Author irc333 Posted November 22, 2011 Author Posted November 22, 2011 I spent a good amount of time talking with her that evening while we were chillin' out together. We kind of got to know each other better, and she never mentioned a boyfriend. So, agreed, chances are she doesn't have a man, and used it as an excuse, and when questioned on it.....she got ticked off. I mean that night...did you just come up and ask her out? Or did you chat for a bit, like 30-60 minutes, and then "all of a sudden" she's seeing someone the moment you ask her out? IMHO, if you chatted for that long that night, and no mention of any man...then IMHO she's not seeing anyone. Women will ALWAYS mention a man within the first 10-15 minutes of conversation if they have one. It's a little tip for you ladies to know as well. If you see a guy is trying to talk to you, and you're not into him but know he'll eventually ask you out...just say how you did something with your boyfriend in the first 10 minutes of conversation. If he's a douche or a creep, he'll try anyway...but most likely he'll be a gentleman and not bother with you. In all honesty, you women should just tell a guy you're not into him and let him deal with it...but if you are the type who lies and avoids posible conflict, then do that. I don't believe for a moment that the girl IRC333 speaks of is seeing anyone. I think she wanted to get rid of him and didn't have the backbone to just be honest.
Ilovewater Posted November 22, 2011 Posted November 22, 2011 Perfect answer , yes, but it pissed her off, she told me I was rude, intrusive and wasn't my business on how to tell her how she should live her life. Listen, I just want to respect her boyfriend, and I mentioned that wouldn't she think that would be kind of disrespecting him if she did spend time alone with another man? Even though she said it was rude, I still think your response was good. I think it's strange to invite a man who's romantically interested in you to hang out when you're in a relationship.
Star Gazer Posted November 22, 2011 Posted November 22, 2011 Note: She did NOT say she has a boyfriend. Ummmm, hello people! She said she's "seeing someone romantically." She did NOT say that she is in a relationship. She did NOT say she is committed to someone. She did NOT say that she has a BOYFRIEND. She's basically saying exactly what she said: she's seeing someone romantically. Translation: "I am dating someone I like and want to see how that develops, and so I don't want to add anyone else to the mix of who I'm dating/seeing romantically, but we can see each other as friends." And I'd be annoyed as all get out if some dude who I barely know started telling me it wouldn't be fair to make new friends under these, or frankly any, circumstances.
fortyninethousand322 Posted November 22, 2011 Posted November 22, 2011 Ummmm, hello people! She said she's "seeing someone romantically." She did NOT say that she is in a relationship. She did NOT say she is committed to someone. She did NOT say that she has a BOYFRIEND. She's basically saying exactly what she said: she's seeing someone romantically. Translation: "I am dating someone I like and want to see how that develops, and so I don't want to add anyone else to the mix of who I'm dating/seeing romantically, but we can see each other as friends." And I'd be annoyed as all get out if some dude who I barely know started telling me it wouldn't be fair to make new friends under these, or frankly any, circumstances. He doesn't want to see her as friends, he wants something more. Quite frankly, her feelings on the situation don't matter at all. She can be annoyed all she wants, he doesn't have to care. And he shouldn't care.
Author irc333 Posted November 22, 2011 Author Posted November 22, 2011 Now you're just splittin' hairs, it's one in the same. Ummmm, hello people! She said she's "seeing someone romantically." She did NOT say that she is in a relationship. She did NOT say she is committed to someone. She did NOT say that she has a BOYFRIEND. She's basically saying exactly what she said: she's seeing someone romantically. Translation: "I am dating someone I like and want to see how that develops, and so I don't want to add anyone else to the mix of who I'm dating/seeing romantically, but we can see each other as friends." And I'd be annoyed as all get out if some dude who I barely know started telling me it wouldn't be fair to make new friends under these, or frankly any, circumstances.
Author irc333 Posted November 22, 2011 Author Posted November 22, 2011 He doesn't want to see her as friends, he wants something more. Quite frankly, her feelings on the situation don't matter at all. She can be annoyed all she wants, he doesn't have to care. And he shouldn't care. The fact that she is annoyed about this is HER problem. I was just trying to clarify things, and she just went off on me, and it was of course unjustified.
Mme. Chaucer Posted November 22, 2011 Posted November 22, 2011 Personally, I don't believe in seeing a new guy or girl "as friends" if you're already in a relationship. I DO believe in having and maintaining friendships with the opposite sex - but to start going out "as friends" with a person who was / is trying to date you while you're romantically involved seems bogus. You AREN'T "friends." You are a person on the receiving end of romantic or sexual interest. I think it's undermining to your romance with the other person to try to develop a new "friendship" with someone who is interested in more.
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