wasn't work related cut her out, COMPLETELY!! No sharing of friends, no going to the same bars, drop her like a bad habit. If she did this once she will do it again to you. She may not do it again in the future to anyone else but it is to big of a risk my friend. You have to walk for your own dignity. One more thing, when she got back from the trip and things changed it is cause things changed bro!
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