9Lives Posted November 21, 2011 Posted November 21, 2011 Sometimes I feel like my boyfriend is not totally into our relationship. He has been with me all week. Every night then on the weekend, he doesnt talk to me all weekend long. I was upset because me and his son was suppose to all go to dinner. he put both of us off to do hang with the boys and didnt call me all weekend long. Today I also got fired from my job because my boss didnt train me right so I text him and told him about all that was going on because I was crying and everything. He responded and was encouraging. Then... I texted him and told him if he just wants to be just friends just let me know. I feel like he doesnt want me to be his lady anymore. I let him know I would miss him but I would be fine. I wasnt mean or anything. I wanted to give him a chance to say that is what he wanted so I was very calm and diplomatic. He goes silent. Then he told me he dont want to comment on it right now cause he was at work. Mind you...he was text me like crazy at first. Anyway, I gave him the out, why didnt he take it? I was very nice about it. What Im probably going to do is just break it off with him anyway cause I dont like what he done. Im not sure if he is cheating because he spends other weekends with me so I cant say for sure. I dont have to talk to hm everyday but all weekend is something I dont like. I want to hear from my man on the weekends.
phineas Posted November 22, 2011 Posted November 22, 2011 He's with you EVERY night of the week & then you expect him to spend his weekends with you? And he has a kid? When is he supposed to spend time alone with his kid? When he supposed to spend time away from you? It sounds like your smothering him.
Author 9Lives Posted November 23, 2011 Author Posted November 23, 2011 He's with you EVERY night of the week & then you expect him to spend his weekends with you? And he has a kid? When is he supposed to spend time alone with his kid? When he supposed to spend time away from you? It sounds like your smothering him. No that is not the way it actually goes. I was upset because he made plans with me on Fri and then forgot. I dont have a problem with him hanging out or being with his son. During the week he spends more time with his friends than he does me. I usually dont get to see him until 9pm or later sometimes. Believe me, he is not smothered at all.
daphne Posted November 23, 2011 Posted November 23, 2011 He goes silent. Then he told me he dont want to comment on it right now cause he was at work. Mind you...he was text me like crazy at first. He was at work. You have to respect that he can't have a serious conversation like that at work. It's really not a text conversation either. It's a face to face thing. And I would only offer that if you really mean it. Using it as a threat because you were disappointed has the potential of putting it into action. I've learned not to test a guy with the threat of breakup because I didn't know better how to communicate my disappointment. It usually ends the relationship.
whichwayisup Posted November 23, 2011 Posted November 23, 2011 Get together with him and talk this out. Don't do this by text, that's just not right. How long have you two been together? I can't remember. Anyway, don't put this on him, if you feel you're unhappy and not getting what you want from him, tell him how you feel, what your expectations are. Or end it. To put it out there and put pressure on him to decide if he wants you or not (through a text, while he's at work) isn't good, the timing is off.
Author 9Lives Posted November 23, 2011 Author Posted November 23, 2011 He was at work. You have to respect that he can't have a serious conversation like that at work. It's really not a text conversation either. It's a face to face thing. And I would only offer that if you really mean it. Using it as a threat because you were disappointed has the potential of putting it into action. I've learned not to test a guy with the threat of breakup because I didn't know better how to communicate my disappointment. It usually ends the relationship. Daphne, I stand corrected. I wont expect a serious conversation at work anymore. That make sense. Im not trying to threatening but I will look at from your standpoint.
Author 9Lives Posted November 23, 2011 Author Posted November 23, 2011 Get together with him and talk this out. Don't do this by text, that's just not right. How long have you two been together? I can't remember. Anyway, don't put this on him, if you feel you're unhappy and not getting what you want from him, tell him how you feel, what your expectations are. Or end it. To put it out there and put pressure on him to decide if he wants you or not (through a text, while he's at work) isn't good, the timing is off. Okay I hear you Whichway. I will leave it alone while he is at work. You and Daph has let me know not to go about it this way. Point taken. We have been together since June. I see your point as well. Point taken. If I dont like it, I should just do what I got to do and not put the decision in his hands. I got it.
Author 9Lives Posted November 23, 2011 Author Posted November 23, 2011 Why would you do this? It strikes me as passive aggressive, immature behavior. Can you explain further what you mean? Im listening
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