mike588 Posted November 21, 2011 Posted November 21, 2011 Hello, Most of you know my story but I do see alot of "new faces" here so for you newbees who don't know,,I was dumped too, my ex. went back to her ex. I'm about 3 1/2 months of being dumped and about the same amount of time in strict N.C. I'm sure by following N.C. has helped me sooooo much and up until last week,, I thought I was 99% over her. I would have to "try to think" about her/us instead of it just always being there,, Like many others I was so close to telling so many great people here I'm over her and will be leaving Love Shack,,,, so close. I haven't shed a tear or gave her much thought for about 6 weeks up until last week,,, I don't know what happened,nothing triggered it,, I didn't hear from her but for some FRIGGIN reason she's back,,, back in my thoughts more than I want and I actually shed some more tears over her,,, Damn, Damn,Damn!!! I didn't crash and burn,, just crashed,, alittle. I'm also having this burning desire to hear from her even though I know the damage it will cause me. I do then I don't then I do and later I don't,, Ahhhhhhh.Maybe I'm just as screwed up as her.lol. There was a discussion/thread here not long ago about getting justice,,, telling them to F. OFF when/if they come back. I'm not angry or wishing that anymore,well maybe just alittle,ha, but I guess it's just being validated that they care/cared enough about you to "see how your doing",, that you weren't thrown away like a piece of trash,especially for alot of us dumpees here that gave so much to our ex.s. I know this is/could be considered a breadcrumb and from stories I've read here it you get one and or take a bite you go back to square one,, I don't want or need that,, NONE of us want to feel all that pain over again but alot of us do during our weak times. For the longest time I prayed for a breadcrumb,, getting jealous of others who were getting some,,,, now after 3 months I'm glad I haven't but,,,,, I'm afraid if I do during a weak time I'll eat all the breadcrumbs only to lead me to more pain and anxiety. God when will this crap end,, this mixed bag of emotions,this wanting to hear from her then not wanting to hear from her, this caring alot for her one day then cursing her the next!! I KNOW what I have to do,, ignore all possible contacts,move on,stay busy etc.,,,, it's so easy to say,to think,, to know what to do,, yet can be so difficult at times. Going back to an ex. is like going to the Frig.and taking out the milk and the milk is bad,would you put it back and hope it's better the next time? Maybe 3 months is just not enough time. Sorry so long,, my turn to rant,,, maybe it's the holidays that are making me blue or wanting to date again sooo bad,,but,,, I'm just not ready yet!
smokey bear Posted November 21, 2011 Posted November 21, 2011 The hardest break up i ever got over i was the rebound girl, it took me two full years, no joke. I met someone 3 months after the split but by that point i knew there was no going back. Dont let it hold you back but i swear it was the hardest to get over. You had 6 good weeks before, next time it could be 6 good months, chin up.
wow123 Posted November 21, 2011 Posted November 21, 2011 Mike- I'm sorry to hear you had a setback. It's amazing how breakups mess with our emotions. Keep your head up man.
stunned8165 Posted November 21, 2011 Posted November 21, 2011 Hang in there Mike. Mine wasn't a rebound. Shes IN a rebound, or, a grass is greener with him thing after 3 years of being a family . I have those days too and I'm just shy of six months out. LC up till 6 weeks ago. weeks ago I have made no attempt to reach out. Funny how I run into her though twice in a week and a half on the road where she knows I travel daily. That kind of set me back. We are just going to have to grin and bare it.
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