iwanttolive Posted November 22, 2011 Posted November 22, 2011 I think the problems lie with me than with my future MIL. I can't stop comparing her with my own mom and feel that she doesn't deserve her kids' love. I know I'm the lowest human being on earth by saying such things. Point is I'm not looking for validation of my distorted perception, but to convince myself to correct my course. I see my mom as a hero. She got divorced after my dad had repeated affairs. She was uneducated so she started off doing hard manual jobs after her divorce (my dad did not pay alimony) and slowly works herself up to be a respectable real estate agent. She revised my schoolworks every night and always inspires me to give my best. Thanks to her, I worked hard to get into a top college, landed myself a great job and Grade 8 piano. She also got me into property investments. My future MIL however is a different story. She is so laidback about her kids and did the bare minimum to raise her kids. As a result, my bf only realises the importance of study and paper qualifications at 30 years old. My bf has to go to Australia to get his bachelor degree as the local colleges wouldn't admit him due to his poor grades. It costs him plenty of money but his mom wouldn't adjust her lifestyle to support her son. She continued to demand the same monthly allowance from my boyfriend, wanted a bigger TV and a camera as she travels to Europe every year. I can't help but grew hatred towards her. My bf loves his mom very much and the more he loves her, the bigger my hatred grows. She was offended when we suggested she takes up a part-time job to fill her time more meaningfully saying we wanted her to work to her grave. Now she's looking after my bf's nephew. He's such a spoilt brat because she gives him whatever he asks for. I'm so stressed looking at the family-in-laws!
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