Jane2011 Posted November 22, 2011 Posted November 22, 2011 As a man, I'm going to strongly disagree with this. It's a huge turn off when a woman swears or gossips about other people behind their backs. What you call "a female with an edge", I call a low class ho. Instant deal breaker. It's strange, though. I know a lot of women who fit that "female with an edge" description that are generally categorized as higher class. And I don't mean by me in particular, but just in general. Said women get men all the time, and the men they get with aren't low class. Half of them are married to professional, handsome, educated men who adore and cherish them. I think you're imagining something different from what I'm talking about, really.
Jane2011 Posted November 22, 2011 Posted November 22, 2011 "professional, handsome, educated men who adore and cherish them" - them? a low class hos?....WAHAHAAH doormat punks a lot of them.! I bet they let their women say that Men love bitches and node in agreement.....WAHAHA I think most men just hear "woman with an edge" and think immediately some kind of bitch. If that's your "extreme" association, I can't do anything about it. I'm just saying, I know women who are nice but not perfectly nice who are not this "low class ho" that you keep categorizing them as. I bet you'd fall for a bunch of them yourself. Just because a woman "has an edge" doesn't mean she's mean to her husband or boyfriend or that she's mean in general. It just means she's not angelic. Conversely, there are men who "have an edge" to them who are very good to their girlfriends. I don't see why it's impossible that the reverse can't be the case also.
Jane2011 Posted November 22, 2011 Posted November 22, 2011 (edited) I mean, to put it in perspective, there are a bunch of men on this board who regularly have snarky, attitude-laden replies to other people's posts. (Women, too, to be fair). Maybe it's just in good fun, or just a casual, no-nonsense way of communicating. But these are probably the same men who consider themselves good, high-class men. By your own way of thinking, anyone who has even a touch of snarkiness or smart-ass in them can't possibly be high class in any way. If you're calling people low-class hos, you're talking bad about people. That makes you un-classy. Yet, I bet you don't think you're un-classy. Only *other* people are un-classy when they say derogatory things about people. And the whole cursing thing is kind of silly, too. I know some really sweet women who curse occasionally. Cursing is a poor barometer of a person's goodness (or lack thereof). There are people who curse a lot but never in any angry or mean or person-targeted context. And there are people who never curse who often (and obviously) have a very judgmental, angry, or mean way about them. Edited November 22, 2011 by Jane2011
Feelsgoodman Posted November 22, 2011 Posted November 22, 2011 It's strange, though. I know a lot of women who fit that "female with an edge" description that are generally categorized as higher class. And I don't mean by me in particular, but just in general. Said women get men all the time, and the men they get with aren't low class. Half of them are married to professional, handsome, educated men who adore and cherish them. I think you're imagining something different from what I'm talking about, really. By low class, I mean a low quality person, not someone who belongs to lower socio-economic rungs. Educated, handsome, professional people can be low class too.
Author shocked_confused Posted November 22, 2011 Author Posted November 22, 2011 It's actually very easy to know what to believe if you use your brain (instead of falling for the feel-good crap some other posters are feeding you). The guy said that you are "too nice" while he is "not so nice"...the presumption being that he doesn't want you to get hurt by getting involved with a "bad" person like him. But that doesn't make any sense, does it? Since when does someone who is "not nice" care about other people's feelings? Isn't that what makes such people "not nice" in the first place...being selfish and not caring about others? Ok I understand what your saying and your explanation seems pretty logical. But I'm not saying he's a bad person (nor the greatest person), and what if he's somewhere in between and just has a conscience? Another thing I neglected to mention earlier was that a month before our vacation he had broken off with his ex "to live the single life". Not sure if that makes any difference here or not And, usually when guys say that, to be blunt, they think you're boring. They want someone who is more fun who can party with them, get loud and rude, and stuff. But that's just from your limited story. Jobaba, I hope he doesn't think I'm boring:mad: He definitely saw my fun side, although he did mention that I can be reserved/chill sometimes. This could be because I would shy away from certain topics in a conversation (I don't fully open up to guys 100% right, especially if I don't know him well yet or don't trust him yet). You know how there's those girls who can chat your ear off about anything and everything? I'm not really one of those. While I have an outgoing/funny side, I can also be more quiet and relaxed, but enjoy listening to people talk. Maybe he thought that was boring, who knows:confused:
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